Dear Dr. Danice:
I have been going to therapy for months to combat depression. I have chosen to keep this to myself. When friends come to my apartment uninvited, I don’t answer the door. I have also stopped returning phone calls. Talking to people and answering their questions is too hard for me while I work on my problems. I have only one friend who I feel good talking to. She says I should just admit my depression so that everyone understands me, but I think even more people would bother me.
You have the right to process your therapy and your emotions in your own way. You do not owe anyone an explanation about why you are operating in a standoffish way at this time, but this just keeps people checking in on you. If you have friends you truly love, maybe you would consider sending them an e-mail or text message. Let them know that you are working through some things and that you will not be in touch on a regular basis. Ask them to respect your need for privacy at this time. I think this is a polite social obligation given to people who care about you. Doing it once should be enough. I hope you will be feeling better soon.
Danice Akiyoshi, ND