By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

I recently had back surgery. I attend physical therapy three times a week. The facility is near my home and I am making progress. My wife wants me to change to a new facility because the therapist who works with me is an attractive redhead. She knows I like redheads, and she is jealous. I don’t feel I should have to do this just because she is insecure.

-Al

Dear Al:

I agree that your wife is insecure, but I’d like to know why? If you’ve ever given her a reason to doubt you, then this is the result. If her insecurities are unfounded, then that’s a different type of difficulty. Either way, you need to address the problem; it won’t disappear on its own. Seek a coach or therapist to assist you. When trust issues arise, there is usually an issue that has never been dealt with properly, and I’ll bet you know exactly what that is.  If you don’t, I’m almost certain you can get your wife to fill you in. Good luck.  Thanks for writing.

-Danice Akiyoshi, ND

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.