Danice Akiyoshi

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

A Letter From Ross

Q:  When I was going through my divorce two years ago, my neighbor was very supportive.  She listened to my concerns and offered good advice that helped me a lot.  When I was suffering in the beginning, she even brought meals to my house.  She was the nicest friend I had at the time.  Now I’m having problems in my new relationship and I’ve tried to get together with her so I can get some advice. She always seems to be in a hurry and is not interested in talking in the driveway when she comes home from work.  She used to invite me in, but I haven’t had that invitation in months.  I really need to talk to her. She already knows me and my problems and I can’t afford counseling.  How can I get her attention?

A:  Just because your neighbor is a good soul does not mean that she owes you her time or thinking skills.  For whatever reason, it sounds like she has zero interest in getting involved in your problems again. Be grateful that she was once there for you and move on.  You are not entitled to her time just because you catch her in the driveway when she comes home from work, either.  Reconsider your stand on professional coaching or counseling.  You need help seeing the big picture.  Wish you well, Ross.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.