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Depression

BY NANCY STOOPS

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Do you seem to be always sleeping or not able to sleep at all? Are you eating everything in sight or suffer from no appetite at all. Have you lost pleasure in doing the things that once made you so happy? Are you unable to focus and concentrate? If you are able to answer yes to the questions above, you may be suffering from some type of depression.

Depression comes in many forms. Dysthymic Disorder is a very mild form of depression. People suffering from this are very functional but just don’t feel happy. People suffering from severe depression aren’t very functional and need to be treated. Severe depression can lead to suicide and must be taken seriously.

Bipolar Disorder involves a cycle of very manic moods and then a fall into a very severe depression. Many times the mania is accompanied by severe spending or some other risk taking behavior. People suffering from Bipolar Disorder need to be on medication. There are subtypes within these main categories that I won’t expand upon.

Depression comes from a lack of serotonins, a chemical produced in the brain. Many people choose to take a pill that will put the serotonins you are lacking back into your body. Exercise is also a great way to increase your body’s serotonins and to do it in a natural way. Many of my clients are asked to keep a daily feelings journal as a way to help combat their depression as well.

Don’t let your depression or the depression of a loved one become a way of life. Everybody should be able to feel joy, and depression stops us from doing that. Take the time to journal, exercise and possibly get some professional help so you can feel the joy in your life.

This article was written by Nancy Stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups for teens. For more information about any of these services feel free to page her at (626) 935-3818. You may also email her at stoopsshecter@earthlink.net. Nancy’s book, “Live, Heal and Grow” is available for purchase at http://www.RoseDogBookstore.com or Amazon.com

Inland Empire: Crash Victim and Teen Raise Awareness for Teenage Depression

BY TIANA GOEGEBUER

In a story of forgiveness and partnership, the victim of a violent car crash has united with the teen that crashed into him. Together, they are working to help other teens who are battling depression.

In 2012, Inland Empire teenager, Luke Maxwell, drove a van head-on into an oncoming vehicle in Temecula. The crash was not an accident. Maxwell, who was 16 at the time, was attempting to commit suicide. He had been silently suffering from severe depression for years, and had decided that he was “done with life” when he woke up that morning. Following the crash, the teen was hospitalized and charged with assault with a deadly weapon.

Lenny Ross, 53, was the driver of the vehicle Maxwell crashed into. Surprisingly, he was not angry with the teen. After finding out that Maxwell was only 16 and that he had been trying to commit suicide, Ross said that his heart really went out to the boy.

Not long after the crash, the two men met face to face in a coffee shop. According to Maxwell, the first thing he did was give Ross a big hug and say that he was so sorry. The teenager immediately felt the compassion Ross felt for him, and knew that Ross did not want to hurt him, but help him to heal. That feeling of forgiveness and acceptance was significant in Maxwell’s recovery.

Together, Ross and Maxwell have a new mission in life: to raise awareness for teenage depression and help those who are battling it. Maxwell has now posted videos about teenage depression, and maintains a blog. He says that he knows he made a huge mistake, but that he is trying to make the best out of it by helping others.

Maxwell’s teen depression support group meets the first Saturday of each month (except the July 4th weekend) at 10 a.m., St. Martha Catholic Church, 37200 Whitewood Road, in Murrieta. The group is open to all teens 13 to 17 years of age who are struggling with depression, self-harm, and related issues.