Straight Talk With Danice

Danice Akiyoshi

Danice Akiyoshi

Dear Danice Akiyoshi,

My teenage son (13) thinks he doesn’t need to shower because he goes swimming in the pool.  He will go three or four days without taking a shower and it’s getting pretty bad.  Everything I say goes in one ear and out the other.  Do you have any suggestions?  I’m getting desperate.

M. R.


Hi  M. R.

Your complaint is very common.  Kids in this age group quite often don’t want to be bothered with things like personal hygiene.  Thankfully that doesn’t last forever in most cases.  My idea would be to explain to your son that chlorine is a chemical that isn’t overly friendly to skin and hair and really should be rinsed off with soap and shampoo after he’s enjoyed the pool.  If he still ignores you, be straight with him and tell him that you have no interest in living with someone who never smells fresh or clean.  Explain that you have basic standards for the family home and you expect every family member to respect those standards in order for everyone to enjoy a harmonious experience.

Good Luck,

Danice Akiyoshi

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@ You can also visit her website at

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