A Letter From Jason

Danice Akiyoshi

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Q:  My best friend is in a relationship with a woman who seems to be controlling every move he makes.  Even his opinions on worldly matters have drastically changed to match hers.  He looks unhappy, but he never complains.  I hate seeing him this way so I don’t socialize much with them anymore.  I can tell my friend is hurt and puzzled when we see each other at business events.  Should I be honest about my feelings?

A:  Yes, be honest.  Tell him your concerns.  Make sure he knows he can count on you in times of crisis, but that you’re not interested in casually socializing with them as a couple.  Do not put her down in any way; this is unnecessary.  Be clear that you would like to see him whenever he can break away. Do your best to keep in touch and try to show up for his major life events.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her atstraighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.