Straight Talk With Danice

Danice Akiyoshi

Danice Akiyoshi

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.


A Letter From Ali

Q:  My husband was not invited to walk his daughter down the aisle at her wedding.  She chose a close family friend instead.  My husband and his ex-wife had a horrible relationship, which made it impossible for him to have a decent relationship with his daughter.  He is very down on himself and feeling depressed.  I don’t know how to help him.  Any suggestions would be appreciated.

A:  Maybe your husband’s ex-wife was able to influence his daughter when she was a child, but most women who are getting married are adults.  Certainly he had access to his young adult daughter without the influence of her mother.   In my experience, no one can keep a good parent away from their child (especially an adult child).  If the bride is not interested in a relationship with her father, he should do his best to find out why.  Everyone is an adult now.  Try for a fresh start when they return from their honeymoon.  Do not add any additional stress to their lives before the wedding.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her You can also visit her website at