My nephew asked me not to bring food – A letter from Confused Auntie Anne

Danice Akiyoshi

By Danice Akiyoshi ND

Q: My nephew and his wife just had a baby.  It is our tradition to deliver meals on a regular basis for the first two months to help the couple because they are tired.  I’m very busy, but I’ve been taking meals twice a week and so has his mom.  Last weekend, my nephew told me not to bring any more food because his wife’s family is bringing food that she prefers.  I know that my nephew loves these dishes I’ve been cooking.  I have gone out of my way to cook all of his favorite meals.  This disappoints me.

A: I think that your nephew has made a decision to avoid conflict with his wife.  The fact that he has disappointed you is probably low on his list of things he chooses to worry about during this trying time.  You know in your heart that you followed your kind and generous traditions.  If the traditions are not appreciated by your nephew and his wife, so be it.  Put your kindness and generosity where it is appreciated.  I know many people who would appreciate a caring and devoted aunt like you.  I am one of those people.  Take care.