Straight Talk With Danice

Danice Akiyoshi

Danice Akiyoshi

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.


A Letter from K. Lee:

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi,

I am 28 years old and live with my parents. My problem is that my parents are mean to me. When I’m not doing things their way they put me down. They say I am over weight, or that I shouldn’t go out with my friends because my face is having a break out, or that my girlfriend really doesn’t care about me and she’s just using me. I wish I could move out, but we all work together at the same company and we carpool which saves me a lot of money. I’m getting depressed. Help.

-K. Lee


Hi K. Lee,

When people make comments to make you feel off balance or injure your self esteem, they are attempting to manipulate you. Usually they have an agenda and are trying to direct you in a way that gives them their desired outcome at the expense of your own happiness. You are in a dangerous situation where your emotional health is concerned and you need to discuss this with your parents. If they are not responsive, please consider personal coaching so you can build your own sense of personal power and better manage personal conflicts. There are plenty of other roommates who are willing to share expenses without chipping away at your well being.  At the age of 28 you should have the developmental skills to restructure your life and still maintain decent family relations. If you are emotionally immature and afraid to face adult living, please get some assistance. You will feel so much better being in control of your own life.   Good Luck.

-Danice Akiyoshi N.D.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at You can also visit her website at