By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.
A Letter From Nora:
Q: My older sister accompanied me on a business trip to Las Vegas last year. I invited her as my guest because she doesn’t get out much and I wanted to see her have a little fun. On the first night she lost most of her money and consumed too much alcohol to the point of embarrassing me in front of my co-workers. I never said anything about how uncomfortable I was. Our annual trip is coming up again and she just assumes that I’m taking her again, but I don’t want a repeat of last year. I don’t know how to tell her that I’d rather take someone else. She is very sensitive and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Thank you.
A: Unfortunately, your sister is a social rookie. Maybe she is just a lovable light weight who gets goofy when she drinks too much once in a while, or maybe she is a true social liability. Be honest with her and explain that based on last year’s performance, she isn’t a suitable fit as your companion on a business outing, but you’ll keep her on the guest list for your next house party. Enjoy!
Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.