It’s Not The Clothes

By Melody Kraemer
The other day someone asked a question. Their young child wanted to start dressing themselves. It wasn’t the style of what mama wanted, but it was what the child wanted. It was so mixed and matched, stripes, polka dots, prints and all. The question was, Do I let my child go out like this? Or do I deal with her being upset and change her to what I want her to wear?
Yes, as parents, we are responsible for caring for our child’s spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being. So you have to ask yourself, is there harm in letting my child go out like this?
This past weekend I took my son out. Over time, we have progressed with autism, and he can communicate a little. I said we were leaving, and he insisted on wearing his pajamas—a one-piece fuzzy reindeer pajamas with a hoodie and all with ears. I took a deep breath and said, let’s go. He felt comfortable and didn’t have a care in the world. Now, if he were off to school, I would have had him choose differently, but we were headed out for a family afternoon. As we were in the car, I looked over at him, he was bouncy, flapping, making noise a bit, and I smiled. It wasn’t the clothes that made him; it was his heart.
Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
It’s not the clothes that make the child. It is his inner spirit that is most important.
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