Freeing Oneself

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

By Nancy Stoops

Do you find yourself chasing your tail or taking one step forward and two backwards?  Do you seem to be living life if a very circular pattern?  What would need to happen to get you and to keep you moving forward?

We all have left over stuff that truly seems to become part of us.  It’s the stuff from our childhood or from a tragedy we experienced.  It’s the stuff that stops us dead in our tracks and spills over into all the other areas of our lives.

Now that a new year has begun make a commitment to start getting some help.  Find a therapist or a support group and really start working on your issues.  Think about how much healthier you could be by the end of the year if you started now.  Getting rid of the issues that stop you from being all you could be, is the best thing you could do for yourself.  It truly is the most precious gift one can ever give themselves.

Picture yourself free from the issues that once bound you and got in the way of the life you want.  Now think about why you haven’t started on your journey to freedom and to having a life and self that you have only dreamt of.  Are you afraid of what might be uncovered or do you dread the energy that needs to be put forth?  Now for a moment, think about how frightening it is thinking about never being free of all of it and never having the life that you deserve. For me, that’s even more frightening! I have faith in you and know you can and will do this.  I wish you well on getting your wings and on letting go of what keeps you from soaring high!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T.  Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients; she is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members.  Nancy runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger.    For more information about any of these services feel free to contact her at (909)229-0727.  You may e-mail Nancy at You may purchase Nancy’s books Live Heal and Grow and Midnight the therapy dog on