Straight Talk With Danice

Danice Akiyoshi

Danice Akiyoshi

Dear Danice Akiyoshi ND
My friends and I go out for dinner at the same restaurant every month. We take turns paying the check. Three months ago the friend who was to pay that time got in a bind because the expiration date on her credit card had expired. She asked me if I would cover her and I said no problem. She never took care of it so I waited until the next dinner and she never brought it up. I’m not sure what to do now. I don’t want to sound petty or desperate, but it was $140.00. Can you give me any ideas how to collect without sounding bad? I’m nervous because I don’t like to upset anyone.

A.W.

Dear A. W.
You obviously shy away from conflict. Do yourself a gigantic favor and get some guidance in this area. It will go a long way in making your future easier to manage. In the meantime, I will respect that you are not keen on confrontation. My idea is to wait until it’s your turn to pay. Send the friend who owes you the money a text message or e mail in advance reminding her that you covered her when it was her turn to pay and that your turn is coming up so she can return the favor and cover you. In a polite way remind her to have a valid credit card and to confirm that she received your message and agrees with your request.. Good luck with that, but please seek assistance with your fear of conflict and confrontation. This is extremely important.

Take Care,
Danice Akiyoshi