Nancy Stoops and Midnight

By Nancy Stoops

People love to blame others for their failures or for why they haven’t become who they were intended to be.  We do this so we don’t have to accept responsibility for getting in our own way.  It’s much easier to convince ourselves that somebody else is to blame for our failures, rather than looking inward.

There is usually a reason we get in our own way.  Sometimes we get comfortable in our misery or in our failure to change.  I think there is some amount of fear that comes with change.  I think there are those that are afraid of success, because it comes with a certain amount of expectation.  For me, staying stuck is much more fearful.

I think about someone having so much potential, but never seeing that or becoming who they were intended to be.  You need to take a look at why you keep getting in your own way.  Do you fear change?  Do you fear success?  Do you fear becoming who you were intended to be?  Maybe you just don’t feel like you deserve anything more than you already have.  Whatever the reason is, you need to get out of your own way and stop preventing the good from coming.

You need to tear down the road blocks you have put up and begin to understand just how wonderful you are and how amazing life could be.  We all have the potential to be who we are intended to be.  The trick is to stop fighting with ourselves and give ourselves permission to overcome our obstacles and find our true selves.

What a beautiful world this would be if everybody would allow themselves to be who they are intended to be.

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T.  Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients; she is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members.  Nancy runs free family support groups, including a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger. For more information about any of these services feel free to contact her at (909) 229-0727, or via email at nancyjstoops@verizon.net.  Nancy’s books, “Midnight the Therapy Dog,” and “Live, Heal and Grow,” are available at Amazon.com.