Straight Talk With Danice

I do not want a gun – a letter from Evelyn

Danice Akiyoshi

Danice Akiyoshi

By Danice Akiyoshi

Q: My husband has become very paranoid about all of the shootings that have been on the news.  He owns several guns and he is always asking me to go with him to the shooting range to practice.   I go with him so I can keep up my skills and I hope this will help him feel better, but now he wants me to choose a gun for myself.  I do not want a gun for myself.  I do not really feel comfortable with guns.  I carry a taser device instead and I don’t want to go any further with my personal protection devices.  He says he needs me to be prepared to protect our family in case he’s not home, but guns are not for me. I don’t want my own personal gun.  I need your advice.

A: This is a personal choice. You have every right to make this decision for yourself.  The fact that you accompany him to the shooting range and are willing to understand basic gun operations in order to protect your family is quite cooperative of you.  If you don’t choose to be a gun owner yourself, state that firmly to your husband.  Let him know that you’ve agreed with and taken the proper steps to back him up in an emergency but you are just not willing to take it to the next level of purchasing a gun for yourself.  If he pressures you, then point out that he is acting in a way that is similar to the people he fears.