You Can Depend On You

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

By Nancy Stoops

Just recently I had an experience that reminded me of how very capable I am and how I can depend on myself.  After my fabulous trip to Antarctica, I found out the airline to fly me home was on strike.  It seemed like I was so alone in this and must admit very frightened.  I needed to get home my mom and dog had been hospitalized when I was gone.  I went to the airport with the other fourteen- hundred people and stood in line for eight hours and finally got somebody to listen to me after sobbing at their counter.  It took two days to make this happen.  Even though I had a great travel agent there wasn’t much she could do from her end.  She told me to go to the airport and stand in line until I could somebody to take pity on me.  They were telling many people it would be eight or nine days till they would have a flight home.  That was unacceptable for me as I really needed to get home.

When I finally boarded the plane that would take me home I cried with such a sense of relief.  I have travelled all over the world and only had two uncomfortable things happen.  I was detained for bringing an apple into Mozambique from South Africa and when I arrived in South Africa after a grueling flight I was yelled at by a customs agent to stand up straight and show some respect.  This airstrike was different it was truly frightening and I felt like I was never going to get home.  The thing that got me home was how I remembered all that I had already gotten myself though.  I thought about all the deaths in my family and all the trauma I had handled and work though in my life.  I remembered how many times I had depended on me to get me though the trauma.  In remembering who I was I was able to find my way home!!!!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T.  Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  Nancy is now accepting new clients.  She also works as a motivational speaker.  Nancy runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups for teens and can handle many court mandated needs.  For more information about any of these services contact Nancy at (909) 229-0727.  You may e-mail Nancy at You may purchase Nancy’s books Live Heal and Grow and Midnight the Therapy Dog at