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Feeling Very Thankful Every Day

By Nancy Stoops

My last Thanksgiving was about as great as a Thanksgiving can be. I was surrounded by the people I love the most. The day was spent telling stories, eating great food, laughing and enjoying each other.

We had four generations of life celebrating with us. My grandchildren really made the celebration special and always make me feel so blessed. I sat and marveled at the wonderful man that my son has grown into. And my wonderful mother; I was so happy and thankful that my mom was still alive to help us celebrate another wonderful family holiday.

I have always loved Thanksgiving, but I need people to realize we should feel thankful each and every day of our lives.

The morning after Thanksgiving, Midnight and I went for our daily run. The air was so very crisp and clean, and the music on my MP3 player delighted every fiber of my being. Every once in awhile during the run Midnight would look up at me with such gratitude and joy, and I would pat his head and tell him what a good dog he is and how much I love him. It was literally a perfect morning and I felt so alive and filled with such thankfulness.

I think we need to work on really appreciating what we have and how very blessed we truly are. Take this holiday season slow and savor each and every moment.

As you start to think about New Year’s resolutions, think about making them about being thankful every day, not just one day a year. Think about all that is so very right about your life. Take just a few minutes as you read this article to realize how very blessed you are and that every day is a new chance to start over and to appreciate all the good.

I hope to see more and more people hopeful and thankful for the very rare and wonderful journey we call life.

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members. She runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger. For more information about any of these services, feel free to contact Nancy at (909) 229-0727; or you may e-mail her at stoopsshecter@earthlink.net. You may purchase Nancy’s books, Live Heal and Grow and Midnight the Therapy Dog at Amazon.com.

Depression and the Holidays

BY NANCY STOOPS

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Did you know that suicide rates are among the highest during the holidays? This may sound very strange to some of you, but it is true. Believe it or not, this isn’t a wonderful time of year for everybody. I remember as a little girl wondering how anybody could be sad at this time of year. Now that I’m grown up and work as a therapist, I understand this concept much better.

The holidays seem to make us vulnerable and open our eyes to things that are painful for us. This time of year, we seem to become very sentimental and want to be close to our family and friends. This is a great idea in theory, but what if you have alienated them or maybe they have passed away. This could make your holiday feel like a very lonely time. It makes it worse when you see other families and friends gather together.

Are you feeling without purpose this holiday season?   This may be the cause of your depression this time of year. There are many places you could go and donate some time. There are many people that are sick or just plain less fortunate than we are. You could really make a difference for an individual, a family, or an animal – and fight off the depression as well.

Whatever may be causing your depression during this holiday season, decide to do something about it. This year, don’t sit around and feel sorry for yourself, life is just too short. Call an old friend, make up with a family member, help the less fortunate, or whatever else it takes to get through this holiday. My point is, learn to help yourself, and you will give yourself the greatest gift you have ever received.

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members. She runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger. For more information about any of these services, feel free to contact Nancy at (909) 229-0727; or you may e-mail her at stoopsshecter@earthlink.net. You may purchase Nancy’s books, Live Heal and Grow and Midnight the Therapy Dog at Amazon.com.

 

 

Travelling the World

By Nancy Stoops

 

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Ever since I was a very small girl, I always knew that I wanted to travel around the entire world.

It really all began when I was 17. I had graduated high school a semester early and then spent three months in Europe. At that point I became addicted to wanting to see the entire world.

Now, I have just two more continents to go. The plan is to see Australia this year and then, as I turn 60, go to Antarctica. I know I will always continue to travel, even though very soon I will have literally made it all around the world.

There are many ways to learn and I have experienced most of them. Travel is a very unique way to learn because you literally become part of what you are learning. There is no better way to understand a country or its culture than to become immersed in it.

I have gotten to know people from so many different walks of life, and have received blessings from a holy person within each of these cultures. I have also been part of many wonderful ceremonies and traditions, one of which involved dancing with goats in a Peruvian village. I will never forget my African Chief, my Thailand monk, all my shamans, and all the other wonder spiritual beings that I spent time with while being blessed. It has been my honor!

I also make sure that each journey comes with a close-up wild life experience. I have walked, fed and swum with 450 pound tigers. I have trained elephants, and swum with sea lions, sharks, and mantas. I have held the head of a cheetah in my lap for a petting session. This year I want to hold a koala and feed kangaroos. I love my life, and travelling really enriches it.

 

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members. She runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger. For more information about any of these services, feel free to contact Nancy at (909) 229-0727; or you may e-mail her at stoopsshecter@earthlink.net. You may purchase Nancy’s books, Live Heal and Grow and Midnight the Therapy Dog at Amazon.com.

 

Straight Talk With Danice

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

 

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

Six of my neighbors have season tickets to watch a professional sports team that is almost an hour away. They always invite me because I have a large vehicle and I’m willing to be the designated driver. My boyfriend says they are just using me and that they would have nothing to do with me if I didn’t drive them. I really have a good time with my neighbors and I never feel used. It’s not a sacrifice for me because I don’t like alcohol. I wonder if he is mad because there is only one spare ticket and he can never join us. What do you think?

-Suzanna

 

Dear Suzanna:

It sounds to me like your boyfriend is negative. Why does he think that your neighbors would “have nothing to do with you?” Is he insinuating that you are flawed in some way, and only have value because of your vehicle and driving abilities? If you are enjoying yourself, then there is no problem here. If your boyfriend is often negative to the point where he tears you down, you won’t be able to remain emotionally healthy in his company. Look at this closely. Good Luck.

-Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

 

 

Celebrating the Simple Things

BY NANCY STOOPS

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

I believe that each day we have the honor of being alive is call for celebration. Every morning as I awaken and see the sun rising and filling the sky with majestic colors, I am reminded of how lucky we are.As I step out in the morning with Midnight, my therapy dog, I feel blessed for his friendship and for the health that we both have. As we start our walk through our wonderful community, I am proud to be part of it and I enjoy the morning song of the birds around us. As we walk, I enjoy the trees and flowers that represent life in the neighborhood.

Midnight and I are greeted by the other daily walkers with a friendly smile and warm hello. It’s so nice to be part of such a wonderful neighborhood filled with such lovely people.

Sometimes the other dogs will visit with Midnight as we make our way through our neighborhood, and that makes Midnight a very happy soul.

I think the feeling of the sun on my face is just magical. The fragrant plants and flowers are intoxicating and so very delightful. Swimming or floating in water has always been very freeing for me. Laughter truly is the best medicine and I think we all could do a lot more of it. Looking up at a night sky filled with stars and a full moon can be an experience that provides a wonderful kind of solace. Just hanging out with my grandson is fabulous.

These simple things I speak of don’t cost any money, but are literally priceless. I think if we all take time to appreciate the simple things that are so wonderful in our world, we will be more positive. I think we will not dwell so much on what is wrong, but focus on what is right!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Diamond Bar, and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy also runs free family support groups, anger management groups, and special groups for seniors and teens. She is also available for motivational speaking engagements. For more information on any of these services, contact Nancy at (909)229-0727.