Our Internal Dialogue

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

By Nancy Stoops

We all have a dialogue that lives within us.  It tells us how we feel about ourselves.  It can make us fly or it can literally paralyze us.  Our internal dialogue usually is created in our childhood and it comes from how we feel we are perceived by others, especially our parents.  We learn at a very young age to love ourselves or to hate ourselves.  We adopt a belief system about who we are and about whether we deserve life’s best or whether we deserve nothing good at all.  This belief system can literally create a successful human being or a human being that is always failing.

It is possible to change your internal dialogue if it is destructive.  I think it starts by writing down all of the lies that you live by and correcting them by writing down the truth for every lie.  It sounds so very simple but it is hard work to be so very brutally honest with ourselves.  The alternative is being paralyzed and never having the life you were intended to have or never becoming who God intends you to be.  The alternative is being cheated of all the wonderful that this life does have to offer.

I believe we owe it to ourselves to right the wrong; to correct the irrational belief system that haunts us and steals our joy and hope.  I believe everybody deserves to be who God intends them to be.  Every being has the right to be his or her very best.  How dare we allow anything else for ourselves?  Make today the day that you start to change that internal dialogue.  Make today the day you start to settle for nothing but the best for yourself.  Today become your child’s most effective model for well being and success!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T.  Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients; she is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members.  Nancy runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger.    For more information about any of these services, feel free to page her at (909229-0727.  You may e-mail Nancy at nancyjstoops@verizon.net. You may purchase Nancy’s books Live Heal and Grow and Midnight the Therapy Dog at Amazon.com.