Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

I have a friend who is very religious. She is always inviting me to events that center around her church. I went a few times, but I feel like I am under a microscope. They ask me a bunch of questions and I feel very nervous. My friend is the nicest person and I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but her church group is not for me. How should I tell her?

Maria in Covina

Dear Maria:

It’s considerate that you don’t want to hurt your friend’s feelings. Do you think she notices that you’re ill at ease when you are being questioned by her church friends? Hopefully she is just as considerate. Your dilemma is easy. Be honest. Tell her that you don’t feel enhanced by that particular experience, but that you enjoy doing lots of other things with her. Invite her to join you in something you both enjoy and then move on.

Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She has a great passion for alternative healing and has over 20 years of experience in this field. She provides a form of energy psychology called The Emotion Code, where she helps people literally get rid of their emotional baggage. She also offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.