Danice Akiyoshi

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

A Letter From Loretta:

Q:  I just found out that my 38-year-old son is planning to move in with me.  He is in the middle of a divorce and apparently things are getting desperate for him financially because of attorney fees.  I heard this through the family grapevine.  I am a widow and I’ve lived alone for three years.  I don’t want a roommate at this stage of my life.  I would be more willing to loan him the money for his attorney fees.  My brother-in-law says this is cold hearted of me.  I love my son, but want a peaceful home.

A:  If living alone feels best to you, you should be honest about your preference. Living with someone is a big deal. Family grapevines are not always accurate, but if your son does approach you to pitch this arrangement, you should definitely express the ways you’re willing to help him while at the same time explaining that living as roommates does not work for you.  It is quite generous of you to offer financial support during this difficult time in his life.  You can offer emotional support in many different ways as well. Good luck!

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.