Being an Original

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

By Nancy Stoops

I have always been different from others and have needed to do things my way.  I always knew that I would need a lot of education so that I’d be able to work for myself and make a great living.  I have always been a leader and never have done much following.

I know many people that just want to be accepted and so they conform to the way of others.  These are the same people that give into the ways of peer pressure.  The truth is, friends don’t make us do things that are bad for us if they are a real friend.  For me, it’s the people that are unique and don’t want to be like everybody else, that I’m attracted to.  Many people are afraid to be who they really are because they may be rejected by others.  I think we need to be ourselves and find others that will accept us for who we truly are, not who they want us to be.

It’s perfectly okay not to follow the crowd and wanting to be an individual.  Learn to love yourself for all the things that make you unique, as well as the same as others.  Learn that it’s really cool to have special qualities and those unique qualities make you a shining star not a freak.  It’s very easy to be like the masses but it takes courage to be an original.  We all are born into different families and have many different life experiences

that also influence who we are.

Learn to take pride in the very wonderful and original you.  Stop trying to be something that you’re not just to fit in.  Start finding friends that appreciate the true and unique you.  Remember being an original is a gift to be cherished!!!!!!!!!!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T.  Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients; she is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members.  Nancy runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger.    For more information about any of these services feel free to contact her at (909)229-0727.  You may e-mail Nancy at  You may purchase Nancy’s books Live Heal and Grow and Midnight the Therapy Dog at