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What Color Is Your Car?

By Pastor Mark Hopper

I have heard people say that you can learn a lot about a person by the color of their car.

People with flashy red or bright yellow cars are probably seeking the attention of others.  This may be true.  I read somewhere that people who get the most traffic tickets are people who drive red cars and trucks.

I have also heard that people who desire less attention drive cars that blend in, like gray, silver or tan.  We have a gray car and a silver car.  So that must tell you something about my personality!

As I looked around our neighborhood, I noticed that one neighbor had only white vehicles parked in their driveway.  Every car and truck in their family was white.  Maybe this reflects the unity in their family?  However, I think I did notice a darker color recently.  Maybe more diversity is emerging at their house.

It is also surprising how many dark colored cars there are in our neighborhood.  One member of our family has a black Honda Accord.  Another neighbor has a black pickup truck.  Maybe the darker colors look more expensive and luxurious.

A few years ago, a hot topic in the news was the question, “What kind of car would Jesus drive?” This generated a lot of discussion and controversy.  My answer was that Jesus would probably drive a large passenger van so He could help bring people to church!

Maybe we can start a new discussion by asking, “What color car would Jesus drive?”  I’ll let you ponder this deep question.  I don’t know for sure, but I do know that the two passenger vans at our church are dark green.

There is a verse in the Bible that says, “Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart,” (I Samuel 16:7).  Maybe we should not give as much attention to the color of the cars our neighbors are driving.  Maybe we should focus on what is “under the hood”.

Let’s do the same with the people we meet each day.  Don’t focus on their hairstyle or the clothes they wear.  We should focus on their heart and realize that each person we meet is precious and valuable in God’s sight.

 

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

Industry Manufacturer Shut Down

Staff Reports

Photo Courtesy: Google Images

Photo Courtesy: Google Images

Industry – A lawsuit has been filed in federal court issuing an injunction to shut down Health One Pharmaceuticals, a manufacturer of dietary supplements based in the City of Industry.

The firm and its President, Richard S. Yeh, have agreed to shut down and stop production of adulterated and misbranded dietary supplements and unapproved new drugs in an effort to resolve the lawsuit as part of a consent decree.

According to the Department of Justice’s Acting Assistant Attorney General, Joyce R. Branda, “Protecting the health of American consumers is some of the most important work we do.  We have an unwavering commitment to ensuring that the dietary supplements in this country are safe and have been manufactured in accordance with federal law.”

Based on the results of FDA inspections, the suit alleged that Health One Pharmaceuticals violated laws in the preparation, packaging, and labeling of certain drugs that do not meet regulations required by federal law, and they have failed to conduct at least one appropriate test or examination to verify the identity of every dietary ingredient prior to using the ingredient.

In addition, the complaint alleged that some of the company’s products were unapproved new drugs intended for use in the cure, mitigation, treatment or prevention of disease that are not generally recognized as safe and effective for their intended uses, nor were they the subjects of new drug applications approved by the FDA.  This makes these drugs misbranded, because it is impossible to provide adequate directions for use.

The FDA referred this matter to the Department of Justice for investigation.  The Civil Division’s Consumer Protection Branch, together with the U.S. Attorney’s Office for the Central District of California, filed this case on behalf of the United States.

Straight Talk With Danice

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

My husband is a mechanic who works for an auto dealership.  He is a very nice man who takes on side jobs at our home on his days off.  I know it gives him satisfaction to help his friends and relatives who can’t afford dealership prices, but my house is always overrun with people dropping off their cars.  I feel like I don’t have any privacy.  People come into the house to use the restroom, or if they are friends and family they think I want to make time to visit with them.  I don’t want to be rude, but I have a lot to do on the weekend to keep things good for our family.  I work full time, too. We have two kids and we only see my husband if we go out to the garage on the weekends. I feel guilty complaining, because my husband is trying to help people.  He often doesn’t charge for his labor, so this is not helping our family financially either.  I can’t ignore this anymore.

-Frustrated Wife

 

Dear Frustrated Wife:

Your husband sounds like a decent man, but he is confused about how a family unit should work in order to keep the happiness and satisfaction levels in good shape.  It sounds like you are in charge of the children all weekend, while he serves friends, neighbors and family members.  I think your frustration stems from feeling like you are in it alone, and your marriage is suffering.  He would probably feel the same if he were in your shoes.

Let’s look at a few things.  Is your husband avoiding you for any reason?  Have you clearly communicated your frustration to him about having no privacy or time with him on the weekends?  Have you been over functioning on your own for a long time and has he come to believe this is acceptable?  Sit down with your husband privately and set some boundaries.  Discuss how the weekend routine needs to be in order for you to both have a satisfying experience.  Do not wait until your resentment is so severe that you no longer desire his company.  Good Luck.

-Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

 

The Walnut Youth Commission

By Nancy Stoops

Recently I was invited to attend a meeting of the Walnut Youth Commission.  I was impressed by their goals, and so I asked Doris Li – one of the Youth Commissioners – to help me write an article about them.

The Walnut Youth Commission is made up of 15 students from high schools in and around the City of Walnut. They meet on the second Monday of every month.  Some of the issues that they are trying to deal with are environmental waste and bullying.

As a therapist, I know how detrimental bullying can be. So far this year, they have planned an anti-bullying day and a day that helps students prepare for entering high school.  They act as role models for these students as well as advising them about all of the clubs high schools offer, and act as a support system for this population.  I know how hard the transition between middle school and high school can be, and I am glad the Youth Commission is there to help with this process.

Their main goal is just to improve the already very wonderful community of Walnut, which was highlighted as one of the best cities in America by Money Magazine.  Doris tells me that the Youth Commissioners are proud to be part of this wonderful community.  They feel lucky living in a city and community that provides so much support and so many programs that make it such a great place for family and students to thrive.  I must say I thoroughly agree with Doris and the mindset of the Youth Commissioners, and feel blessed to live in such a wonderful community.

As wonderful as our community is, the Youth Commission and I want to make even better.  I feel I can rest a little easier knowing the youth of this community is getting involved and trying to make it even better.

If you have interest in becoming part of this wonderful commission, please contact the City of Walnut at (909) 595-7543.

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T.  Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients; she is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members.  Nancy runs free family support groups, including a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger. For more information about any of these services feel free to contact her at (909) 229-0727, or via email at nancyjstoops@verizon.net.  Nancy’s books, “Midnight the Therapy Dog,” and “Live, Heal and Grow,” are available at Amazon.com.

The Annual Survey

By Pastor Mark Hopper

Every January, we do a simple survey at our church.  We have found this survey to be helpful as we evaluate how our church is doing and what we may need to change in the future.

Every year we ask the same three questions. First, we ask each family or individual, “How long have you been coming to our church?” The answers range from a few months to over 30 years!  One thing this helps us learn is how many new people have become regular attendees during the past year. In addition, it helps us see how many other people remain a part of our church year after year.

The second question we ask is, “How did you find our church”?  The answer to this question helps us understand what or who introduced new people to our church.  The answers are not surprising.  Some say they found our church by driving by.  Younger adults found our church on the Internet.  But the vast majority of people say that they found our church through the invitation of a friend or family member.

We use the phrase that “God uses people to bring other people to Himself”.  There is a passage in the New Testament in Second Corinthians 5:17-21 that says, “We are His Ambassadors”.  God’s plan is to use people to tell other people about Him.  Inviting a friend, neighbor, classmate or co-worker to church is one of the best ways to introduce them to God.

Newspaper advertisements and programs on the radio may attract some people, but the best advertising is word of mouth.   When people hear about a new restaurant or a new clothing store from a friend, they are more likely to try it for themselves.  We have learned that people are more likely to visit church when they are invited by a friend, neighbor, co-worker or family member.

The third question we ask in our annual survey is, “Share some things you like about our church”.  The answers to this question help us understand why people stay at our church.  Although we get a lot of different answers to this question like kids programs, worship services, good looking pastor, etc., the most frequent reply is that they found our church to be friendly and they made significant friendships with others here.

Relationships are the glue that keeps people coming back.  Adults, teens and children who make friends want to keep coming.  On the other hand, we have seen that those who do not make friends tend to not stay or get involved.

Pastor Larry Osborne at the North Coast Evangelical Free Church near San Diego wrote a book titled, “Sticky Church.”  He echoes this same idea.  People are looking for significant relationships.  They tend to stay where they connect with other people.

This principle has led us to give more emphasis to small groups with our teens and adults. We encourage people to find a small group of people in our church who are in a similar stage of life or have similar interests.

I’m sure there are more questions we could ask each year and more things we could learn.  But these three questions have helped us learn – and hopefully improve – some of the ministries and priorities of our church.

As you begin the New Year, let me encourage you to visit a church near you.  Ask a trusted friend or neighbor where they go to church.  Visit a few times and make an effort to get to know others in your stage of life.  Go online and learn about the church’s vision and values.

One word of warning:  You will never find a perfect church.  Every church is filled with imperfect people.  A church is a place to find hope, forgiveness and purpose for living.  Make sure that the church you find believes the Bible and teaches the Bible.  Build your faith on the Bible.

Grow in your faith with other people at a local church in this New Year.

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

Straight Talk With Danice

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

I overheard my brother’s girlfriend trying to hook up with our cousin at a family party.  My brother and my cousin are best friends.  I told my cousin I heard what she said to him.  He told me not to worry about it because he was not attracted to her. I think we should tell my brother, but he said no, that it would just cause a bunch of problems.  I don’t want my brother to get hurt, but I don’t want him to fight with my cousin either.  Should I keep it to myself?

-P. L.

Dear P.L.:

If I were in your shoes, I would confront the ‘girlfriend’ and tell her that you’re aware of her shabby behavior.  Ask her to be honest with your brother if she is no longer interested in being in a relationship with him.  Make it clear that if you see or hear unbecoming conduct from her again, that you will share the details with your brother.  Try very hard to stay out of this sort of business.  It often doesn’t end well for the person in the messenger role.

-Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

2015, The Magic Year

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

By Nancy Stoops

 

Once again, Happy New Year to all of you wonderful beings. Yes, it’s a new beginning for us all.   It’s a chance to start fresh and finally become who we are meant to be.

 

The New Year brings unlimited possibilities and new energy that helps us believe that the sky is the limit.  The New Year gives us hope and many new chances.  I say, take these chances and make this year the best one ever!

 

Start this process by setting some small, very obtainable, daily goals.  Once you’re in the groove and have met the daily goals, it’s now time to set a realistic goal for the year.  You may or may not ever meet the year end goal, but it’s all about the steps or the process that we take in our attempt that cause us to change.  That’s what I want you all to focus on this year.  So what if you never get there all the way, you’re certainly moving in the right direction. Be proud of what you are able to do this year and don’t beat yourself up for what you couldn’t do.

 

I hope you will be good to yourselves this year and finally work toward who you are meant to be.  I want you to remember it’s all here for you; all you have to do is believe in yourself and go get what you deserve.

 

So, I dedicate this to all of you in hope that this will be a magical year. I wish for all of you to get out there and find all the greatness that exists in you and our very wonderful world.  It all starts by believing in yourself.

 

I believe in all of you, and want you to be the very best you can be!

A Day At The Zoo

By Pastor Mark Hopper

 

During our recent Christmas travel, we enjoyed spending a day at the city zoo with our grandkids.

 

This was quite an adventure, and the grandkids loved it.

 

We saw tall giraffes, powerful lions and lots of monkeys.  We saw two huge Rhinos and several formidable Hippos.  They were amazing.

 

There was an entertaining bird show with hawks, parrots and an ostrich.  The hawks dove right toward the audience and flew right over our heads.  We ducked for cover!

 

There was also a sea lion and dolphin show.  These beautiful animals performed some remarkable feats that the audience loved.  Four young children from the audience even had the opportunity to meet and touch the sea lions and dolphins.

 

An aerial tram provided a bird’s eye view of the entire zoo.  It was helpful to see the animal living areas from a different perspective.

 

As we left the zoo, my wife commented on how amazing it is to see the beauty and diversity of God’s creation.  The colors of the birds, the size of the animals and the gracefulness of the sea lions and dolphins were remarkable.

 

In the Old Testament, there is a book called Job.  In Chapters 38 and 39, God asks Job to consider all of the things that He has created.  God uses this as an object lesson to help Job understand that He is far greater and more powerful than we will ever comprehend.

 

God refers to lions and mountain goats, hawks and ostriches, horses and oxen.  All of these are examples of God’s majesty and creativity.

 

The next time you go to the zoo, I hope you will be reminded of the wonderful world that God created for all of us to enjoy!

 

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

San Gabriel Valley: Community Events

Staff Reports

 

UPCOMING EVENTS:

Citizens’ Police Academy

When:  Wednesdays, 6:30 to 9 p.m., Feb. 4 to March 25

Where:  Pomona Police Department, 490 W. Mission Blvd; Pomona City Hall, 505 S. Garey Avenue.

Details:  The Pomona Police Department is offering an eight week program that provides citizens with the opportunity to learn about the inner workings of the Police Department.  Space is limited to 40 approved applicants.  Beginning Jan. 5, applications can be obtained at the front desk of the Pomona Police Department or at the Crime Prevention Office at City Hall.

Contact:  Crime Prevention, (909) 620-2318.

REGULAR EVENTS:

Alcohol and Addiction Intervention Information

When: Third Tuesday, monthly; 6 p.m.

Where:  Aurora Charter Oak Hospital, 1161 E. Covina Blvd., Covina

Details:  Free information sessions about the intervention process, a powerful tool to combat alcoholism and addiction.  Attendees can expect to learn what the intervention process consists of, when an intervention is appropriate, and what local resources are available.  Space is limited and reservations are recommended.

Contact:  Call (626) 859-5269, or visit http://www.charteroakhospital.com.

Free Acupuncture for Veterans, Active Military, First Responders

When: Every Tuesday at 5 p.m.

Where: 12598 Central Avenue, Unit 113, Chino, CA 91710.

Cost: Free

Contact: (909) 590-4183 or http://www.healingcirclecommunityacupuncture.com

Jack Newe’s Farmers Market sponsored by SGV Regional Chamber of Commerce

When: Every Saturday from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m.

Where: Mt. San Antonio College Campus, Parking Lot B, 1100 N. Grand Avenue, Walnut CA 91789

Cost: Free Admission/Parking

Features: Seasonal organic produce, breads and cakes, olive oils, cheese and spreads, a variety of nursery plants, hand-crafted items and jewelry, fresh-popped Kettle Corn and grilled food plates.

Contact: (909) 869-0701

 

Did You Know?

By K.P. Sander

 

January 17 will mark the birth date of a man who some say was “the very first American.”  Benjamin Franklin was born in Boston, Massachusetts in 1706.  He was one of ten children born to Josiah Franklin – an English-born businessman – and his second wife, Abiah Folger.

According to Wikipedia, Franklin was a “leading author, printer, political theorist, politician, postmaster, scientist, inventor, civic activist, statesman and diplomat.”  He was quite the Renaissance man, and certainly one of the most influential and gifted men of his time.

While this Champion of American Independence’s accomplishments are too numerous to list, Franklin is most widely known as being one of five men to draft the Constitution of the United States.  He is famously quoted as saying to John Hancock at the signing of the document, “Yes, we must, indeed, all hang together, or most assuredly we shall all hang separately.”

Most of us can remember our elementary schooling lessons about Franklin with a key on a kite string in a lightning storm, but in fact, he conducted many electrical experiments.  He was the first to label electricity under different pressures as positive and negative. He also used a kite to collect some electric charge from a storm cloud, which led to the understanding that lightning was electrical. His experiments led to the invention of the lightning rod, helping to prevent buildings from lightning strikes.  In 1753, Franklin received the Royal Society’s (a scientific advisor to the British government) Copley Medal in recognition of his work with electricity.  He was later elected as a Fellow of the Society – one of very few invited.

In his lifetime, Franklin held many positions, including:  6th President of Pennsylvania; United States Minister to France; United States Minister to Sweden; 1st United States Postmaster General; Speaker of the Pennsylvania Assembly; and Member of the Pennsylvania Assembly.

Franklin died at the age of 84 on April 17, 1790 at his home in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.  It is said that approximately 20,000 people attended his funeral.  Franklin left behind two children, William Franklin, and Sarah Franklin Bache (his first son with common-law wife Deborah Reed – Francis Folger Franklin – died in 1734 of smallpox at the age of 4).  Deborah Reed Franklin died of a stroke in 1774 while Franklin was away in England.

Interestingly enough, Franklin – always clever – bequeathed £1,000 (around $4,400 at the time) to his beloved cities, Boston and Philadelphia.  The money was to be held in trust gathering interest for 200 years.  By 1990, Philadelphia had accumulated more than $2 million – some was used between 1940 and 1990 for mortgage loans – which was ultimately spent on scholarships for local high school students.  The Boston trust fund had amassed almost $5 million, which funded the Franklin Institute of Boston (a trade school).

Happy Birthday, Benjamin Franklin.  Thank you for a lifetime of contributions for our betterment.

 

A Brand New Start

By Nancy Stoops

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

A brand new year is here.  It offers a fresh start and a new chance for all.  Happy New Year to everybody!  I hope you had a peaceful and joyful holiday season.  I bet you’re thinking about what you would like to accomplish this New Year.

Let me start by saying, don’t look backward or forward, just look at today.  What would you like to do with today?  What are some behaviors you would like to change?  What do you want from today?  If you can answer these questions and do what you need to, you are on your way.

All we have is today so behave in a new way that moves you closer to your goals.  If you continue with that new behavior for the days in your future, you will eventually meet those goals.

Start this year being filled with hope and a new found belief in yourself.  Please don’t pay attention to past failures.  Instead focus on the here and now, because it truly offers a new chance.  Isn’t the thought of a chance for a brand new start exciting?  All you need is to believe, and I think anything is possible.

So learn to believe in yourself and in brand new starts.  Just for a moment close your eyes and see yourself meeting your goals and how very great you feel.

Brand new starts require brand new, positive attitudes.  So leave that negative attitude with your past and for today and all the new days to follow, believe you can fly and that there are no limits.  Make this year about making your dreams come true.  Take this New Year and become who you are truly intended to be.

I wish you peace, joy and luck in learning to embrace your very wonderful life!

 

If You’re Happy And You Know It, Fill Your Tank!

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Staff Reports

USA – Noticed anything at the gas stations lately?  That’s right, it’s almost affordable!

The price of gasoline has been on the decline for months, and it economists are correct, 2015 should continue to see prices drop; Bankrate.com measures that American drivers could save about $500 on gasoline this year.  Considering the prices were upward of $5.00 per gallon several years back, this is a considerable relief on our wallets and budgets overall.

The average price in the Walnut-Diamond Bar area is about $2.40 per gallon, but it doesn’t stop on a personal level.  A boon of $100 billion could be realized in the American economy if the price of crude oil stays low.

The European economy is behind some of the speculation, but since 2008 America has increased domestic supply by as much as 50 percent.  States like Texas and Oklahoma have doubled their production in recent years, making us less dependent on Saudi, Arabia.

Let’s hope this is a sign of the times for years to come.

 

 

Straight Talk With Danice

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

 

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

I am 51 years old.  I have recently lost an incredible amount of weight and everyone is commenting on how sunken in my face looks.  I lost weight hoping I would look and feel better and avoid people’s constant comments about my appearance.  It almost seems worse than before.  Can you recommend any face plumping products that might help me?

-S. Sanchez

 

Hi, S. Sanchez:

I recommend that you not be so tolerant of people who pick your appearance apart.  Seems rather rude, but you didn’t request advice about that issue so I will move on.  J

Regarding facial filling products, visit a plastic surgeon or a dermatologist for advice on this topic.

-Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her atstraighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

Christmas In A Foreign Country

By Pastor Mark Hopper

Recently we traveled across the ocean to spend Christmas with all of our family. Since some of our adult kids live in foreign countries, we flew from Los Angeles to Europe so we could celebrate Christmas with them.

We don’t travel often, but when we take those long ten to 12-hour flights, we are reminded of just how far it is. We typically leave L.A. in the evening and fly through the night to arrive in Europe the next day. And then, there is usually a layover in a foreign airport before we get our connecting flight to our final destination. It often takes 18 to 20 hours.

It is hard for me to sleep sitting up in a narrow seat on a crowded airplane through the middle of the night. Thankfully, the movie selections were good this time, but the meals were some of the worst we have experienced on an international flight.

We arrived at our destination at about 10 p.m. European time and got to our destination an hour later. It was a long trip. The grandkids were already in bed so we tried to sleep and adjust to the eight hour time change. We quickly remembered that jet lag is real.

On most international airlines, you are allowed one check-in bag and one smaller carry-on per person. Since we were going for Christmas, our two large check-in bags were filled to capacity with Christmas presents, and we packed our limited amount of clothes in the two small carry-on bags. Clearly, the presents were the priority!

When we were greeted by our smiling grandkids the next day, we knew that all of the hours of travel and the expenses were worth it. They were thrilled with all of the gifts that we brought and we enjoyed all of the time we shared with them.
This was the first time in three years that we had all of our kids and grandkids together. And, we think it was the first time in a decade that we were all together on Christmas.

I hope you enjoyed a wonderful Christmas with your family and friends. This was a Christmas that we will remember for the rest of our lives.

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Ave. Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit http://www.efreedb.org.

Get Outta Your Bubble In 2015

By Jennifer Jester-Madrigal

jennifer-Jester-MadrigalHey, you! You over there with the phone in your hand, getting ready to take your hundredth selfie with your kids playing at the park…it’s time to put the phone down and really look around.

You see that old man over there walking his dog, bent over from years of arthritis but still smiling? He’s looking around, hoping that someone takes the time to stop and say hello to him and maybe engage in a little conversation. Bet you didn’t know that he served in two wars, or that he married the love of his life when he was 22, and is the father to six children and 13 grandchildren. Or did you know that his beloved wife, Rose, died last year and that he has been lost every since.

How could you know? You were too busy trying to get that next selfie, busily rearranging your kids’ hair and clothing, and sucking in your gut so that the picture looked as good as it possibly could. I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with selfies (if you know me, you know that I enjoy annoying people by forcing them to selfie with me), but there is something wrong, when as a culture we no longer see what is around us.

We are the “Gotta Have It All NOW!” generation and not only do we have to have it now, we want the best of it, and we think we deserve the best. We seek out the best and the most current technology and then take photos of ourselves enjoying it as a way of showing the social media world that we matter.

Our worth is, in essence, tied to our value on social media. Do you ‘Like’ me? Facebook and Instagram have become the “highlight reels” of our lives and others compare their lives to our “best of” moments.

What they don’t see are the tear stained pillows, the loud fights, the struggling addicts, or the sense of loss that so many people hide. Often, we hide ourselves behind the filtered lens of the camera, choosing how we can filter our lives to hide our flaws. Is it a Sepia day, a Valencia day, or maybe even a Sierra filter kind of day?

Perhaps in 2015, we will put the phone away for a day, stop capturing every moment, and instead take the time to walk our chubby little toddler over to the old man sitting by himself and say hello.

I challenged myself to this a few weeks ago and walked over to an older man walking his dog by himself. I was walking with my clapping, flapping, autistic, deaf son, Nicholas, desperately trying to tire him out so he’d sleep through the night. Walter was trying to do the same with his spunky puppy. So we walked together, his arthritic gait matched Nicholas’ developmentally delayed gait. He held on to his puppy’s leash to keep her safe just as I held on to Nicholas to keep him safe. We walked and we talked and he told me stories and we shared our sadness over losing those we loved so much.

Walter may be about 50 years older than me, but we have a lot in common and I never would have known that if I didn’t get out of my bubble. For Christmas, I brought him cookies and Oreo balls, and he proposed to me in return. I had to let him down gently, as he’s much too handsome and wild for me, but I gained a great friend.

I got out of my bubble, put my phone down and walked a little walk with a new buddy, and I’m all the better for it.

 

Did You Know?

By K.P. Sander

Did-You-KnowHappy New Year! Did you know that the very first time the New Year was celebrated on January 1st, was in Rome in 153 B.C. The month of January did not even exist until around 700 B.C., when the second king of Rome, Numa Pontilius, added the months of January and February to the annual calendar.

Around the world, different countries celebrate New Year’s Eve in their own particular manner, with social gatherings, eating, drinking alcoholic beverages, some sort of fireworks display…and the “countdown”. In some U.S. cities, you can still hear firecrackers popping and the banging of pots and pans – a celebration of the 50s and 60s – in nostalgic fashion.

Perhaps the most popular celebration comes from New York City; it is watched via television the world over. The very first New Year’s Eve celebration in Times Square was in 1903. According to Wikipedia, Adolph Ochs, the owner of the New York Times, decided to celebrate the opening of his new headquarters, located at One Times Square, with a fireworks show displayed from the roof of the building.   Nearly 200,000 people attended the event.

Wanting to improve upon the spectacle each year, Ochs had one of his electricians design an electrically lit time ball to draw more attention. The ball was made of wood and iron and weighed 700 pounds. Approximately 5 feet in diameter, the ball was lit with one hundred incandescent bulbs and hoisted on the building’s flagpole by a team of six men. As the ball dropped, it completed an electrical circuit to a large sign indicating the New Year. That first “ball drop” occurred on Dec. 31, 1907 – welcoming in 1908 – and it has been a tradition ever since.

The New Year is a brand new beginning, a fresh start; a time for resolutions – often overstatements of intent – to change behaviors and start anew. What did you resolve to change on New Year’s Eve? Some say the very best resolution – and the one most frequently found successful – is the resolve to implement no more New Year’s Resolutions. Whatever your traditions, here’s hoping that your New Year is full of blessings and joy.

 

 

You Think We Don’t Notice

By Sarah Sanchez

 

I’m a small group leader for our church’s high school ministry, and the most common prayer request is for my students’ parents. The students I have are very aware of their parents’ problems (whether the parents know it or not), because the requests range from “my parents are fighting,” or “my parents are struggling with money,” to “my parents might be getting a divorce soon”.

One girl in particular asked us to pray for her relationship with her dad.  She said she wanted to build a relationship with him, but his actions made it seem like he had no interest in doing so. She went on to say that every time she and her brothers hung out with him, she would notice her dad daze off as they talked, glance over at his phone, or start talking about what’s going on in his own life, with no interest in them. In addition, she said that the previous weekend when he was supposed to take them out, he came up with an excuse to get out of it. Then she said, “He thinks we don’t notice”.

This particular statement stuck with me, basically, because it’s true. Parents often live by the “do as I say, not as I do” principle. Yet children look up to their parents as role models, mimicking their actions, no matter what age they are. Whether we are children or adults with our own children, we’ll always look to what we’re familiar with: what our parents used to do. However, the main problem children are facing is that parents aren’t LIVING the way children should mimic.

So the question is, what are you parents going to do about it?

Speaking on behalf of your children, we understand you’re not perfect. We don’t expect you to be. But what we’re looking for are the values and morals you LIVE by, and the way you treat yourself and others. It’s the basics; because in our eyes, you’ll always be our heroes. We’ll always admire you and look up to you no matter what.  But please do us a favor, and have your actions speak louder than your words.

My student’s dad told her and her brothers that he wanted to build a relationship with them, but his actions said otherwise. Those little things can change a child’s whole perspective. Those eye rolls, dazes when we talk, whispering in the next room, mocking the in-laws, loud yelling and disrespecting during fights, cursing another driver, drinking after a fight or a long day; these are all actions you’re teaching us to mimic.

And you think we don’t notice…but we always do.

 

Local Families Help Donate Life At The Rose Parade

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Image Courtesy: DonateLifeCalifornia.org

San Gabriel Valley – Local families are paying tribute to loved ones by sharing their gift-of-life legacies in the upcoming Rose Parade, in the form of “Floragraphs” on the Donate Life Rose Parade Float.According to Donate Life California, more than 70 organizations will join together to help inspire people to become organ, eye and tissue donors in an effort to save the lives by creating awareness at the Rose Parade. 2015 will signify the 12th year that Donate Life California has participated in one of the world’s most visible campaigns available.

Covina’s Jesus “Jesse” Cruz lost his life at just 20 years of age. In September 2010, at a Rio Hondo College wrestling meet, the athlete and star student collapsed during one of his matches, and was unable to be resuscitated. A few years previous, Jesse told his family he wanted to become a donor if anything should happen to him; a fortuitous decision for others.

Diamond Bar’s Lo family will honor 78-year old donor, Sandy Lo, who not only lived a life of grace and giving to others, but saved the lives of five others through her donations. Lo was an immigrant from Taiwan who worked her way up in the clothing industry. She continued to volunteer in her community long after retirement; including cooking meals for Hurricane Sandy victims in a tireless effort that family reportedly says was just part of her everyday demeanor. Lo passed away in February 2013 from a stroke.

Glendora’s 48-year old Joseph “Jody” Culver, who in October 2008 suffered a fatal heart attack, has benefitted more than 95 individuals with cornea, tissue and bone transplants from his gifts. His memory has been greatly enhanced through his donor wishes. Culver’s January 1st birthday will also be remembered at the Rose Parade.

For the families of these individuals, there is a certain solace associated with the gifts of life that have occurred because of these acts of generosity. Knowing that your loved one lives on through others, and has created so many possibilities in those lives brings about bittersweet consolation.

“The Never-Ending Story” is the title of the Donate Life Rose Parade float, and it features “beautiful butterflies emerging from storybooks to symbolize the enduring power of organ, eye and tissue donation and transplantation. The butterflies ascend above 72 volumes adorned with Floragraph portraits – all created with organic materials – of deceased donors whose legacies are nurtured by their loved ones.”

Donate Life California says that 12 living organ donors whose stories have become intertwined with those of their recipients will be walking alongside the float this year. In addition, 30 riders representing transplant recipients who celebrate the new chapters of their lives made possible through the generosity of donors will be seated among thousands of dedicated roses onboard.

The 126th Tournament of Roses Parade begins on New Year’s Day 2015 at 8 a.m. and features floral floats, marching bands and equestrian units that all travel the more than five miles down Colorado Boulevard in Pasadena. The Rose Parade is presented by Honda, and is seen by millions of people worldwide each year.

For more information about the parade, visit www.tournamentofroses.com. For more information about the Donate Life Rose Parade Float and organ donation, visit www.donatelifecalifornia.org.

 

 

Straight Talk With Danice

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

 

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

When it comes to my group of friends, I am the smart one.  My friends get themselves into trouble and then they call me to help them figure it out.  I help them as much as I can, but sometimes I have problems of my own or I’m just plain tired so I don’t return their call or text right away.  Then the nasty messages start.  They are trying to make me feel guilty.  I don’t get this.  I was only trying to help in the first place.

-Amber.

 

Hi, Amber:

Here is the age old question, “What do we really “owe” our friends and family?”  In my opinion, just because you’re the smart one doesn’t mean that you owe anyone your thinking skills and problem solving talent.  It’s different in the work place. If you are hired to do a job, then they are renting your skills and intelligence by giving you a paycheck, so you realize you’d be wise to perform.  When it comes to your personal life, I’ll offer my opinion.  You owe every human being simple “decency.”  You only owe your personal time, skills, effort, care, etc. to your spouse (because the two of you have formed a team), your minor children, and any animals you have caused to become dependent on you.  Maybe your parents should be on this list, too, but only if they are decent human beings.  Aside from these people, any gift of your time, skills, intelligence and resources should be considered a PERSONAL FAVOR.  If people have a sense of entitlement with you, fix that situation.  Remember the words, “Personal Favor.”  Do not feel guilty for having boundaries.  Good Luck.

-Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her atstraighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

 

 

 

Pomona Unified School District Forges Alliance With 7-Eleven

By Juliette Funes

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Pomona – In its continued efforts to bolster services provided to students and their families through community collaborations, the Pomona Unified School District is forging a new partnership with 7-Eleven, who donated $7,011 during a check presentation ceremony on Dec. 11 at their Murchison Avenue store. The funds will support the District’s Mental Health Program.

All Pomona 7-Eleven franchisee owners – who will be regular contributors to the District’s charitable foundation, PUPIL; corporate representatives; and Cortez Elementary Math and Science Magnet School students, attended the festive event celebrating the gift and new community alliance.

The international convenience chain store’s donation will go toward the District’s Family Support & Resource Center, which provides mental health services and support to families who want to improve the quality of their lives and homes.

The Family Support & Resource Center supports PUSD students and families with a variety of services that address mental health, alcohol and substance abuse, domestic violence, health care and housing assistance. The center also provides emergency basic support referrals and assistance for clothing, food, utilities and school items. The Pomona Unified Partners in Learning (PUPIL) Foundation was created to raise needed funds to ensure the continued success of all PUSD students.