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Lost in Love

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

 

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

We are continuing our one year journey through the Bible at our church on Sunday mornings.

I have enjoyed studying and teaching about each book along with the other pastors at our church.

There are five poetical books in the Old Testament: Job, Psalms, Proverbs, Ecclesiastes and the Song of Solomon.

You are probably familiar with some of these books.  Many people turn to the Psalms to find help and hope in times of difficulties.  Psalm 23 is one of the best known writings in the world, as David wrote, “The Lord is my shepherd.”

The book of Job records the suffering and tragedy experienced by a remarkable man named Job.  Proverbs is filled with helpful lessons and insights for daily living.  And, Ecclesiastes records King Solomon’s interesting perspective on work, family, life and death.

The one poetical book that people are probably most unfamiliar with is the Song of Songs, or also known as the Song of Solomon. This is the story of King Solomon’s love for a beautiful young woman.  It contains some remarkable descriptions of their courtship and marriage.  The author uses vivid word pictures to describe their romantic relationship.  They were lost in love.

But the book also includes some of the problems and difficulties that the King and his new bride experienced.  There were seasons where indifference and selfishness began to take root in their relationship.  There were times when they did not communicate effectively.

These same problems can weaken married couples today.  Couples that are engaged or newly wed are lost in love.  But, they can not foresee that there will be challenges and difficulties in the future.

Marriage is more than love and romance.  Marriage also involves a commitment between a husband and wife to stick together through the good times and the bad.

If you have not read the Song of Solomon before, let me encourage you to dust off your Bible, use the table of contents and find this short book in the middle of the Old Testament.  You may not understand all of the imagery and figures of speech, but I think you will be surprised at how the Bible tastefully addresses romance and marriage.  You, too, may find yourself “Lost in Love.”

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

 

It’s The Little Things

BY JENNIFER MADRIGAL

JenniferIt’s the little things in life that really define you, and leave an impression on others.

The way the one you love comes across the room to throw their arms around you at the end of a long day; the glass of ice tea that is lovingly set out on a table for you by someone who cares; the way your son walked behind the little boy who wet his pants so that no one would make fun of him; and the friend that drove all day and across two states to hold your hand at your mom’s funeral. It’s those little things that make a life, define a relationship, and show you the depths of a person’s love.

When you truly love a person, you have their heart. Their happiness is your happiness. Their smile makes you smile. Their pain wounds you, too.

It’s the little things, like the way their eyes crinkle in the corner when they really smile, or the connection that you have with them with just a look across the room. It’s the comfort in knowing that that one person truly has your back and is truly your protector.

Fancy gifts and bouquets of flowers are nice, but they are nothing compared with the gift of doing something special for someone that only you know will make their day.

While Love is a choice that one must make every day, it is also something that takes work and effort – and a whole bunch of little things – to build and maintain. The most beautiful garden, planted with all the best soil, seeds and care, will rot and die away without continued tending and water from the gardener. Relationships require tending and consistently choosing that person over yourself and making their happiness your happiness. It may be as simple as making lemon brownies because you know he loves lemons, or going to that Kings game when you are a die-hard Ducks fan, but what remains is the little things that make the ordinary grand.

Someday when your life is ending or the one whom you have loved has passed away, you won’t remember the flowers he bought you from Von’s, or the pearl necklace he spent all his money on. What will warm your heart in the quiet times when you are all alone, is the way she laughed so hard telling a joke that she couldn’t even finish the punch line, or the way he lip-synched and danced to the goofy song in your car to make you laugh.

These are the little things that make a relationship work and blossom and make you feel loved. It’s always been, and will always be, the little things.

San Gabriel Valley: Community Events

Staff Reports

 

UPCOMING EVENTS:
Walnut High Presents, “The Understudy,” by Eddie McPherson

When: October 1 – 4, 7 p.m., with a 2 p.m. matinee on October 4.

Where: Walnut High School Performing Arts Center, 400 N. Pierre Road, Walnut

Details: Acting can be murder! The Walnut High School Drama Department is bringing this charming murder-mystery comedy to theatre-in-the-round. Tickets are $10 in advance; $12 at the door.

Contact: Tickets may be purchased online at www.seatyourself.biz/walnutdrama, or at the door. For more information, call (909) 594-1333, extension 34212.

Wheel Food Fest

When: Fri., October 3; 5 to 8:30 p.m.

Where: Walnut Valley Unified School District, 880 S. Lemon Avenue, in Walnut.

Details: The Walnut Valley Educational Foundation is sponsoring a family fun night with a variety of gourmet food trucks. This is a delicious way to support your students, schools and community. There are no entry fees, and there is plenty of free parking. Bring a blanket or chair and enjoy! Food trucks may include: The Slummin’ Gourmet, Macho Nacho, Rolling Sushi, Cup Cakery, Crepes Bonaparte, White Rabbit, and Dos Chinos. Please leave your pets at home, and do not bring alcohol, outside food or drinks.

Friends of the Taylor House Artist on the Porch Summer/Fall Series

When: October 12; 1 to 4 p.m.

Where: Heritage Gardens Park, 3510 East Cameron Avenue, West Covina

Details: September event will feature craftsman period stained glass with Renn Hjellum-Lim.

Contact: For this and future events, visit facebook.com/taylorhousecraftsmanhome

The Chino Hills Historical Society Presentation

When: Monday, October 13

Where: Chino Hills Community Center, 14250 Peyton Drive

Details: Local historian, Allen P. McCombs will give a presentation on, “Chino Valley’s Role in How the West Was Won.” This event was previously scheduled on Sept. 15.

Contact: Call (909) 597-2051, or email chhistory@aol.com

City of Hope Blood Drive

When: Thurs., Oct. 16, 12:45 to 7 p.m.

Where: Mt. Calvary Lutheran Church and School, Gymnasium, 23300 Golden Springs Drive, Diamond Bar.

Contact: Call (909) 861-2740 for appointments, and be sure to bring your ID to the event.

World Famous Glenn Miller Orchestra Concert and Dinner

When: Saturday, Oct. 19; 3 p.m. and 7 p.m. Dinner at 5 p.m.

Where: Walnut High School Performing Arts Center, 400 N. Pierre Road, Walnut

Details: The Walnut High School Jazz Orchestra will share the stage with the legendary Glenn Miller Orchestra for an evening of musical memories. There will also be a BBQ dinner in between shows. Proceeds from this very special event will benefit the Walnut High School Instrumental Music Department. All seats $30; BBQ Dinner $15

Contact: For more information call, (909) 594-BAND; for tickets visit http://www.seatyourself.biz/walnutmusic.

 

Bark For Life 5K

When: Saturday, October 18, 9 a.m. to 3 p.m.

Where: Boys Republic High School, 1907 Boys Republic Drive, Chino Hills

Details: The American Cancer Society Bark For Life honors the care-giving qualities of canine companions. Bring your best Canine Friend and join the non-competitive walk around the track, followed by demos, games, contests, awards and dog adoptions. $25 per dog; $5 per person. Raise funds and awareness in the fight against cancer.

Contact: Visit www.relayforlife.org/barkchinoca, or email Jennifer Rudin at bflchinoeventchair@gmail.com.

Free Intervention Information Sessions

When: Third Tuesday of each month, 6 p.m.

Where: Charter Oak Hospital, 1161 E. Covina Blvd., Covina

Details: Free information sessions about the intervention process, a powerful tool to combat alcoholism and addition. Open to the public, space is limited and reservations are recommended.

Contact: Aurora Charter Oak Hospital, (626) 859-5269, or visit http://www.charteroakhospital.com.

Free ESL and Citizenship Classes

When: Monday through Thursday, 9 to 11 a.m.; or Monday through Thursday, 6 to 9 p.m.

Where: 2100 Lerona Avenue, Rowland Heights

Details: Rowland Adult & Community Education is now offering free English as a Second Language and Citizenship courses to adult students this summer due to a grant received from the Majestic Reality Foundation in the City of Industry.

Contact: Call (626) 965-5975, or visit http://race.rowland.k12.ca.us.

WEEKLY EVENTS:

Bookstore Blowout

Where: Twice Sold Tale Bookstore located at the Walnut Library, La Puente Road, Walnut CA 91789

When: Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays from 1 p.m. to 8 p.m., Fridays from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. and Saturdays 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Details: All books and media: Any four items for $1 ($1 minimum purchase).

Contact: (909) 595-0757 or email the.walnut.library@mac.com.

Resources for the Classroom Days at Basically BOOKS

When: Second Tuesday of every month.

Where: Basically BOOKS locations: at 23447 Golden Springs Road, Diamond Bar and at the Diamond Bar Library: 21800 Copley Drive, Diamond Bar.

Details: Books and education videos will be offered at special discounts for teachers at all levels. Teachers can sign up at either Basically BOOKS locations or email BasicallyBOOKS@aol.com to join these special teacher appreciation afternoons.

Free Acupuncture for Veterans, Active Military, First Responders

When: Every Tuesday at 5 p.m.

Where: 12598 Central Avenue, Unit 113, Chino, CA 91710.

Cost: Free

Contact: (909) 590-4183 or http://www.healingcirclecommunityacupuncture.com

Jack Newe’s Farmers Market sponsored by SGV Regional Chamber of Commerce

When: Every Saturday from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m.

Where: Mt. San Antonio College Campus, Parking Lot B, 1100 N. Grand Avenue, Walnut CA 91789

Cost: Free Admission/Parking

Features: Seasonal organic produce, breads and cakes, olive oils, cheese and spreads, a variety of nursery plants, hand-crafted items and jewelry, fresh-popped Kettle Corn and grilled food plates.

Contact: (909) 869-0701

DB Community Garden Space

When: Ongoing; daylight hours.

Where: United Church of Christ, 2335 S. Diamond Bar Blvd., Diamond Bar

Details: The Diamond Bar United Church of Christ is progressing on their Community Garden space, located behind the church. Residents interested in developing their own garden space, or helping with this project, are encouraged to visit the Labyrinth on the hilltop. This is also a wonderful location for reflection, and enjoying some peaceful moments in your day.

Contact: Susanne Potter, (909) 861-4735, or visit http://www.diamondbarucc.org.

Straight Talk With Danice

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

 

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

My husband was not invited to walk his daughter down the aisle at her wedding. She chose a close family friend instead. My husband and his ex-wife had a horrible relationship which made it impossible for him to have a decent relationship with his daughter. He is very down on himself and feeling depressed. I don’t know how to help him. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

-Ali V.

Dear Ali:

Maybe your husband’s ex-wife was able to influence his daughter when she was a child, but most women who are getting married are adults. Certainly he had access to his young adult daughter without the influence of her mother.   In my experience, no one can keep a good parent away from their child (especially an adult child). If the bride is not interested in a relationship with her father, he should do his best to find out why. Everyone is an adult now. Try for a fresh start when they return from their honeymoon. Do not add any additional stress to their lives before the wedding.

-Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

 

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

Not Again

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

Many years ago, my wife suggested that we add a small mint plant to our vegetable garden.  We had a beautiful bed of strawberries and never thought the mint would be a problem. But over the next few years, the mint completely took over the garden.  We discovered that mint is like a weed.  It grows quickly and spreads rapidly.

I actually wrote an article about this problem and asked for advice on how to get rid of the mint in my garden.  One person sent me an email with a simple solution: Never plant mint in your garden in the first place!

The only way I was able to get rid of the mint was to dig up every square foot of my garden and sift every shovel of dirt through a screen.  It took many weeks and many hours to completely remove every small twig and root of mint.

That was several years ago.  Since then I have planted a variety of vegetables in my garden. This year we have enjoyed fresh tomatoes, bell peppers and zucchini squash. But, a few days ago I saw something that I never expected to see again.  Several small twigs of mint appeared in my garden.  I had not seen any mint for years. How could this be?

It reminded me that there may be old habits and sins in our lives that we think we have conquered and defeated, but they reappear when we least expect it.  I wonder if there are things from your past that might resurface and invade your peaceful life unexpectedly.

All of us are vulnerable to temptation and sin.  All of us have our weaknesses.  All of us can fall back into some old habits if we are not careful and prayerful.

If you see a small “twig” of mint resurfacing in your life, don’t ignore it.  Ask God for help and strength to face the temptation.  Ask a friend to help keep you accountable and have the freedom to speak into your life.  Don’t try to handle it alone.

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

 

Fall In Love With Autumn

BY: K.P. SANDER

This is one of the hottest summers that I can remember. The barometer hasn’t even glanced toward anything less than 90 degrees in what seems like months. Being of British descent, it’s in my DNA to appreciate downright cold weather. It’s invigorating! As of late, however, I’m feeling a bit lazy. Normally one to enjoy dressing the part, I am reduced to t-shirts, shorts and a wet pony tail. The thought of getting out the blow dryer is, well, ewww.

The hissing of summer lawns is overshadowed by the whirl and whine of air conditions trying to keep one step ahead of the sweltering heat and humidity. Like me, you’ve probably had the electric company reduce your ability to run the A/C at peak times – and rightly so. At 106 degrees, a hot community could bring a grid to its knees.

So you try to enjoy the slightly cooler temperatures of the evenings by sitting outdoors, but then those little darlings of the West Nile [virus] start sipping on you like you’re a piña colada. Back indoors you go and make an attempt not to sweat and sleep at the same time.

But enough complaining, already. Let us turn our thoughts to all things autumn. Ah, sweaters, scarves, warm fires, hot chocolate, Pumpkin Spice Lattes, trips to local mountains, colors changing, the baking of pies and breads, apple cider, and jack-o-lanterns. It’s no longer hot, but most wonderfully cool. The word ‘Crisp’ comes to mind (although a friend who lived in Wisconsin once told me I didn’t know the meaning of the word).

Fall Festivals start cropping up and electric bills go down. Wardrobes change, dinner menus start to include casseroles and turning the oven on is no longer a crime. Lawns start perking up as they feel able to muster up a bit more green, and if you’ve planted a summer vegetable garden, you’re gathering the last of the harvest.

Soon, Halloween costumes will be selected and Thanksgiving plans will start to formulate. It seems the whole color palette around us changes to burgundies, golds, reds, greens, and plums. As leaves begin to drop and decorate the neighborhoods, the air feels fresher, and life just seems a bit cozier. People, in general, seem to generate a warmth, and appear a little friendlier.

As the poet, Lucy Maud Montgomery wrote, “…Pile high the logs till the flame be leaping; at bay the chill of the autumn keeping; while pilgrim-wise, we may go a-reaping – in the fairest meadow of memory!”

‘Tis autumn, at last!

 

 

San Gabriel Valley: Community Events

STAFF REPORTS

 

UPCOMING EVENTS:

Prescription Drug Take-Back Event

When: September 27, 10 a.m. to 2 p.m.

Where: Upland Police Department, 1499 W. 13th Street, Upland

Details: The Upland Police Department and the Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) will give the public its ninth opportunity in four years to prevent pill abuse and theft by ridding their homes of potentially dangerous expired, unused, and unwanted prescription drugs (the DEA cannot accept liquids or needles or sharps, only pills or patches).   The service is free and anonymous, no questions asked. Last April, Americans turned in over 780,000 pounds of prescription drugs at nearly authorized 6,100 sites.

 

Citizenship Information Session

When: September 27, 11 a.m. (with a follow up workshop on October 25)

Where: Azusa City Library, Auditorium

Details: Azusa City Library and Central American Resource Center have partnered to strengthen citizenship education efforts in the San Gabriel Valley.

Contact: (626) 812-5273, or email evilla@ci.azusa.ca.us.

 

Walnut High Presents, “The Understudy,” by Eddie McPherson

When: October 1 – 4, 7 p.m., with a 2 p.m. matinee on October 4.

Where: Walnut High School Performing Arts Center, 400 N. Pierre Road, Walnut

Details: Acting can be murder! The Walnut High School Drama Department is bringing this charming murder-mystery comedy to theatre-in-the-round. Tickets are $10 in advance; $12 at the door.

Contact: Tickets may be purchased online at www.seatyourself.biz/walnutdrama, or at the door. For more information, call (909) 594-1333, extension 34212.

 

Wheel Food Fest

When: 1st Friday of the month through October 3; 5 to 8:30 p.m.

Where: Walnut Valley Unified School District, 880 S. Lemon Avenue, in Walnut.

Details: The Walnut Valley Educational Foundation is sponsoring a family fun night with a variety of gourmet food trucks. This is a delicious way to support your students, schools and community. There are no entry fees, and there is plenty of free parking. Bring a blanket or chair and enjoy! Food trucks may include: The Slummin’ Gourmet, Macho Nacho, Rolling Sushi, Cup Cakery, Crepes Bonaparte, White Rabbit, and Dos Chinos. Please leave your pets at home, and do not bring alcohol, outside food or drinks.

 

Friends of the Taylor House Artist on the Porch Summer/Fall Series

When: October 12; 1 to 4 p.m.

Where: Heritage Gardens Park, 3510 East Cameron Avenue, West Covina

Details: September event will feature craftsman period stained glass with Renn Hjellum-Lim.

Contact: For this and future events, visit facebook.com/taylorhousecraftsmanhome

 

The Chino Hills Historical Society Presentation

When: Monday, October 13

Where: Chino Hills Community Center, 14250 Peyton Drive

Details: Local historian, Allen P. McCombs will give a presentation on, “Chino Valley’s Role in How the West Was Won.” This event was previously scheduled on Sept. 15.

Contact: Call (909) 597-2051, or email chhistory@aol.com

 

City of Hope Blood Drive

When: Thurs., Oct. 16, 12:45 to 7 p.m.

Where: Mt. Calvary Lutheran Church and School, Gymnasium, 23300 Golden Springs Drive, Diamond Bar.

Contact: Call (909) 861-2740 for appointments, and be sure to bring your ID to the event.

 

Bark For Life 5K

When: Saturday, October 18, 9 a.m. to 3 p.m.

Where: Boys Republic High School, 1907 Boys Republic Drive, Chino Hills

Details: The American Cancer Society Bark For Life honors the care-giving qualities of canine companions. Bring your best Canine Friend and join the non-competitive walk around the track, followed by demos, games, contests, awards and dog adoptions. $25 per dog; $5 per person. Raise funds and awareness in the fight against cancer.

Contact: Visit www.relayforlife.org/barkchinoca, or email Jennifer Rudin at bflchinoeventchair@gmail.com.

 

Free Intervention Information Sessions

When: Third Tuesday of each month, 6 p.m.

Where: Charter Oak Hospital, 1161 E. Covina Blvd., Covina

Details: Free information sessions about the intervention process, a powerful tool to combat alcoholism and addition. Open to the public, space is limited and reservations are recommended.

Contact: Aurora Charter Oak Hospital, (626) 859-5269, or visit http://www.charteroakhospital.com.

 

Free ESL and Citizenship Classes

When: Monday through Thursday, 9 to 11 a.m.; or Monday through Thursday, 6 to 9 p.m.

Where: 2100 Lerona Avenue, Rowland Heights

Details: Rowland Adult & Community Education is now offering free English as a Second Language and Citizenship courses to adult students this summer due to a grant received from the Majestic Reality Foundation in the City of Industry.

Contact: Call (626) 965-5975, or visit http://race.rowland.k12.ca.us.

 

WEEKLY EVENTS:

Bookstore Blowout

Where: Twice Sold Tale Bookstore located at the Walnut Library, La Puente Road, Walnut CA 91789

When: Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays from 1 p.m. to 8 p.m., Fridays from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. and Saturdays 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Details: All books and media: Any four items for $1 ($1 minimum purchase).

Contact: (909) 595-0757 or email the.walnut.library@mac.com.

 

Resources for the Classroom Days at Basically BOOKS

When: Second Tuesday of every month.

Where: Basically BOOKS locations: at 23447 Golden Springs Road, Diamond Bar and at the Diamond Bar Library: 21800 Copley Drive, Diamond Bar.

Details: Books and education videos will be offered at special discounts for teachers at all levels. Teachers can sign up at either Basically BOOKS locations or email BasicallyBOOKS@aol.com to join these special teacher appreciation afternoons.

 

Free Acupuncture for Veterans, Active Military, First Responders

When: Every Tuesday at 5 p.m.

Where: 12598 Central Avenue, Unit 113, Chino, CA 91710.

Cost: Free

Contact: (909) 590-4183 or http://www.healingcirclecommunityacupuncture.com

 

Jack Newe’s Farmers Market sponsored by SGV Regional Chamber of Commerce

When: Every Saturday from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m.

Where: Mt. San Antonio College Campus, Parking Lot B, 1100 N. Grand Avenue, Walnut CA 91789

Cost: Free Admission/Parking

Features: Seasonal organic produce, breads and cakes, olive oils, cheese and spreads, a variety of nursery plants, hand-crafted items and jewelry, fresh-popped Kettle Corn and grilled food plates.

Contact: (909) 869-0701

 

Did You Know?

BY K.P. SANDER

 

autumn_leaves_scene

(Photo Courtesy: ScienceMadeSimple.com)

Ah, glorious fall! That time of year when nature just bursts in amazing Technicolor and dazzles us with the beauty of the season and cooler temperatures. Okay, maybe more so east coast than here locally, but one can dream.

Technically speaking, the Autumnal Equinox will happen specifically on Tues., Sept. 23 this year. ‘Equinox’ generally refers to the point in time when day and night are of nearly equal duration. In the fall, the days thereafter grow shorter; in the spring (Vernal Equinox) the days begin to grow longer.

Wikipedia says that an equinox occurs when the plane of the Earth’s equator passes the center of the sun, and the tilt of the Earth inclines neither away nor toward the sun – let’s just say that the sun is directly overhead. The Earth is really smart; it knows what to do.

And so does nature. The trees in particular understand that the days will be shorter and they undergo a vibrant metamorphosis. But how, exactly, do leaves change color?

ScienceMadeSimple.com continues our autumnal science lesson. Trees actually store “food” during the summer months. In winter, when there is less light and water, the trees stop making food and start to rest. The chlorophyll – or what makes the leaves green – begins to disappear, fading leaves to yellow and orange. In some trees, like maples, glucose gets trapped in the leaves and the cooler nights turn foliage into reds and purples.

Whatever the science, it is nature’s masterpiece, and it is beautiful to behold. Enjoy autumn!

Being on Probation

By NANCY STOOPS

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist and therapy dog Midnight

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with her certified therapy dog Midnight.

I have worked with many families that have had children on probation. This can cause a lot of stress on the entire family.

There can be many responsibilities that go along with probation, depending on the crime. I have usually found that there seems to be some sort of private or group counseling, parent education, and community service required pretty globally. In addition, anger management, drug and/or alcohol counseling, and perhaps some sort of weekend work program could be required. It is also important that the person on probation is doing well in school, following any curfews imposed, and whatever else the court papers specify.

I have talked with many families that have had children in juvenile hall or a work camp. They have told me it’s very hard to go visit your child in such a facility, especially when the parents get to go home and the child has to stay.

Encourage your child to behave well if they are locked up. I have known children to obtain special privileges for good behavior, and this can make the time go by faster. If your child is on probation and not locked up, remind them how serious things could get if they violate their probation.

Many parents feel they really pay the price for their child’s crime. Usually the parents have to coordinate and enforce all the things the court is requiring, attend parent education, and pay fees and attorney charges. So I think the whole family pays when a child commits a crime.

My advice is to try to become a stronger family and take advantage of all you are being asked to do by the court. Maybe these things are necessary to finally get your family on track.

 

This article was written by Nancy Stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Diamond Bar, and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy also runs free family support groups, anger management groups, and special groups for seniors and teens. She is also available for motivational speaking engagements. For more information on any of these services, contact Nancy at (909)229-0727.

 

The Love Of My Life

By Michael Armijo

I once saw a young couple walking together, and their interaction made me pause for a moment and admire them. They looked often into each other’s eyes, and the world seemed to stand still for them. All time seemed to cease and the love between them flourished. It was like watching two birds soar through the sky in a synchronized motion; in true harmony. They were on the same flight, in pace, within the same realm of mind, emotion and feeling.

I believe that in life, you earn the love you have, with your intentions and your actions. You earn the right to love and be loved. If you have not earned love because of what you’ve done in the past, you still have a chance to be deserving of this gift. You ask for forgiveness, first to your God, and then to yourself. Once you believe you are forgiven, your heart will be open to receiving love.

I don’t believe that God has intended us to make the journey of life without profound love; with that feeling where you think, “Being with this person and knowing their smile, their touch, and their love just for a moment, is worth more than a thousand years of living without it.”

When you find that kind of love, you nurture it – forever – so that your hearts become one. For the times you don’t feel as one, you have to remember that love isn’t fading, but the distractions of your insecurity, problems, and other weight-of-the-world issues are simply blurring your vision. True love, well taken care of, will persevere.

I have this love; this ‘love of my life’. I have loved her since I met her, and every moment in between. I have been loved in return, and it has given meaning to my life that I once felt I had no right to expect. But no one can every take that from me, and I have no regrets.

If you have that love, earn it; nurture it. Like that young couple, find your synchronization and harmony. Find the purity and honesty that it is all derived from. Experience that kiss that says, ‘I love you, I trust you, and life is richer because of you.’ Find the love of your life.

 

Straight Talk With Danice

BY DANICE AKIYOSHI, N.D.

 

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

My boyfriend is still friends with three of his ex-girlfriends. I think this is inappropriate when he is in a committed relationship with me. What do you think?

-Debbie A

 

Dear Debbie:

In my opinion your immaturity and insecurity are inappropriate for a committed relationship. Adults should be free to choose their own friends. You either like this guy or you don’t. If you need to control him, spare him the drama and move on. I think it’s a good thing when people have shared hard times and they can still manage to be friends. Stop shopping for problems. Join a drama class if you need an outlet.

-Danice Akiyoshi ND

 

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

Fast Food

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

 

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

Most people have their favorite “Fast Food” restaurants.  The list is endless.  Some of my favorites include In-N-Out Burger and Chick-Fil-A.

The idea behind the fast food business is that you can get your food quickly without a long wait. The service is good, the food is good and you are able to be on your way.  There are usually plenty of places to park, and most include a drive-thru lane.

Recently, my son and I stopped at a fast food place on Labor Day.  We actually wondered if it would be open.  We knew that banks and post offices were closed.  We learned that other businesses had reduced hours. We were surprised to see that our restaurant was not only open, but packed with hungry customers.

While we were waiting in a rather long line to place our order, a man suddenly dashed into the restaurant almost knocking people down as he hurried into the restroom.  It happened so suddenly that I did not get a good look at the intruder.

Moments later, at least five police cars pulled up and surrounded the restaurant.  There were well-armed police everywhere.  Several entered the restaurant and someone pointed them to the men’s restroom.

As more police cars arrived on the scene, one officer entered the rest room and emerged with the fugitive.   There were so many policemen and police cars that it looked like a law enforcement convention.

Thankfully, the police quickly had the situation under control and no one was hurt.  The suspect did not resist arrest and everyone remained calm.

As my son and I ate our fast food, we reflected on what had just happened.  We realized that if the fugitive had possessed a weapon, it could have been a very dangerous situation with a very different outcome.

We were amazed that the employees did not stop working.  They kept taking orders and serving food. We were surprised that the customers did not panic or try to leave.  It all happened so quickly that no one really had time to react.

We were also thankful for the quick action of the law enforcement officers.  They arrived quickly, acted decisively and treated the suspect carefully.

As we left, my son and I were thankful that we were safe and that the restaurant got our order right.  The food was fast and the experience was one we will remember for a long time.

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

 

Attitude Is Everything

BY NANCY STOOPS

 

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Do you see a half-filled glass as half empty or as half full? Do you tend to see what’s wrong with your life, or do you focus on what is right with your life? Would you consider yourself a negative person or a positive person? Do you wake up everyday being happy to be alive and hopeful about a new day, or do you dread getting up?

The way that you have answered the above questions is probably also the way that you live your life, and the way you view your life. I believe having a positive attitude is foundational in being a successful human being. Being positive is essential to everything good that comes with this life. I think it all starts by being positive about who you are, and about behaving in a manner that makes you proud of whom you are.

Generally, if you like who you are and are a good person, people will like you as well. Also, if you like who you are, you will want only the best for yourself. This will cause you to go to college, get a good job, find a good mate, and believe that you can make your dreams comes true.

On the other hand, being negative only prevents you from following your dreams. Being negative also causes a lot of self doubt and really gets in the way of accomplishments.

Learn to look at the good in your life and at what you have done right so far. Learn from your mistakes, but don’t focus on them, otherwise your life will feel like one big mistake. Look at all that you already have going right for you and learn to build on the positive. If you do, more positivity will come to you.

 

This article was written by Nancy stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Diamond Bar, and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy also runs free family support groups, anger management groups, and special groups for seniors and teens. She is also available for motivational speaking engagements. For more information on any of these services, contact Nancy at (909)229-0727.

 

WOW

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

 

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

The word “wow” means a variety of things to different people.  It is an expression we use when we are delighted by an expected surprise.  It is a word we use when we try to describe a beautiful sunset or a majestic mountain peak. I’m sure that you could add to this list with additional ways you use, “wow”.

At our church the word “WOW” is the name of our Women’s Ministry Bible Study program.  The letters stand for, “Women of Worth”.

Every Wednesday morning over 100 women of all ages gather to study the Bible.  In addition, classes are available in the evening for women who cannot attend in the day time. There are classes that study specific books of the Bible and there are classes on subjects that are specifically geared for women.  Some of the studies being offered this fall include: Becoming the Woman of His Dreams; Choose Joy – Because Happiness Isn’t Enough; and A Study of the Book of Genesis.

Women of all ages participate in the WOW program.  Some are new mothers.  Others are empty-nesters. Some have a lot of background studying the Bible, and others are new to Bible study. Many of the women who attend WOW actually attend other churches in the community on Sundays.

This weekly program is available to women who want to deepen their knowledge of the Bible and strengthen their friendships with other women. WOW classes begin on Wed., Sept. 10, at 9 a.m. Child care is available for nursery and preschool children.

For more information, please visit our website at www.efreedb.org, or contact our Women’s Ministry Director, Nancy Salvato, at our church office, at (909) 594-7604.

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

 

 

Straight Talk With Danice

By DANICE AKIYOSHI N.D.

 

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

My best friend is in a relationship with a woman who seems to be controlling every move he makes. Even his opinions on worldly matters have drastically changed to match hers. He looks unhappy, but he never complains. I hate seeing him this way so I don’t socialize much with them anymore. I can tell my friend is hurt and puzzled when we see each other at business events. Should I be honest about my feelings?

-Jason

Dear Jason:

Yes, be honest. Tell him your concerns. Make sure he knows he can count on you in times of crisis, but that you’re not interested in casual socializing with them as a couple. Do not put her down in any way, this is unnecessary. Be clear that you would like to see him whenever he can break away. Do your best to keep in touch and try to show up for his major life events.

-Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

 

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

 

Great Things Are Possible If You Believe In Yourself

BY NANCY STOOPS

 

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

What is it that seems to set you apart from somebody you consider a successful human being? Do you find yourself always doubting your capabilities? Are you really willing to always settle for less than you really deserve? Don’t you understand that you have wings and that you really could fly if you just believed in who you are and how capable you are?

Please trust me when I tell you that there are no limits except the ones that are self imposed. You can be and have whatever you desire if you set goals and just keep moving toward them. If you do this, after a while you will be who you want to be and have the wonderful life that you are so very deserving of.

Right now this very moment make a promise to yourself that you refuse to settle anymore. Today is the day that you will change that mindset that allows you to always be less and have less of a life than you desire. Today is the day that you will discover your wings and each and every day from now on you will discover how to fly.

I want you to become the author of your very own fabulous script for your life. Tomorrow is much too long to wait because all you really have is today. Stop deceiving yourself and start being somebody you are proud of. I know if you tell yourself the truth you will grow into somebody you really want to be.

I have witnessed the transformation of many and have had the honor of helping in the process as well. Just know that I have faith in you and I know you can grow into who you are intended to be.

Learning Your Letters

By Pastor Mark Hopper

 

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

Some of our grandchildren have been in the area for a few weeks and we’ve really enjoyed our time with them.

One day, we went down to the beach and had a fun day swimming in the ocean and playing in the sand.  They loved digging holes and building castles. We also drew pictures and shapes in the wet sand.  They loved to watch the waves come in and erase what we had drawn.

At one point, I started writing the letters of the alphabet in the sand with the flat side of a small plastic shovel.  I was amazed to hear my little granddaughter reciting the name of each letter as I drew them.

Now, I know that every parent and every grandparent thinks that their kids are exceptionally smart.  But I think that my grandkids are even smarter! I was so amazed that a child so young already knew every letter by name.  Maybe this is normal, but I doubt it.  Who would have thought that a 2-year old would know and recognize every letter in the alphabet?

I’m sure that her parents should get much of the credit. I know they read books and stories every night before bed. And, I know that kids learn a lot of educational things by watching TV and children’s DVDs, too.

I don’t know how old your children or grandchildren are, but let me encourage you to start reading to them and helping them discover the joy of learning their letters. Letters become words and words become stories.  Stories become books and books become adventures.

There are few gifts that you can give to your children and grandchildren that are more valuable than the gift of reading.  Don’t wait for others to do the job for you.  Start today to help those little ones learn those letters.

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

 

 

Connecting The Dots

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

I usually have a pretty good sense of direction.  I don’t get lost easily and I can find my way to a destination without a lot of trouble.

One of the great tools of our time is the GPS system in our cars and on our phones.  These “Global Positioning Satellites” help us know our own location and help us find the location we are looking for. Recently I discovered that you cannot always trust the GPS.  My wife and I were on our way from Diamond Bar to a wedding in Apple Valley.  I have not been to Apple Valley before so we entered the address in the GPS on my phone. The wedding invitation included the address but did not have a map.

One dot on the GPS represented our current location as we drove east on the 10 Freeway.  The other dot represented our destination.  It looked pretty simple – connect the dots! But, as we got into the hills of Apple Valley, we got lost.  We tried to follow the GPS map on my phone, but we discovered that the destination we were looking for was not where it appeared on the map.

What can you do when you are lost and the dots don’t connect?  You phone a friend!  We called another couple who were already at the wedding and they helped get us back on the right road and guided us to our destination. Thankfully, the wedding had not started by the time we arrived and we were able to enjoy the special event.

I am sure that there are times in each of our lives where the “dots” don’t connect.  One of the best things you can do when you lose your direction and need help finding your way is to “phone a friend”.  That friend is God. In the New Testament there is a verse that says, “Let us approach the Throne of Grace with confidence so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need,” (Hebrews 4:16).

The best thing I can recommend when you need help and direction is to talk to God in prayer.  Tell Him your fears and uncertainties.  Ask Him for help and direction.  He is always available and promises to help you in your time of need.  He can connect the dots and help you find your way.

 

Taking Up Space Vs. Learning

BY NANCY STOOPS

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Every day that our children go to school they make a decision to either just take up space or to really learn. Most children are in school for the better part of their day. The law tells us our children need to get an education. Many children thrive and do very well, many do not.

This is a great time to have a discussion with your child about what they need to do to make this school year better. Explain to them that they have to be there and they have a choice to either take up space or really soak up what is being taught. Having the correct mindset can be a very powerful tool when one is trying to succeed in any area.

Take some time to explain how many hours they are spending at school and ask them if they like wasting their time.   I add up the hours my clients spend per year in the classroom and then I explain that they have a choice in how they can use those hours. I don’ think anybody likes the idea of wasting their time. Ask your children what worked for them last year and what they seem to need help with. Also remind them that some of the most brilliant people need help and that asking for help does not imply that you are unintelligent.

Help make this year your child’s best one yet. Explain how valuable their time in the classroom is. As the world becomes more competitive we as parents need to do all we can to help our children succeed. Getting a great education is a huge part of that recipe for success and so is helping them build the confidence they need.

This article was written by Nancy stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Diamond Bar, and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy also runs free family support groups, anger management groups, and special groups for seniors and teens. She is also available for motivational speaking engagements. For more information on any of these services, contact Nancy at (909)229-0727.

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