Straight Talk

I have never been happier.  The only problem I have is that I’ve been neglecting my business- A letter from R.S.

Danice Akiyoshi

Danice Akiyoshi

By Danice Akiyoshi N.D.

Q: I met a beautiful woman two months ago.  She’s been widowed seven months.  I had a break up three months ago so we are both healing.  We get along so well that I already feel the urge to ask her to marry me.  I can’t believe how happy I am with her and she feels the same way. I don’t want to make a mistake and mess things up between us. I have been married three times and she has been married four times. At our ages we want to enjoy every day.  I have never been happier.  The only problem I have is that I’ve been neglecting my business. I know that will eventually catch up with me, but I’m just so happy that I can’t help it.  Do you think I’m crazy?

A: You and your recently widowed friend are moving mighty fast for people in your age group.  Of course being older doesn’t necessarily equate with being smarter.  I can see by the seven marriages between the two of you that you are both impulsive and perhaps emotionally immature.  Or you could both be needy individuals who hate being alone.   These personality traits might be part of the reason that you both have so many unsuccessful marriages in your past.  I am a fan of happiness, but that newfound happiness will come to a crashing halt when you can’t pay your bills due to neglecting your business.  Do yourselves a favor, dial back a bit while still enjoying yourselves and be sensible.  Something is mentally unsound with this situation if you feel you have to rush into things because of neediness or the inability to manage your emotions in a sensible way.  I hope things turn out well for you both.  Remember that your chances of that happening are better if you think things through in a mature way.  I encourage you to slow down.