Becoming Who We’re Intended to Be



Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

I believe we are all born with an incredible potential to be our best. I think that there is a plan for our lives. Within that plan is an interpretation of us at our absolute personal best. My goal has always been to keep growing and functioning at my optimum each and every day. I believe that if I do this, I will grow into the person I’m intended to be. This is my way of honoring my life and my creator.

Life isn’t always an easy thing and many curve balls will be thrown our way. Having lost one brother to suicide, another to murder, and a father to pancreatic cancer has taught me how vulnerable we all are. It has also made me feel so very blessed to still be alive and well.

I don’t just want to go through my life living to die; instead I have always died to live. I want to be my best so that I can experience my life fully. I live my life very passionately and want to feel all of it.

It is very hard work to examine the pieces of yourself that get in the way of being who you are intended to be. It’s even harder work to have the courage to let go of these dysfunctional pieces. Most of these pieces have been a part of us for a long time, and serve some dysfunctional purpose that we have grown to rely on. It’s in really learning to let go that will allow us to become who we are intended to be. This gut-wrenching, but very worthwhile, personal work can lead us into total inner peace and contentment.

This article was written by Nancy Stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups for teens. For more information about any of these services feel free to page her at (626) 935-3818. You may also email her at Nancy’s book, “Live, Heal and Grow” is available for purchase at or