By Michael Armijo

Terminal Uniqueness:  The belief that no one, anywhere, in any situation, has ever faced exactly what you are facing.  Nobody.

During a recent grief counseling session at my therapist’s office above a tavern, I learned about Terminal Uniqueness, and what that phrase means to me.

I think that at certain times in our lives, we believe that we are terminally unique.  It is usually associated with times of dramatic or traumatic change, when we feel totally alone, and that no one could possibly understand what we are going through.  We feel our particular situation is so different, that it has never even come up before.  Sure, there are similar circumstances, but nothing that would allow anyone to truly get what we are going through.

I have come to learn that when we are distraught, we feel isolated from everyone around us.  But in reality, we subconsciously choose to feel this way; depression tricks us into believing the lies that we are alone and no one will understand.

The key is to reach out to someone in an effort to keep away from the isolation and the sinking emotions that come with it.  You’ve got to keep reaching until you find someone that will listen, and encourage you to let your feelings out, and keep you moving forward.  The people that care for you are willing; you just have to allow them in.

So, as I sit outside in the sun, writing this down, I am reflecting on a tough week.  Sometimes, healing takes you through an exhaustive process – emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually.  I am repeating encouraging words and positive phrases over and over in my mind; I’m trying my best to smile and appreciate the sound of soothing music and a nice breeze…and I am feeling Terminally Unique.  Unique in my thoughts, emotions, and life experiences, but realizing I can be blissfully together as I reach out to others that are also feeling unique.  Together we can achieve a Happily Ever After.