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Travelling the World

By Nancy Stoops

 

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Ever since I was a very small girl, I always knew that I wanted to travel around the entire world.

It really all began when I was 17. I had graduated high school a semester early and then spent three months in Europe. At that point I became addicted to wanting to see the entire world.

Now, I have just two more continents to go. The plan is to see Australia this year and then, as I turn 60, go to Antarctica. I know I will always continue to travel, even though very soon I will have literally made it all around the world.

There are many ways to learn and I have experienced most of them. Travel is a very unique way to learn because you literally become part of what you are learning. There is no better way to understand a country or its culture than to become immersed in it.

I have gotten to know people from so many different walks of life, and have received blessings from a holy person within each of these cultures. I have also been part of many wonderful ceremonies and traditions, one of which involved dancing with goats in a Peruvian village. I will never forget my African Chief, my Thailand monk, all my shamans, and all the other wonder spiritual beings that I spent time with while being blessed. It has been my honor!

I also make sure that each journey comes with a close-up wild life experience. I have walked, fed and swum with 450 pound tigers. I have trained elephants, and swum with sea lions, sharks, and mantas. I have held the head of a cheetah in my lap for a petting session. This year I want to hold a koala and feed kangaroos. I love my life, and travelling really enriches it.

 

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members. She runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger. For more information about any of these services, feel free to contact Nancy at (909) 229-0727; or you may e-mail her at stoopsshecter@earthlink.net. You may purchase Nancy’s books, Live Heal and Grow and Midnight the Therapy Dog at Amazon.com.

 

Proud of Myself

By Michael Armijo

 

I remember closing my eyes, trying my hardest to embrace the way I felt. I wanted to burn into my memory the feeling of enchantment that overwhelmed me. I wanted the way I felt that evening to last a lifetime.

It wasn’t just dinner and cocktails with some co-workers. It wasn’t just a significant evening for someone special, a celebration of achievement. The evening meant more to me than it did to the person being honored. It was an evening in which I was proud to be included.

With my wife in my arms, I memorized the melody of the song as we slowly moved over the shiny, wooden dance floor. A glance out of the window provided a beautiful view of the city. A look around the room at people I respected and admired filled me with tremendous pride. I will never forget how it felt to be present and included that night.

When I tried to recall the last time I felt this way, it took me back to the 7th Grade. I remember failing all my classes and my teacher, Miss Contreras, helped to change my perspective. She told me that I deserved to be number one; that I deserved to be the best and to feel proud of myself. What she said worked, because I found the path that led me to becoming Student of the Year, along with top grades and a place on the honor roll.

Unfortunately, that feeling was taken from me. Abuse and neglect took those happy moments from my life and traded them for sadness and pain.

Over the years I’ve worked hard to overcome those hard times and make a positive difference in the lives around me. Just as Miss Contreras did for me, I’ve tried to help people find their own path to personal worth, encouraging people to live the life of an achiever; showing people that it can be done.

Because of who I was and where I’ve been, helping others and making a positive contribution has aways meant so much to me. I’ve always dreamed of feeling the satisfaction of making a difference – without conditions or ulterior motives. I’ve waited for the day that I knew my accomplishments were worthy of my intentions.

And that evening – an evening I will forever hold dear in my heart – I stood there with peers of mine whom I respected, with the woman I’ve loved for nearly 30 years, and I felt proud of my life. With a tear in my eye, I realized I have made a difference in the lives around me.

And just as I felt when I won that 7th Grade Student of the Year award, I had earned a feeling that no one could ever take from me. I found the path to fulfillment for what I’ve done with my life, and realized it was okay to feel proud of myself.

 

Straight Talk With Danice

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

 

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

Six of my neighbors have season tickets to watch a professional sports team that is almost an hour away. They always invite me because I have a large vehicle and I’m willing to be the designated driver. My boyfriend says they are just using me and that they would have nothing to do with me if I didn’t drive them. I really have a good time with my neighbors and I never feel used. It’s not a sacrifice for me because I don’t like alcohol. I wonder if he is mad because there is only one spare ticket and he can never join us. What do you think?

-Suzanna

 

Dear Suzanna:

It sounds to me like your boyfriend is negative. Why does he think that your neighbors would “have nothing to do with you?” Is he insinuating that you are flawed in some way, and only have value because of your vehicle and driving abilities? If you are enjoying yourself, then there is no problem here. If your boyfriend is often negative to the point where he tears you down, you won’t be able to remain emotionally healthy in his company. Look at this closely. Good Luck.

-Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

 

 

Honoring An Old Friend

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

My brother and I have both served as church pastors for almost 40 years.  Two men greatly influenced our lives during our high school and college years that led both of us to go into full-time ministry.

One of those men was Dr. Jim Borror.  Jim was the first pastor of Scottsdale Bible Church in Scottsdale, Arizona in the 1960s.  He was a remarkable Bible teacher with his doctorate degree from Dallas Theological Seminary.

Jim was a young pastor, husband and father with lots of energy.  He spent a lot of time with the teens and young twenty-year olds in our church.  He led us on hikes into the Grand Canyon.  He played football and softball with us.  He took us camping in the beautiful pine-covered mountains of Arizona. We loved to be around him.

Dr. Borror was also an excellent Bible teacher and theologian.  He modeled a love for the Bible and taught us lessons from the Word that still stick in the back of our minds today.

Jim was also a good shepherd and cared for people in our church.  His wife, Norma, became close friends with our mother; and Jim’s thoughtful and insightful Bible teachings touched the heart and mind of our father.

Recently, my brother and I were invited to speak at Jim’s retirement dinner here in Southern California.  We enjoyed sharing stories and pictures about Jim and his wife Norma from those days 40 years ago at Scottsdale Bible Church.

It was a privilege to get to honor this remarkable man.  We will never be able to fully express how thankful we are for the encouragement and influence Dr. Borror had in both of our lives and our own families.

In first Timothy 5:17, the Apostle Paul said, “Let the leaders who serve well be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who work hard at preaching and teaching.”  I’m thankful that we were able to honor our dear friend and former pastor, Jim Borror.

I wonder if there is someone who greatly influenced your life and career.  Maybe a teacher, a coach, a counselor, or pastor encouraged you in your formative years.  Have you taken time to honor them and express your thanks?

Let me encourage you to take time this week to send a card or note to one of the people that impacted your life in the past.  Use this opportunity to express your thanks and appreciation for how they touched your life.  Don’t wait.  Do it this week.  You will be glad you did, and they will be, too!

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

 

Midnight, The Therapy Dog

BY NANCY STOOPS

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Midnight’s amazing story is now available at amazon.com. My new book, Midnight, the Therapy Dog, will make you laugh and cry and delight your soul. The book is a beautifully illustrated story about how Midnight loses his family and himself for a while. My friend, April Cruz, a brilliant artist, did the illustrations for this book.

Midnight never gave up and one day he was rescued by me. At 2-years of age, Midnight tested with me and we became a registered pet therapy team. Midnight is now 7-years old, and he has literally made thousands of people feel better.

Besides working in my practice, Midnight also visits St. Jude’s Hospital and the cancer center in Fullerton. He even has his own I.D. badge with his picture on it. Midnight also helps me at both of my support groups.

Midnight’s story will inspire you to help animals in need and to never give up. This book talks about being a broken spirit, and with love and care, growing into a being that helps others.

I am so very proud of Midnight and honored to be able to work with him. This book is truly my tribute to him and to all the other wonderful animals that get rescued, and to the wonderful people that rescue them. If you are looking for a pet, rescue animals make the best ones. Midnight is an example of what a rescue animal can become with the proper training and lots of love and care. Go online or go to the humane society and rescue a pet; I bet they will rescue you as well.

With the holidays so near, this book would make a great present for anybody. Please go to Amazon and look at this beautiful book.

This article was written by Nancy Stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Diamond Bar. She is now accepting new clients. Nancy also works as a motivational speaker, and she provides free family support groups, including sessions for seniors and teens. She can also handle many court-mandated needs. Nancy and Midnight, her therapy dog, can be reached at (909) 229-0727, or via email at stoopsshecter@earthlink.net. Nancy’s book, “Live, Heal and Grow,” is available at Amazon.com.

Conspiracy Or Complacency?

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

I know a lot of people are convinced that there are secret government conspiracies under every rock and behind every bush.  I haven’t gone quite that far, but I did stumble upon something that made me stop and wonder a little.

I went to the local grocery store the other day to pick up some milk and orange juice.  These are part of breakfast at our house and we need to resupply from time to time. We usually buy these in larger quantities at an unnamed “big box” store, but this time I made a quick stop at our local super market.  The milk was in its usual half-gallon plastic carton.   But, when I picked up the carton of orange juice I happened to notice that it was not actually a half-gallon.  It was only 59 ounces, not the full half-gallon 64 ounces.

Now you may think that this is not a big deal. What is the difference between 59 ounces and the half-gallon 64 ounces?  The carton looked the same.  The orange juice tasted the same.  What are a few ounces between friends?

Apparently this “down-sizing” is happening more than we realize in the grocery business. Several years ago, the ice cream makers reduced the size of a carton of ice cream from a half-gallon to “1.5 quarts”.  A half-gallon is two quarts.  They reduced the contents by 25%, but kept the price the same.

I like ice cream, so I have kept buying it at the grocery store.  But, I don’t like the way that the manufacturers are charging the same price (or higher) for a smaller amount of product.

This may be happening on other shelves in the grocery store.  Have candy bars gotten smaller?  Have bags of flour been reduced in size?  Have shampoo bottles shrunk?

Apparently the food and grocery industry thinks it is smarter to reduce the size and volume of their products rather than increase their prices.  They must believe that consumers won’t notice the down-sizing and stop buying their products.

I may be the only one who has noticed this “sleight of hand” at the grocery store.  Maybe it isn’t a big deal.  But I think it would be more accurate and more honest if the stores and their suppliers would keep sizes and prices consistent so that shoppers and consumers can know what we are really paying for their products.

Maybe it is time to launch a boycott of orange juice and ice cream to let the manufactures know that we don’t like this sleight of hand.  Or, maybe it is time to write a letter to the stores that are stocking their shelves with smaller quantities and higher prices.

Maybe we should write to our local Congressman and ask for a Congressional investigation!  Or maybe we should just enjoy our ice cream and orange juice and realize things just aren’t what they used to be.

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

 

 

Did You Know?

BY K.P. SANDER

bloodyskeletonHalloween, or All Hallows Eve, is a day of celebration for many countries, held on October 31 each year and dedicated to remembering the dearly departed. While many honor it at face value, it is more commonly known as an opportunity for children to don costumes and collect candy.

Interestingly enough, trick-or-treating has an origin that dates far back into history.

William Shakespeare spoke of it in The Two Gentlemen of Verona in 1593, in a passage that mentions ‘whimpering like a beggar at Hallowmas’. Great Britain records the custom of poor people going door to door to receive food in exchange for saying prayers for the dead, called “Souling”. “Guising,” or visiting homes masquerading in disguise to be rewarded with cakes, fruit or money, was a Scottish tradition as far back as 1895. Similar guising in North America is first noted in 1911, when Ontario, Canada reported children masquerading throughout neighborhoods.

Nowadays, typical activities include the popular trick-or-treating, carving pumpkins into jack-o’-lanterns, visiting haunted house attractions, attending parties, and watching scary movies. In many parts of the world, Christian religious observances still include attending church service and lighting candles on the graves of the dead.

Whatever your tradition, enjoy a Happy Halloween!

San Gabriel Valley: Community Events

Staff Reports

 

UPCOMING EVENTS:

 

“A Family Reunion To Die For”

When: Saturday, Oct. 25; Saturday, Nov. 1; Dinner 6 p.m., Show 7 p.m.

Where: Walnut High School Multi-Purpose Room, 400 N. Pierre Road, Walnut

Details: All seats $15 to enjoy a comedy murder mystery and taco dinner (with all the trimmings, drinks and dessert). Tickets must be purchased at least one day in advance. Presented by the Walnut High School Drama Department.

Contact: For information and reservations, call Joanne Karr, (909) 594-1333, ext. 34212

 

Annual Ghoster Park Halloween Hunt

When: Saturday, October 25, 7 to 10 p.m.

Where: Galster Park, 1620 E. Aroma Drive, West Covina

Details: The City of West Covina and the San Gabriel Mountains Regional Conservancy dare you to be scared at a night of spooky fun! Brave men will cry out for their ‘mummies’ on the Trail of Terror. There will also be Halloween activities, a costume contest, and other Halloween-inspired events. This is a free family event for the entire community.

Contact: Call the Community Services Department at (626) 919-6966, or visit www.westcovina.org

 

Haunted House

When: Thurs., Oct. 30 and Fri., Oct. 31; 6 to 9 p.m.

Where: Heritage Community Center, 2900 S. Brea Canyon Road, Diamond Bar

Details: Scary good fun for willing victims whose objective will be to find the exit! $5 per person; not recommended for children younger than 8 years of age.

Contact: For more information, call (909) 839-7070; coupons available at www.diamondbar.ca.gov/hhh.

 

23rd Annual Scholarship Tree of Lights Fundraiser

When: Thurs., Oct. 30 through Thurs., Nov. 20; and Dec. 4 – 5; noon to 4 p.m.

Where: Von’s Market, 350 N. Lemon Avenue, Walnut

Details: The Walnut Valley Women’s Club announces it will be selling lights for $5, and ornaments for $10. All proceeds go toward scholarships for 2014 graduates from Walnut and Nogales High Schools.

 

Fall Fun Festival

When: Fri., Oct. 31; 4:30 to 8:30 p.m.

Where: Heritage Park, 2900 S. Brea Canyon Road, Diamond Bar

Details: Family fun for the little ones “too cute to spook,” ages 2 to 8. Games, prizes, candy, arts, crafts, photo ops and more, admission is $5 per child and includes ten games or crafts; admission is free for accompanying adults.

Contact: For more information, call (909) 839-7070.

 

Mostly Ghostly

When: Fri., Oct. 31, 6 to 8:30 p.m.

Where: Walnut Senior Center Parking Lot, 21215 La Puente Road, Walnut

Details: The perfect event for the entire family with fun carnival games, ‘touch of fright’ maze, and costume contest.

 

Slasher Studios Haunted Maze

When: Fri., Oct. 31 and Sat., Nov. 1; 7 to 9 p.m.

Where: Walnut Senior Center, 21215 La Puente Road, Walnut

Details: Walk through the movie sets for the chilliest thrill of your life, and find out if you will make the final cut. $3 per body (may not be suitable for young children); benefits go toward Walnut schools’ athletic programs.

 

After Halloween Lot Party

When: Sat., Nov. 1, 6:30 to 9:30 p.m.

Where: Walnut Senior Center, 21215 La Puente Road, Walnut

Details: Live DJ, food trucks, games, movie (Disney’s Hocus Pocus), live performance from Team Millennia, Dance Contest. Cost is $5 pre-sale; $8 at the door (admission includes a trip through the Haunted Maze).

 

Connections To The Future

When: Thursday, Nov. 6; 11 a.m. to 1:30 p.m.

Where: Rowland High School, 2000 S. Otterbein Avenue, Rowland Heights

Details: Business and community leaders will help high school students learn how to network and practice their presentation skills at a special luncheon event. Organized and facilitated by senior students in the award-winning Career Certification Program at Nogales and Rowland High Schools. Henry DiCarlo, Meteorologist for KTLA-TV Morning News is the keynote speaker.

Contact: For more information visit http://careerpathways.rowland.k12.ca.us; Business Leaders wanting to participate should call (626) 854-8303.

 

50th Annual Home for the Holidays

When: Sun., Nov. 9, 10 a.m. to 3 p.m.

Where: St. Lucy’s Priory High School, 655 W. Sierra Madre Ave., Glendora (Barranca and Grand Avenues).

Details: Shop, dine and be entertained at St. Lucy’s Priory High School’s Christmas Boutique. Visit the North Pole Food Court for gourmet offerings; enjoy live entertainment. All proceeds go toward supporting the school’s curriculum and operational needs. Event and parking are complimentary.

Contact: Call (626) 963-0017, or visit http://www.stlucys.com

 

Inland Pacific Ballet’s, The Nutcracker

When: Nov. 29 through Dec. 27

Where: Arcadia Performing Arts Center (188 Campus Drive, Arcadia), Nov. 29/30, 2 p.m.; Lewis Family Playhouse (12505 Cultural Center Drive, Rancho Cucamonga), Dec. 6, 1 and 7 pm., Dec. 7, 1 p.m.; Pomona College’s Bridges Auditorium (450 North College Way, Claremont), Dec. 13/14/20/21; Fox Performing Arts Center (3801 Mission Inn Ave, Riverside), Dec 27, 2 and 7:30 p.m.

Details: The critically acclaimed Inland Pacific Ballet brings The Nutcracker story to life with dazzling sets, beautiful costumes, and nearly 100 dancers on stage – in four theatres! Tickets start at $38, with discounts available.

Contact: jpballet.org

 

WEEKLY EVENTS:

Bookstore Blowout

Where: Twice Sold Tale Bookstore located at the Walnut Library, La Puente Road, Walnut CA 91789

When: Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays from 1 p.m. to 8 p.m., Fridays from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. and Saturdays 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Details: All books and media: Any four items for $1 ($1 minimum purchase).

Contact: (909) 595-0757 or email the.walnut.library@mac.com.

 

Resources for the Classroom Days at Basically BOOKS

When: Second Tuesday of every month.

Where: Basically BOOKS locations: at 23447 Golden Springs Road, Diamond Bar and at the Diamond Bar Library: 21800 Copley Drive, Diamond Bar.

Details: Books and education videos will be offered at special discounts for teachers at all levels. Teachers can sign up at either Basically BOOKS locations or email BasicallyBOOKS@aol.com to join these special teacher appreciation afternoons.

 

Free Acupuncture for Veterans, Active Military, First Responders

When: Every Tuesday at 5 p.m.

Where: 12598 Central Avenue, Unit 113, Chino, CA 91710.

Cost: Free

Contact: (909) 590-4183 or http://www.healingcirclecommunityacupuncture.com

 

Jack Newe’s Farmers Market sponsored by SGV Regional Chamber of Commerce

When: Every Saturday from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m.

Where: Mt. San Antonio College Campus, Parking Lot B, 1100 N. Grand Avenue, Walnut CA 91789

Cost: Free Admission/Parking

Features: Seasonal organic produce, breads and cakes, olive oils, cheese and spreads, a variety of nursery plants, hand-crafted items and jewelry, fresh-popped Kettle Corn and grilled food plates.

Contact: (909) 869-0701

 

DB Community Garden Space

When: Ongoing; daylight hours.

Where: United Church of Christ, 2335 S. Diamond Bar Blvd., Diamond Bar

Details: The Diamond Bar United Church of Christ is progressing on their Community Garden space, located behind the church. Residents interested in developing their own garden space, or helping with this project, are encouraged to visit the Labyrinth on the hilltop. This is also a wonderful location for reflection, and enjoying some peaceful moments in your day.

Contact: Susanne Potter, (909) 861-4735, or visit http://www.diamondbarucc.org.

 

Straight Talk With Danice

BY DANICE AKIYOSHI, N.D

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

I recently attended a dinner meeting with a female business associate who told me that she and her husband are having serious marital problems and that she might file for divorce. I have been attracted to her for three years, but ignored my feelings because she’s married. If she files for divorce how long should I wait before I ask her out?

-Anthony

Dear Anthony:

Don’t pursue her in any serious way until she’s had enough time to repair her life emotionally. Give her your number and tell her that you’d be very interested in getting to know her better in the future, if she has any interest. Leave it at that. People often make lots of mistakes when they end a relationship. You don’t want to be any part of all of that if you really like this woman. If she’s interested, she’ll call.

-Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

 

 

 

Did You Know?

BY K.P. SANDER

the-surrender-of-cornwallis

The Surrender of Cornwallis (Photo Courtesy: Wikipedia)

Although the Revolutionary War officially ended in 1782, the last battle came to pass with surrender on Oct. 19, 1781, 233 years ago.

The Battle of Yorktown, which began on Oct. 6 of that year, when British General, Charles Cornwallis, moved his troops to Virginia to take over the command from loyalist, General Benedict Arnold. He found the troops low on reinforcements and supplies.

At the same time, General George Washington was moving to attack New York with the help of the French – who were convinced to help by Benjamin Franklin. Cornwallis was ordered to bring all 7,500 of his troops to New York, but he did not obey, staying in Yorktown (now Williamsburg, VA).

On Oct. 6, General Washington’s Continental Army attacked Cornwallis with over 16,000 men, including the French, and the American colonists and militia. The Continental Army persevered, and then on Oct. 17, the British sent a fleet from New York to assist Cornwallis, but it was too late. The British were outnumbered and out of supplies and food.

A letter was delivered to Cornwallis from General Washington, stating that he wanted to stop the “useless effusion of blood.” Realizing there was no hope for his troops, Cornwallis replied with this letter:

York in Virginia, 17th October 1781, 1/2 Past 4 P.M. 

Sir,

I have this moment been honoured with your Excellency’s letter dated this day.

The time limited for sending my answer will not admit of entering into the detail of Articles, but the basis of my proposals will be that the Garrisons of York and Gloucester shall be prisoners of War with the customary honours, and for the convenience of the individuals which I have the honour to command, that the British shall be sent to Britain and the Germans to Germany, under engagement not to serve against France, America or their Allies untill released or regularly exchanged, that all Arms and publick stores shall be delivered up to you, but that the usual indulgence of side arms to Officers and of retaining private property shall be granted to Officers & Soldiers, and that the interests of several individuals in Civil Capacities & connected with us, shall be attended to. If Your Excellency thinks that a continuance of the suspension of hostilities will be necessary to transmit your answer I shall have no objection to the hour that you propose. I have the honor to be,

Your most obedient & most humble servant,

Cornwallis

 

 

Weddings And Marriage

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

In my last article, I mentioned that my wife and I had attended four weddings in four weeks from late August and to the end of September.  All of the weddings were at outdoor locations from Temecula to Malibu, from Oak Glen to downtown L.A.

It used to be that June was the month for weddings, but one wedding planner told me that now September has become the new popular choice for weddings.

There is a passage in the Bible that says, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother, cleave to his wife and the two will become one flesh,” (Genesis 2:24).  This short verse contains three important words.

When a couple gets married, they need to leave their father and mother.  They need to end their dependence on their parents and establish their own family.  Many young adults have already done this by finishing school and starting a career.  But, sometimes they have remained financially and emotionally dependent on their parents.

In addition, the married couple needs to cleave to one another.  The word in the original Hebrew language has the idea of an unbreakable bond.  We might use the word “super glue” to convey the idea that a married couple needs to “stick together” and not let anything or anyone break this sacred commitment.

Finally, the Bible verse also says that the married man and woman “become one flesh”.  This expresses the physical intimacy that God intended for a married couple to share.  It is one of the most remarkable and unique relationships known to mankind.

These days, sadly, physical intimacy is not taken seriously.  Movies, TV sitcoms, books and magazines often give the impression that intimacy does not need to be protected and that people should pursue any relationships they want.

Maybe it sounds old fashioned to encourage students and young adults to not live recklessly and thoughtlessly in this area of their lives.  Maybe it seems unrealistic to expect married couples to remain faithful to their wedding vows and to one another.

Maybe we need to remind ourselves and our kids that marriage is something very special.

Weddings are special moments in the lives of the couple getting married and for families who celebrate this wonderful occasion.

Regardless of what month you select for your wedding, I hope you will remember these three important words – leave, cleave and become one!

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

 

Celebrating the Simple Things

BY NANCY STOOPS

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

I believe that each day we have the honor of being alive is call for celebration. Every morning as I awaken and see the sun rising and filling the sky with majestic colors, I am reminded of how lucky we are.As I step out in the morning with Midnight, my therapy dog, I feel blessed for his friendship and for the health that we both have. As we start our walk through our wonderful community, I am proud to be part of it and I enjoy the morning song of the birds around us. As we walk, I enjoy the trees and flowers that represent life in the neighborhood.

Midnight and I are greeted by the other daily walkers with a friendly smile and warm hello. It’s so nice to be part of such a wonderful neighborhood filled with such lovely people.

Sometimes the other dogs will visit with Midnight as we make our way through our neighborhood, and that makes Midnight a very happy soul.

I think the feeling of the sun on my face is just magical. The fragrant plants and flowers are intoxicating and so very delightful. Swimming or floating in water has always been very freeing for me. Laughter truly is the best medicine and I think we all could do a lot more of it. Looking up at a night sky filled with stars and a full moon can be an experience that provides a wonderful kind of solace. Just hanging out with my grandson is fabulous.

These simple things I speak of don’t cost any money, but are literally priceless. I think if we all take time to appreciate the simple things that are so wonderful in our world, we will be more positive. I think we will not dwell so much on what is wrong, but focus on what is right!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Diamond Bar, and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy also runs free family support groups, anger management groups, and special groups for seniors and teens. She is also available for motivational speaking engagements. For more information on any of these services, contact Nancy at (909)229-0727.

California Named Top 10 State for Afterschool

Staff Reports

 

California – Strong participation among students and high satisfaction with afterschool programs among parents have made California a “Top 10 State for Afterschool,” based on findings from a new household survey commissioned by the Afterschool Alliance. The 2014 edition of America After 3PM also shows that demand for afterschool programs still far exceeds supply and the number of children in California who would participate if an afterschool program were available surpasses the number of children in afterschool programs.

The America After 3PM survey included 30,000 American households and 854 in-depth interviews in California. It found that 25 percent of California students, 1,661,374 children in all, are enrolled in afterschool programs, up from 19 percent in 2009, when the survey was last conducted. But 1,247,699 California students are still without adult supervision in the afternoons. The parents of 2,435,254 California children not already in an afterschool program say they would enroll their child if a program were

available.

“California has made great progress creating afterschool opportunities for its children, and can be proud of that,” said Afterschool Alliance Executive Director, Jodi Grant. “But there’s no question that more work remains. Most parents in the state who want their child in a program can’t find one that works for them, and that needs to change. Every California family that needs an afterschool program should have access to one.”

The “Top 10 States for Afterschool,” from highest to lowest, are California, the District of Columbia, Florida, Vermont, Massachusetts, Arizona, Oregon, Nebraska, Tennessee and Hawaii.

“We have important building blocks for future progress already in place in California,” said Jeff Davis, Interim Director of the California AfterSchool Network. “The survey found that 90 percent of parents with children in afterschool programs are satisfied with the program their child attends. Also encouraging is the rock solid support for public funding of afterschool. Eighty-six percent of California parents in the survey said they support public funding for afterschool programs.”

To determine the state rankings, a composite score was calculated for all 50 states, plus the District of Columbia, and indexed against the national average. Each state’s overall score is based on afterschool program participation, afterschool programs reaching children in need, and parents’ satisfaction with key features of their child’s afterschool program.

On October 23, more than 1 million people in communities across the nation and at U.S. military installations worldwide will join the only national rally for afterschool programs. Sponsored by the Afterschool Alliance and now in its 15th

year, Lights On

Afterschool brings communities together for science fairs, fun runs, community service events, music and dance performances, open houses and other events at schools, community centers, malls, parks and recreation centers, science museums, state capitols, and other settings. Find a local Lights On Afterschool event at www.afterschoolalliance.org/LOA.cfm.

 

 

Getting Married

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

Someone told me recently that September has become the new big month for weddings. Traditionally we think of June weddings, but that doesn’t seem to be the case anymore.

From late August to the end of September, my wife and I attended four different weddings.

There was a wedding every week!

We enjoy attending weddings and sometimes I am asked to officiate.  Certainly each wedding is a special moment in the life of the families and couple involved.

One interesting pattern with all four of the weddings was that each one was held outdoors. Some were in lush garden settings, while others were in more remote, secluded settings.

I’m not sure what has happened to the traditional church wedding, but I have noticed that it is a growing trend to have weddings outdoors or in less traditional settings.

A number of different weddings are recorded in the Bible.  One of the most famous is the wedding that Jesus attended with His disciples in Cana of Galilee, found in the book of John, Chapter 2.

Another wedding is recorded in Genesis, Chapter 29.  In this passage, Jacob is tricked by his father-in-law and ends up with the wrong wife.  Jacob wanted to marry Rachel, but the father-in-law gave Jacob the veiled sister, Leah, instead!

Marriage is a special, God-given relationship.  In Genesis, Chapter 2, we read, “Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”.

We’ll talk more about the “leaving and cleaving” in my next article.  But let me express my congratulations to the families and couples that got married during the past month.  It looks like you are in good company since September has become the new month to get married.

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

Straight Talk With Danice

BY DANICE AKIYOSHI, N.D.

 

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

My niece is having her wedding on a cruise ship. Over 20 people from our family are invited to join them on this cruise. My niece asked me if I would book the largest stateroom so I can babysit the youngest kids who aren’t old enough for the kids club. This way, everyone is free to drink and go to the casino late at night. I don’t drink or gamble very often, but that doesn’t mean I want the task of nightly babysitting. I want to have fun, too. Now I’m not looking forward to the trip at all. I would feel guilty if I cancelled. I already said I would go, and everyone just assumes I will babysit because I’m not as wild as they are. I feel like I’m not really a guest at all. What should I do?

-Auntie M.

Dear Auntie:

It’s time for a family meeting. Explain that you look forward to doing your part with the youngest members of the family in the evenings. Then present a schedule with the names of all the viable babysitters. Assign a night to each capable party or couple. They are free to switch and trade off if they like, but make it clear that you intend to enjoy yourself too, even if you don’t choose to drink and gamble. Do not feel guilty when you resist being taken advantage of. Have fun!

-Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

 

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

 

 

 

Weather Conditions

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

When people ask me about the weather in California, I usually try to explain it like this. It is a contest between the desert and the ocean.  The hot dry winds push in from the north and east, and the cool ocean breezes push back from the south and west.

We are caught in a tug-of-war between these two imposing forces. Fortunately, the ocean usually dominates our weather and as a result we get morning fog and cool afternoon breezes.

But when the hot, dry Santa Ana winds prevail and the heat builds up, the air conditioning bills skyrocket. We all felt the effects of the heat during the past few weeks.  And, we will see the increased electric bills in another few weeks.

My wife and I grew up in Arizona.  The past few days felt like we were back in Arizona.  The days were really hot and the evenings provided little relief.  Everyone you talked to would comment about the heat. In the Phoenix area it is not uncommon to have over 100 days a year that are over 100 degrees. The low temperature at night often does not get below 90 degrees. It stays hot all summer.

There are a lot of things that I do miss about Arizona, but one thing I do not miss is the long, hot summer.

I heard the story of a pastor who was asked to help start a new church in Arizona.  After thinking about the invitation for a while, he replied, “There are three reasons that I think that God does not want me to move to Arizona…June, July and August!”

Someone said that God uses adversity and discomfort to get our attention.  The hot, dry weather we have experienced certainly got our attention.  It reminds us of how we expect comfort and convenience.  It reminds us of how fortunate we are to have air-conditioned homes and cars, offices and classrooms.

I hope that the weather is a little cooler by the time you are reading this article.  Let me encourage you to be thankful for the comforts you enjoy and don’t complain when the weather warms up for a few days. Just remember, you could be living in Arizona!

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

Mind Changing Meditation

BY NANCY STOOPS

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with her certified therapy dog Midnight.

Since I was 17 years of age, I have been meditating. I think it is the healthiest and most effective way to clear one’s mind. Meditation can be done anywhere and anytime and does not require anything but discipline and a willingness to be patient, because to achieve total meditation takes years. I love meditation because I don’t need to use pills or alcohol to relax and quiet my mind.

Some time ago, a school district did a study with their students and the effects of daily meditation. They found that their students were able to focus and concentrate better and in turn their grades and their test scores improved drastically. They found their students to be less angry and the number of school infractions went down as well. They noticed their students having a much improved mindset, being happier and more balanced. This idea could have a profound effect on students with Attention Deficient Disorder.

So take five minutes from your day and find a quiet place. Pick one word to focus on, and just think about that word. When other thoughts come rushing back in, go back to your word to push away the thoughts. Start with small increments of time and then extend the time you are meditating based on your newly acquired skills. I like the word, “peace,” as it seems to work very well for me.

I know that I’m a much more efficient human being because I have a pretty quiet mind, and I attribute that to all the years of daily meditation. The goal of meditation is to clear your mind of all thought, acquiring total inner peace. You will sleep better and feel much happier and more balanced.

So, do yourself a favor and start the daily practice of meditation today. I promise if you practice consistently you will literally transform yourself and your life. I wish you peace.

This article was written by Nancy Stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Diamond Bar, and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy also runs free family support groups, anger management groups, and special groups for seniors and teens. She is also available for motivational speaking engagements. For more information on any of these services, contact Nancy at (909)229-0727.

Did You Know?

BY K.P. SANDER

With the recent finding of a deceased newborn found at a recycling facility in Hesperia, Los Angeles County Supervisor, Don Knabe, is reminding the public about the County’s Safe Surrender program.

“Awful tragedies like what occurred in Hesperia are a reminder to mothers that there is always an option for their baby,” said Knabe. “The Safe Surrender program was created to give a mother – no matter what the situation – a safe, secure and anonymous way to get her child into safe hands.”

Knabe says that 122 lives have been saved by this program, but there is still much work to be done.

Some parents of newborns can find themselves in difficult, if not critical, circumstances. Feelings of fear and not knowing where to turn can sometimes lead to harm or abandonment of these infants. But there is a choice, a very good choice that is easily available.

California’s Safely Surrendered Baby Law gives parents the choice to legally and safely surrender their baby at any hospital or fire station in Los Angeles County, with no blame, no shame, and no names. It is a matter of going to any safe surrender site within 72-hours of the baby’s birth; filling out a voluntary and anonymous medical history form (or taking one home and mailing it back later) to help provide medical care for the baby; and obtaining an I.D. bracelet that matches one that will be fastened to the baby’s ankle. The bracelet helps reunite the parent with the baby if they change their mind within 14 days. No other questions will be asked.

Three newborns were safety surrendered this past July, one in them in Pomona. These infants now have the opportunity to live and thrive in a nurturing environment, possibly with parents that were unable to have their own child for one reason or another.

With the Safe Surrender program, newborns like the baby girl found at the Hesperia waste disposal plant on Oct. 1 will have a chance at life, instead of a horrific end.

Visit babysafela.org, or call (877) 222-9723, for more information.

Anyone with information regarding this Oct. 1, 2014 incident is urged to contact Detective Christine Kirby or Sergeant Jason Radeleff of the Sheriff’s Specialized Investigations Division at (909) 387-3589. Callers wishing to remain anonymous are urged to contact the We-Tip Hotline at 1-800-78-Crim,e or you may leave information on the We-Tip website www.wetip.com. 

 

San Gabriel Valley: Community Events

Staff Reports

 

UPCOMING EVENTS:

Friends of the Taylor House Artist on the Porch Summer/Fall Series

When: October 12; 1 to 4 p.m.

Where: Heritage Gardens Park, 3510 East Cameron Avenue, West Covina

Details: September event will feature craftsman period stained glass with Renn Hjellum-Lim.

Contact: For this and future events, visit facebook.com/taylorhousecraftsmanhome

 

The Chino Hills Historical Society Presentation

When: Monday, October 13

Where: Chino Hills Community Center, 14250 Peyton Drive

Details: Local historian, Allen P. McCombs will give a presentation on, “Chino Valley’s Role in How the West Was Won.” This event was previously scheduled on Sept. 15.

Contact: Call (909) 597-2051, or email chhistory@aol.com

 

City of Hope Blood Drive

When: Thurs., Oct. 16, 12:45 to 7 p.m.

Where: Mt. Calvary Lutheran Church and School, Gymnasium, 23300 Golden Springs Drive, Diamond Bar.

Contact: Call (909) 861-2740 for appointments, and be sure to bring your ID to the event.

 

World Famous Glenn Miller Orchestra Concert and Dinner

When: Saturday, Oct. 19; 3 p.m. and 7 p.m. Dinner at 5 p.m.

Where: Walnut High School Performing Arts Center, 400 N. Pierre Road, Walnut

Details: The Walnut High School Jazz Orchestra will share the stage with the legendary Glenn Miller Orchestra for an evening of musical memories. There will also be a BBQ dinner in between shows. Proceeds from this very special event will benefit the Walnut High School Instrumental Music Department. All seats $30; BBQ Dinner $15

Contact: For more information call, (909) 594-BAND; for tickets visit http://www.seatyourself.biz/walnutmusic.

 

Bark For Life 5K

When: Saturday, October 18, 9 a.m. to 3 p.m.

Where: Boys Republic High School, 1907 Boys Republic Drive, Chino Hills

Details: The American Cancer Society Bark For Life honors the care-giving qualities of canine companions. Bring your best Canine Friend and join the non-competitive walk around the track, followed by demos, games, contests, awards and dog adoptions. $25 per dog; $5 per person. Raise funds and awareness in the fight against cancer.

Contact: Visit www.relayforlife.org/barkchinoca, or email Jennifer Rudin at bflchinoeventchair@gmail.com.

 

Free Intervention Information Sessions

When: Third Tuesday of each month, 6 p.m.

Where: Charter Oak Hospital, 1161 E. Covina Blvd., Covina

Details: Free information sessions about the intervention process, a powerful tool to combat alcoholism and addition. Open to the public, space is limited and reservations are recommended.

Contact: Aurora Charter Oak Hospital, (626) 859-5269, or visit http://www.charteroakhospital.com.

 

Free ESL and Citizenship Classes

When: Monday through Thursday, 9 to 11 a.m.; or Monday through Thursday, 6 to 9 p.m.

Where: 2100 Lerona Avenue, Rowland Heights

Details: Rowland Adult & Community Education is now offering free English as a Second Language and Citizenship courses to adult students this summer due to a grant received from the Majestic Reality Foundation in the City of Industry.

Contact: Call (626) 965-5975, or visit http://race.rowland.k12.ca.us.

 

WEEKLY EVENTS:

Bookstore Blowout

Where: Twice Sold Tale Bookstore located at the Walnut Library, La Puente Road, Walnut CA 91789

When: Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays from 1 p.m. to 8 p.m., Fridays from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. and Saturdays 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Details: All books and media: Any four items for $1 ($1 minimum purchase).

Contact: (909) 595-0757 or email the.walnut.library@mac.com.

 

Resources for the Classroom Days at Basically BOOKS

When: Second Tuesday of every month.

Where: Basically BOOKS locations: at 23447 Golden Springs Road, Diamond Bar and at the Diamond Bar Library: 21800 Copley Drive, Diamond Bar.

Details: Books and education videos will be offered at special discounts for teachers at all levels. Teachers can sign up at either Basically BOOKS locations or email BasicallyBOOKS@aol.com to join these special teacher appreciation afternoons.

 

Free Acupuncture for Veterans, Active Military, First Responders

When: Every Tuesday at 5 p.m.

Where: 12598 Central Avenue, Unit 113, Chino, CA 91710.

Cost: Free

Contact: (909) 590-4183 or http://www.healingcirclecommunityacupuncture.com

 

Jack Newe’s Farmers Market sponsored by SGV Regional Chamber of Commerce

When: Every Saturday from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m.

Where: Mt. San Antonio College Campus, Parking Lot B, 1100 N. Grand Avenue, Walnut CA 91789

Cost: Free Admission/Parking

Features: Seasonal organic produce, breads and cakes, olive oils, cheese and spreads, a variety of nursery plants, hand-crafted items and jewelry, fresh-popped Kettle Corn and grilled food plates.

Contact: (909) 869-0701

 

DB Community Garden Space

When: Ongoing; daylight hours.

Where: United Church of Christ, 2335 S. Diamond Bar Blvd., Diamond Bar

Details: The Diamond Bar United Church of Christ is progressing on their Community Garden space, located behind the church. Residents interested in developing their own garden space, or helping with this project, are encouraged to visit the Labyrinth on the hilltop. This is also a wonderful location for reflection, and enjoying some peaceful moments in your day.

Contact: Susanne Potter, (909) 861-4735, or visit http://www.diamondbarucc.org.

The Lovely Country of Ecuador

BY NANCY STOOPS

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Every year I go on a spiritual journey. As a psychotherapist I give all of me, and this is my way of filling my mind, body and spirit back up. This year, I decided to go to Ecuador and the Galapagos Islands and I’m so very glad I did. I must start by telling you how wonderful and warm the people of Ecuador are. My guide, Chris, couldn’t do enough for me. She was fabulous and I know someday I will see her again.

I was fascinated when I was taken to the middle of the earth, which is about an hour out of Quito. I stood with one foot in the north equator and one foot in the south equator, and heard a wonderful talk when I was there. I was then taken to the community of Otavalo, where many Shamans and Curanderos live. I received a cleansing and a blessing from this wonderful woman that has worked as a Curandero for years. She and her husband are pretty well known for their work.

I also had the opportunity to take a yacht to the Galapagos Islands. There were six other passengers besides myself. How do I begin to describe all that I saw? I was on this yacht for almost a week and each day we would travel to a new island for hiking and snorkeling. I have never seen so many sea lions in my life. I was fascinated by them and got as close as I could without touching them (it is against the law to touch the wildlife or to take anything out of the Galapagos Islands).

During the next few weeks I will continue writing about my journey. One thing I can say with certainty: everyone should go visit these spectacular Islands and be forever changed!

 

This article was written by Nancy stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Diamond Bar, and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy also runs free family support groups, anger management groups, and special groups for seniors and teens. She is also available for motivational speaking engagements. For more information on any of these services, contact Nancy at (909)229-0727.