Getting Out Of Our Own Way

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist
Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

By Nancy Stoops

People love to blame others for their failures or for why they haven’t become who they were intended to be. We do this so we don’t have to accept responsibility for getting in the way of ourselves. It’s much easier to convince ourselves that somebody else is to blame for our failures, rather than looking at ourselves.

There is usually a reason we get in our own way. Sometimes we get comfortable in our misery or in our failures to change. I think there is some amount of fear that comes with change. I think there are those that are afraid of success, because it comes with a certain amount of expectations. For me, staying stuck is much more fearful. I think about a human being having so much potential but never seeing that or never becoming who they were intended to be.

You need to take a look at why you keep getting in your own way. Do you fear change? Do you fear success? Do you fear becoming who you were intended to be? Maybe you just don’t feel like you deserve anything more than you already have. Whatever the reason is, you need to get out of your way and stop preventing the good from coming.

You need to tear down the road blocks you have put up and begin to understand just how wonderful you are and how amazing life could be. We all have the potential to be who we are intended to be. The trick is to stop fighting with ourselves and give ourselves permission to overcome our obstacles and to find our true selves. I think what a beautiful world this would be if everybody would allow themselves to be who they are intended to be!!!!!!!!!!!!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients; she is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members. Nancy runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger. For more information about any of these services feel free to contact her at (909) 229-0727. You may e-mail Nancy at You may purchase Nancy’s latest book Live, Heal and grow at