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Waiting for Some Relief

BY NANCY STOOPS

Things happen in our lives that literally seem to make us feel as if we couldn’t possibly go on. When my brother, Rory,

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committed suicide, I thought that was the end of me; but I survived. Then my other brother, Jeff, was murdered, and once again I thought for sure I was finished; but I went on. My father was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and a week later he died. Now this one almost did destroy me, but I found my way out of the darkness and back to the living.

I’ve learned much of my life is out of my control and things happen that I hate. I also have learned that the only thing I have power over is myself, and how I play the cards I am dealt. When horrific things occur in our lives we feel as if we can’t breathe, move or go on. We sit around just praying for some relief from all of the pain. Prayers always help, but we also need to help ourselves out of the darkness. We can’t just wait around for some miraculous way to feel relief. We need to reach out and get some help when our pain is bigger than we are. If we stay in it, it will swallow us up.

We deserve to heal and to move on. I, too, have had to ask for help in the past. Get up and make that phone call to start living your life again. Don’t you think you have suffered enough and that it’s time to let go of your past and of all that pain? Isn’t it time to stop ignoring the red flags with your child or teenager and finally reach out and get them some help? Isn’t it about time you got some very much needed relief? Stop waiting for the tomorrows because too many have already come and gone; get help today!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups for teens. For more information about any of these services feel free to page her at (626) 935-3818. You may also email her at stoopsshecter@earthlink.net. Nancy’s book, “Live, Heal and Grow” is available for purchase at http://www.RoseDogBookstore.com or Amazon.com

 

 

Straight Talk With Danice

BY DANICE AKIYOSHI, N.D.
Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

My cousin and I had a nice time planning a bridal shower for her future daughter-in-law. I booked a private room in an upscale restaurant that is owned by a dear friend of mine. She gave me a very good deal, and we were proud of how nice it was going to turn out. I was more than happy to host this party as a gift to the bride and groom, as well as my cousin. I was upset when my cousin called me in tears. She said her future daughter-in-law wasn’t happy with our food selections. She wanted to see the menu so she could select the meal and appetizers. She was also unhappy that we were planning to serve a traditional cake for dessert. She said, “That’s for old ladies,” and that her friends would want something different. I was furious, shocked, and hurt. This ungrateful girl did not deserve all the nice things we had planned for her. I wanted to cancel the whole thing, even though it was too late to get my money back. My cousin pleaded with me to reconsider. She asked me to speak to my friend at the restaurant to see if we could change the menu. I will probably do this because of my love for my cousin and her son, but I have decided not to attend the shower. Do you think I am being too harsh?

Bella

 

Dear Bella:

Wow. I am shaking my head. I know I should probably tell you to take the high road; keep the family harmony in place; turn the other cheek; allow this young woman to grow up a bit; do it for your cousin and her son; and go to the shower because it’s only one day out of your life. BUT…I’m not going to say any of that today.

When you allow people to behave in an abusive manner, with no consequences, you are giving them the impression that their behavior is acceptable. This is a huge mistake. With this immature, ungrateful, classless girl, there will be no family harmony anyway, so there is nothing to preserve. If I were in your shoes, I would let the party go on exactly as you planned it, with no changes. I say this only because you can’t get your money back. If a refund was in fact possible, I would cancel the shower. You owe NOTHING to this girl. Her sense of entitlement is appalling, and so are her manners. Do not accommodate her poor behavior in any way. Help your cousin understand that this has nothing to do with your love for her. The poor woman is in for a hell of a ride if she doesn’t learn to state her personal boundaries as well. If a sincere apology is ever offered, accept it, and start fresh. Holding a grudge is a waste of time.

Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She has a great passion for alternative healing and has over 20 years of experience in this field. She provides a form of energy psychology called The Emotion Code, where she helps people literally get rid of their emotional baggage. She also offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

 

 

Pomona: Newborn Girl Surrendered

BY K.P. SANDER

 

Pomona – Supervisor Don Knabe has long been a proponent of protecting the innocent and vulnerable children in Los Angeles County. In fact, he established the “Safe Surrender” program, which allows a mother to legally surrender an infant that is no more than three days old – as long as the infant shows no signs of abuse – to any L.A. County hospital or fire station, with no questions asked.

Knabe, who represents the Fourth District (stretching from Marina del Rey to Diamond Bar) for the Los Angeles County Board of Supervisors, reported that another newborn was safely surrendered at a Pomona hospital on Mon., June 16. This is the 119th infant to be surrendered since the inception of his program 13 years ago, and the sixth one this year. Another baby girl was surrendered in Tarzana just this month, on June 2.

“In the last few weeks, two mothers have made the difficult, but brave, choice to safely surrender their babies,” Knabe said. “Now these two baby girls have the chance to grow up and be part of a loving family.”

The newborns are tended to at the hospital, and then placed in protective custody. Families that have been approved for adoption by the Department of Children and Family Services will have a chance to welcome these precious infants into their homes.

One can only speculate about the situations surrounding women faced with this type of choice. But a newborn that is safely surrendered is definitely a cause for celebration in contrast to the horrors of those found in dumpsters or otherwise. The right choice can be made, anonymously, and without shame or blame.

baby-safe-la-logoIf you would like to know more about the Safe Surrender Program, visit BabySafeLA.org.

 

Straight Talk With Danice

BY DANICE AKIYOSHI, N.D. 

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

 

I am 30, and my fiancé is 32. We travel all the time. We’ve taken trips all over the world together. I couldn’t have a better match. Now that our wedding is only five months away, he has made a few comments about how long we should wait before we start a family. I didn’t know he had these thoughts, and I don’t know how to tell him that I don’t want any kids. I want our lives to stay fun and carefree. He never makes time for any of his nieces and nephews, so I thought he felt the same way I do. He doesn’t even want a dog because he said it’s too much work and obligation, and would get in the way of our traveling. We are both into ourselves, and I like it that way. I’m not sure if he’s changing or if he’s just trying to do what everyone else does after they get married. I don’t think I’ll change my mind about having kids. I wish I would have known this before we got engaged.

 

Anonymous

 

Dear Anonymous:

 

I know you’ll hate to hear this, but now is not the time to remain self-focused or silent. Getting married is like being on a team. You must consider the other person, or there is no reason to become a team in the first place. You admit that you are both self-centered people and enjoy that lifestyle. Is it possible that he is trying to start a conversation to see if you might change your mind and desire children in the future? This is important. Be honest, and admit your true feelings. This is a big issue to consider. You must be on the same page before you get married. Get the conversation started immediately.

 

Good Luck,

Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She has a great passion for alternative healing and has over 20 years of experience in this field. She provides a form of energy psychology called The Emotion Code, where she helps people literally get rid of their emotional baggage. She also offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

 

Diamond Bar Council Courner June 17th Recap

BY ARIEL CARMONA, JR. 

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Diamond Bar City Hall (Photo Courtesy: City of Diamond Bar)

Diamond Bar – In a mid-year report to the City Council during their June 17 meeting, Captain Jeffrey Scroggin and members of his staff at the Walnut/Diamond Bar Sheriff’s Station reported that overall, crime is down substantially in the City; and down 30 percent thus far in 2014, with theft-related crimes down more than 35 percent. Scroggin attributed the reduction in crime statistics to newly implemented programs, including a Special Problems Team consisting of deputies dedicated to address crime trends, ongoing neighborhood and business watch programs, and the City’s recently implemented rewards programs where residents are paid for providing tips leading to arrests of criminals in the area.

Scroggin said crimes reported to the FBI Uniform Crime Index in Diamond Bar include criminal homicide, forcible rape, burglary and arson. He added that crimes against persons are slightly up this year, but the numbers are still comparatively very low. There were 21 assaults in 2014 as opposed to 17 in 2013.

According to Scroggin, 12 of the assaults involved domestic violence. “Those are really situations we can’t control as a policing agency; that is in the home, but you can see that over half of our assaults involve some type of domestic violence,” he said.

There were three victims of rape in 2014, only one more than in 2013. “The rapes are very important crimes to us because that is such a violent act. I can report that we’ve had no stranger rapes, where someone’s been kidnapped off the street. All of our rapes have some type of association between the victims and the suspect,” said Scroggin. He added, “We are concerned with all rapes, obviously, because they’re a very bad crime, but we have had nothing where someone’s been walking in the park and assaulted in that manner, so we are very proud of that.”

Scroggin said the number one crime the department fights on a daily basis are crimes against property, such as robberies, burglaries and theft. There were six robberies this year, down from 16 last year. The department reports that residential burglaries are down more than 50 percent, with 50 fewer burglaries than last year. The Sheriff’s Department attributes the reduction to more arrests with more units patrolling the day shift.

Even though commercial burglaries are up slightly, 1.79 percent, theft-related crimes are down more than 35 percent. They are the single biggest contributor to the overall crime rate, including vehicle burglaries, petty and grand theft auto. Grand theft auto is down more than 50 percent, with only 19 cars reported stolen this year. There was also only one reported incident of arson.

“We’re a bedroom community, we don’t have a lot of violent crime, we don’t have a lot of gang crime, we don’t really have a lot of crimes that shock the conscience, but we do have those residential burglaries and thefts from the vehicles. In order to keep this downward trend we really need the entire community to take action, be mindful of their homes and their vehicles,” said Scroggin.

In other matters, the Council approved a packed consent calendar which included the approval of a contract with the Regional Chamber of Commerce, contract extensions for the Community Services Department, and the approval of an amendment to the vendor services contract with a consultant to extend the janitorial and building maintenance services for the Library, City Hall, the Diamond Bar Center, and the Heritage Park Community Center.

Councilmember Lyons asked for clarification for the amendment which added to the janitorial services contract for the Library for an annual amount of $43,325, since the facility is being operated by the County of Los Angeles. City Manager James DeStefano said the maintenance fee is for a three-year term. The fee was negotiated as part of a process in which the City looked at what it would cost to operate a new library which was physically two to three times larger than the existing library.

DeStefano added that the City negotiated that County would pick up all labor costs to support the new library, and the City would pick up the maintenance costs to assure that the facility remained at the standard the City holds for all of their other properties. “This was basically a trade-off of the maintenance costs for the labor costs that they would incur, and it worked well for us,” he said.

In other Council actions, they held public hearings on levying landscaping assessments for three lighting and landscape districts throughout the City. The Council also adopted a resolution approving the 2014 Citywide Speed Zone Survey, and approved a first reading of a an ordinance to amend the Diamond Bar Municipal Code regarding speed limits specified in City streets.

The next regularly scheduled meeting of the Diamond Bar City Council is set for July 1, at the AQMD/Government Center Auditorium, located at 21865 Copley Drive in Diamond

Straight Talk With Danice

BY DANICE AKIYOSHI, N.D.

 

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi: 

I’m a 25-year old, healthy female, and I decided to stop dating eight months ago. I don’t know if I’m attracting the wrong type of man, or if I’m too conservative. I need several dates before I can make a decision about intimacy. I became tired of men insinuating there was something wrong with me because I don’t want to follow their time frame. My mom is pressuring me to meet the contractor who is remodeling her kitchen. She says he’s a nice man, but they all seem like nice men at first. I want to say yes, because I trust my mom, but if it doesn’t work out I don’t want it to affect her kitchen.

 

I’m Nervous

 

Dear Nervous:

 

I agree that you should be able to trust your mom’s opinion, but just about anyone can present themselves as a good individual for a short period of time. The real key is when a person can offer decent behavior for a long period of time. This is where your struggles come into play. You are young, and people in your age group are often not fully mature yet. However, years added to someone’s age does not necessarily guarantee maturity. When the time feels right to you, accept dates with people who interest you. Take your own car, and meet in a place where you feel comfortable. Choose a location where unwanted advances won’t happen. If the guy is willing to continue this way until you are comfortable, then you can branch out to other types of dates. As for your mom’s contractor, I would wait until her kitchen is finished.

 

Good luck,

 

Danice Akiyoshi ND

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She has a great passion for alternative healing and has over 20 years of experience in this field. She provides a form of energy psychology called The Emotion Code, where she helps people literally get rid of their emotional baggage. She also offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

 

Staying Out Of The Negative

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Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

BY NANCY STOOPS

Do you see the glass as half full or half empty? Do you focus on the good in your life or on what’s wrong? Do you take the time to count your blessings each and everyday?
We all have things that go wrong in our lives, but I believe we create our own energy based on what we focus on. I mean, if all we see is the negative and can’t seem to find the positive, then I think we will be pretty negative.
Stop what you’re doing for a moment and do this little exercise with me. Take a piece of paper and fold it in half. Write down all the negatives in your life on one side, but write a positive thing to negate the negative thing on the other side. Now decide how you want to live your life and which side of the paper you want to focus on.
I believe everything happens for a reason. Each and every trial life offers us also teaches us a lesson, if we take the time to see and learn it. Don’t make the negative the focus of your life; learn the lesson and move on.
Good and bad times are going to come and go. We must learn to be victorious through the bad times and celebrate the good. We must also learn to stop taking the good times for granted. Take control of your life and help yourself learn to create positive energy by focusing on the good. Learn to trust in yourself and have faith that you will find your way through the negative things that come your way. Make the decision to invest your energy in the good in your life and if you do, life will be good and you’ll be very happy.

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients. She is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members. Nancy conducts free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger. For more information about any of these services, feel free to contact her at (909) 229-0727. You may also e-mail Nancy at stoopsshecter@earthlink.net.

It Looks Like Summer

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

I was having lunch at my favorite restaurant the other day and it was packed with people. There were all these students lined up waiting to order their food. It was crazy! Why weren’t these kids in school?

I found out that it was the last day of school for the Walnut School District. I think the students were released at 11 a.m. and it seemed like all of them descended on In-N-Out at the same time. The kids were excited and full of energy. It was like a huge dam had broken and all their pent up energy was filling the restaurant. It was clear that these students were ready for summer.

It is true that we all need a break from time to time. Certainly teachers need a break from the demanding role of teaching students five days a week. I’m sure that students also need a break from all the homework that they deal with during the school year.

Parents may feel a little different. There is something nice about kids having a routine. I’m sure parents are also glad that their children are learning and growing at school each day.

What are you planning to do with your kids now that school is out for the next ten weeks? I recently saw an article in the Orange County Register titled, “50 Things To Do For Free In Orange County With Your Kids This Summer.” I think every parent could use some helpful, inexpensive ideas to fill these lazy, hazy days of summer.

One thing I encourage all of the parents at our church to do is send their kids to summer camp. There is nothing quite like a week away from home at summer camp. Camp is expensive, but worth every dollar. In addition, many churches offer an inexpensive week of Vacation Bible School in the summer. Our VBS will be July 28 to August 1. It is a great week for kids to grow and learn.

I hope you have some creative plans for your students this summer, although I do recommend a visit to In-N-Out from time to time.

School is out. The kids are ready for summer. Are you ready, too?

Pastor Mark Hopper

Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar

3255 South Diamond Bar Blvd

(909) 594-7604

Sunday Services: 9 and 10:45 a.m.

San Gabriel Valley: Community Events

Staff Reports

 

Two new venues have officially opened this week and are available to help you enjoy your summer just a little bit more. Located in Hacienda Heights, Orange Grove Park, a 5.5 acre environmentally conscientious development includes strolling or jogging paths, shaded picnic tables, an exercise course, accessible playground, open space areas, and restrooms. It is located at14517 Orange Grove Avenue. Pathfinder Park in Rowland Heights now has a new Splash Pad to help you beat the heat. The 3,000 square foot pad and shade structure was completed adjacent to the existing community center building on the upper level of the park, located at 18150 Pathfinder Road. The splash pad includes areas of direct sun and shade for all to enjoy.  There are 10 sprayers with a combined capacity of 165 gallons per minute, as well as water jets appropriate for age ranges from toddlers to teens.  In addition, the area features a 1,000 square foot shade structure and seating for 50 people.  A 4,000 gallon underground tank recycles water runoff, treats the water with an ultra violet system and minimal chlorine to cleanse water before it circulates back into the splash pad.

 

UPCOMING EVENTS:

West Covina Municipal Pool Swimming Lessons

When: Beginning June 2

Where: 1720 West Merced Avenue, next to Edgewood Middle/High School

Details: Swimming lessons for ages six months to adult. All lessons run for 25 minutes for a two week period, Monday through Thursday, excluding holidays. Space is limited. Recreational swim will also be open on those days from 1 to 3:30 p.m.; the cost is $1.50 per child (17 and under) and $2.50 for adults.

Contact: Community Services Department, (626) 939-8430 or visit the web at www.westcovina.org.

Diamond Bar AYSO: Registration ages 4 to 18 years of age.

When:  June 3, 2014 from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m.

Where: Pantera Park

Details: Please visit http://www.DBAYSO.org for registration procedures for both volunteers and players, ages 4 to 18.

Contact: Greg M. Busch, R31_Safety@dbayso.org.

Mt. Calvary Lutheran Summer Kids’ Day Camp

When: Monday, June 9 through Wednesday, August 20; 6:30 a.m. to 6 p.m.

Where: Mt. Calvary Lutheran Church & Schools, 23300 Golden Springs Dr., Diamond Bar 91765 Details: A fun, safe, Christian environment for your school age children. Kids’ camp is a summer day camp program based on fun, personal and spiritual growth, and the celebration of God’s Word through various activities, field trips, and daily devotions.  All children ages 5 – 12 are invited to attend.  Check out the Mt. Calvary Lutheran website for more information about daily activities, registration, and fees.

Contact: Debbie, (909) 861-2740, or visit http://www.mcldb.org.

Montessori Graduation

When: Friday, June 13, 6 p.m.

Where: Covina Women’s Club

Details: Join the Mayor of Walnut for the graduation ceremonies of the International School of Montessori. The school has been in business since 1994, serving the Walnut community with the utmost care and providing exceptional quality when it comes to education, truly building a foundation for life and learning.

Contact: International School of Montessori, 20781 Amar Rd, Unit 1, Walnut, (909) 594-8172, http://montessoriwalnut.com

3rd Annual Women’s Care Center Walk for Life

When: Saturday, June 14 at 8 a.m.; Registration starts at 6:30 a.m.

Where: Industry Expo Center; 16200 Temple Avenue, City of Industry

Cost: $35 (includes race, entry, goodie bag, meal, and t-shirt)

Details: 5K Run and Walk for Life.

Contact: Landon Diener, Event Manager (714) 309-1634; landondiener@gmail.com. Register at http://www.womenscarecenter.org

OPARC’s Heart and Sole: Fun Run 1K/5K and Health Fair

When: June 14, from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m.

Where: Ruben S. Ayala Park, 5575 Edison Ave., Chino CA 91710

Cost: Entry fee for runners/walkers is $20, inspiration signs are $50, vendor booths are $150 and additional sponsorship opportunities are available. Free parking.

Details: OPARC, a 501(c)(3) organization that trains, employs and serves the mentally disabled community. Food vendors, vendor booths, participant awards, music, guest appearances, and more. Walk-ins are welcome.

SGV Annual Installation and Awards Gala

When: Thursday, June 19, 5:30 p.m.

Where: STC Center

Details: One of the Chamber’s premier events featuring award presentation of businesses and individuals who have impacted the San Gabriel Valley throughout the year. The event will also feature the installation of the new board members.

Contact: RSSVP to Melanie Coward at (909) 869-0701, or melaniec@regionalchambersgv.com.

Pomona Inner City Ministry – Homeless Dinner

When: Saturday, June 28 – and the fourth Saturday of each month; noon to 4:30 p.m.

Where: First Baptist Church of Pomona, 601 N. Garey Avenue, Pomona (volunteers meet in E202, Second Floor at noon for prayer and instructions)

Details: Come serve the homeless and economically disadvantaged in a ministry that can not only transform the lives of others, for those of you that volunteer as well.

Contact:   If you would like to donate goods, the Ministry is in need to hats and men’s clothing of all styles and sizes (they can be brought to the dinner). For financial donations, contact Global Impact Ministries, 586 N. Main Street, Pomona, CA 91768.

WEEKLY EVENTS:

Bookstore Blowout

Where: Twice Sold Tale Bookstore located at the Walnut Library, La Puente Road, Walnut CA 91789

When: Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays from 1 p.m. to 8 p.m., Fridays from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. and Saturdays 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Details: All books and media: Any four items for $1 ($1 minimum purchase).

Contact: (909) 595-0757 or email the.walnut.library@mac.com.

Resources for the Classroom Days at Basically BOOKS

When: Second Tuesday of every month.

Where: Basically BOOKS locations: at 23447 Golden Springs Road, Diamond Bar and at the Diamond Bar Library: 21800 Copley Drive, Diamond Bar.

Details: Books and education videos will be offered at special discounts for teachers at all levels. Teachers can sign up at either Basically BOOKS locations or email BasicallyBOOKS@aol.com to join these special teacher appreciation afternoons.

Free Acupuncture for Veterans, Active Military, First Responders

When: Every Tuesday at 5 p.m.

Where: 12598 Central Avenue, Unit 113, Chino, CA 91710.

Cost: Free

Contact: (909) 590-4183 or http://www.healingcirclecommunityacupuncture.com

Jack Newe’s Farmers Market sponsored by SGV Regional Chamber of Commerce

When: Every Saturday from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m.

Where: Mt. San Antonio College Campus, Parking Lot B, 1100 N. Grand Avenue, Walnut CA 91789

Cost: Free Admission/Parking

Features: Seasonal organic produce, breads and cakes, olive oils, cheese and spreads, a variety of nursery plants, hand-crafted items and jewelry, fresh-popped Kettle Corn and grilled food plates.

Contact: (909) 869-0701

 

Respecting The Lives Of Animals

BY NANCY STOOPS 

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

For years now my husband has called me, Elly May, from the Beverly Hillbillies show on television. Elly May was always rescuing “critters,” as she would call them. Over the years I can’t count how many critters I have helped. I have always loved animals and felt a very special connection with them.

It makes me sad to see a lost animal, especially without an identification tag. It infuriates me when a human hits an animal with a vehicle and leaves the animal to die.

There was a dog that lived by a local McDonald’s for years. The dog was very clever and was never able to be rescued, but everybody in my neighborhood fed her and took care of her. I thank all of the kind people that helped her.

My mom had a tree cut down in her yard, and in the tree were three baby birds. Of course my mom called me to take them. I fed them and helped them get strong, and two were able to fly away. But the last one needed to go to a bird rescue center because it didn’t want to leave me. The problem was it was a wild bird and eventually they helped the bird fly away.

My message is, please be a loving a responsible person and pet owner. If you own a pet have a chip installed in your animal with all of their information. Make sure your animal has a collar and an identification tag. Anytime you see a lost animal try to help find the animal’s home by putting up flyers, and if all else fails, take the animal to a No Kill shelter.

Make sure your pet always has fresh water, healthy food, shelter, necessary vaccinations, daily walks, baths, and lots of love and affection. If you don’t have the time for these things you shouldn’t have a pet. Remember, animals make our world wonderful, so please respect them and their lives.

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups for teens. For more information about any of these services, feel free to page her at (626) 935-3818. You may also e-mail her at stoopsshecter@earthlink.net. Nancy’s new book, “Live Heal and Grow,” is available at www.RoseDogBookstore.com or at Amazon.com.

 

 

Finding A New Job

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

I continue to hear people say that they are having a hard time finding a job. I know that government reports say that the economy is improving, but I know a number of people that can’t find a job that will support themselves and their family.

One of the groups that is especially hard hit are recent college graduates. Young men and women with college degrees are having a hard time finding a full time job. Many find themselves living at home with their parents because they cannot find a job opening in their field.

Older adults are facing similar difficulties. Some have been unemployed for an extended period of time and are trying to re-enter the job market. I know that employers are not allowed to take some one’s age into consideration for employment, but it seems that the job prospects for people over 50 years of age are not very good.

I understand that many new jobs require more skills with computers, communication and new technology. I realize that some companies have closed their facilities in Southern California and relocated to other states.

What can you do to find a new job? Where do you turn to find work to support you and your family? One of the things I tell job seekers is to be persistent. Don’t give up. Don’t lose heart. Follow up on each application. Be persistent.

Years ago, when our teenage son submitted an application to a local grocery store, I suggested he go back and check with the store manager to see if they had hired anyone. I encouraged him to go back once a week so that the manager knew that my son was serious about getting hired. He got the job!

Another thing I tell people is to think outside the box. Don’t just look into areas where you have worked, but look at possibilities that are outside your previous experience. In addition, I encourage people to apply at places that always need more workers. Schools, universities, hospitals and utility companies will always need more employees. And, they have all kinds of jobs from food service to security, from maintenance to new construction.

There is a verse in the Bible that says, “Keep on asking and it will be given to you. Keep on seeking and you will find. Keep on knocking and the door will be opened,” (Matthew 7:7). Persistence and prayer can help you find a new job. It may not be easy and it may not come quickly. But, with God’s help you can do it. Don’t give up!

Don’t Forget

BY PASTOR MARK HOPPER

Pastor Mark Hopper Diamond Bar

Pastor Mark Hopper

One of my most embarrassing moments occurred about a year ago. I was asked to do the invocation at the City Council meeting in Diamond Bar. But, I forgot.

I am thankful that our City Council asks different religious leaders in the community to give an invocation before each meeting. I usually do this two or three times a year. But one day last year, I got busy and completely forgot it was my day to be at the council meeting. The City Clerk had sent me a reminder, and I even had it written on my own calendar.

My name was printed on the agenda. I’m sure it was an awkward moment of silence when they called my name and I wasn’t there. People probably wondered what happened to that absent-minded pastor.

Since that time, I have taken steps to make sure I don’t forget again. I have asked the City Clerk to call and remind me on the day of the meeting. I also ask our church secretary to do the same. I even post sticky notes on my desk and in my car. So far, so good; I’m thankful they were willing to forgive me and give me another chance.

There are many passages in the Bible that exhort us not to forget. Many of the holidays and festivals in the Bible are designed to help people not forget. The Jewish Passover is celebrated every year so that parents and children will not forget the night when the Angel of Death swept over the land of Egypt. The first born in every home died, but the first born in the homes that had the blood of the Passover Lamb on the door posts were saved. In a similar way, Christians celebrate Easter Sunday every year so they will never forget Jesus’ death on the cross, and His resurrection three days later.

As we enjoy this spring season, I hope you are reminded of the importance of holidays like Passover and the Easter we just celebrated. It’s not about Easter Egg Hunts and family dinners. It’s not about spring break and time off from school. This beautiful season is about events and miracles recorded in the Bible. We celebrate so that we will never forget what God has done for us. I hope you won’t forget!

 

Pastor Mark Hopper

Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar

3255 South Diamond Bar Blvd

(909) 594-7604

Sunday Services: 9 and 10:45 a.m.

San Gabriel Valley: Community Events 04.29.14

Staff Reports

 

UPCOMING EVENTS:Events

 

National Child Abuse Prevention Month

When: Month of April

Where: Walnut Fire Station 61 (Lemon Avenue and La Puente Road)

Details: In support of National Child Abuse Prevention Month, the Walnut Valley Women’s Club facilitated the planting of a garden of pinwheels at Fire Station 61. The pinwheels will remain throughout the month of April. “Pinwheels for Prevention” is a Prevent Child Abuse America program which promotes the message that, “All children deserve an equal chance to thrive and grow.”

City of Walnut Children’s Dance Classes

When: Wed., April 30 – 5 Week Programs, $55

Where: Walnut Senior Center, 21215 La Puente Road, Walnut 91789

Details: Webby Dance Classes: For children 30 months to 6 years – A combination of tap, ballet and creative movement. Age appropriate fun with creative props. For children 5 to 10-years – A combination of jazz and hip hop with exciting routines to age appropriate music.

Contact: To register please call (909) 598-6200 or visit us online at www.ci.walnut.ca.us

DBHS Spring Musical “The Pirates of Penzance”

When: May 1, 2, 3 at 7 p.m.

Where: DBHS Theatre, 21400 E. Pathfinder Road in Diamond Bar

Details: Tickets sales are available at http://www.seatyourself.biz/dbhsdrama. Sections B, C, D: Adults are $18, Students w/ID are $15. Sections A, E: Adults are $15, Students w/ID are $12.

Contact: Beatrice Casagran at (909) 594-1405, ext. 33276

Diamond Bar AYSO: Registration ages 4 to 18 years of age.

When:  May 15, and June 3, 2014 from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m.

Where: Pantera Park

Details: Please visit DBAYSO.ORG for registration procedures for both volunteers and players ages 4 to 18.

Contact: Greg M. Busch, R31_Safety@dbayso.org

27th Annual St. Luke Parish Fiesta, Boutique and Car Show

When: April 25-27

Where: Temple City

Details: This year’s fiesta is set to be one of the most diverse and expansive events, with a car show, exhibitor and boutique area; Mega 50/50 raffle, Laser Tag area, photo booth, food court, entertainment, games and rides.

Contact: Mary Broomfield, Publicity Chair, (626) 201-4560.

21th Annual Diamond Bar Library Wine Soirée

When: Sunday, April 27

Where: Diamond Bar Center, 1600 Grand Avenue in Diamond Bar

Details: An afternoon of delicious food from local restaurants, great wine from the Jerry Mead New World International Wine Competition, music, and exciting book, silent and live auctions. A unique souvenir wine glass and program are included with each ticket. All of the proceeds go directly to your local community library.

Cost: Tickets are $50 per person in advance and $60 at the door.

Contact: (909) 861-2002

FUTURE EVENTS:

Music at the Point

When: Saturday, May 3, from 10 a.m. to 7 p.m.

Where: South Pointe Middle School, 20671 Larkstone Drive, Diamond Bar

Walnut Senior Center Peddler’s Market

When: May 3 from 8 a.m. to 1 p.m.

Where: Walnut Senior Center

Details: Residents are encouraged to clean out those cupboards, closets, garages and become a vendor at the annual Peddler’s Market. Vendors may purchase two full parking spaces for $35 or three full parking spaces for $50.

Contact: Kim Watts at the Walnut Senior Center at (909) 598-6200.

Electric Car Guest Drive

When: Saturday, May 10

Where: Ruben S. Ayala Park

Details: The Electric Car Guest Drive socials take place at parks up the California coast giving people a non-sales environment to test drive at least six electronic vehicles from one location, learn from educational sponsor booths, and talk to their local EV drivers about what going electric is all about.

Contact: Email ElectricCarGuestDrive@gmail.com for more information.

Fire Service Day

When: Saturday, May 17 from 11 a.m. to 3 p.m.

Where: City of Industry Fire Station 118; 17056 Gale Avenue, City of Industry

Details: Join the Los Angeles County Fire Station as they celebrate Fire Service Day with Fire Engines, Pool Safety, Jaws of Life Demonstration, and Equipment Displays.

OPARC’s Heart and Sole: Fun Run 1K/5K and Health Fair

When: June 14, from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m.

Where: Ruben S. Ayala Park, 5575 Edison Ave., Chino CA 91710

Cost: Entry fee for runners/walkers is $20, inspiration signs are $50, vendor booths are $150 and additional sponsorship opportunities are available. Free parking.

Details: OPARC, a 501(c)(3) organization that trains, employs and serves the mentally disabled community. Food vendors, vendor booths, participant awards, music, guest appearances, and more. Walk-ins are welcome.

WEEKLY EVENTS:

Bookstore Blowout

Where: Twice Sold Tale Bookstore located at the Walnut Library, La Puente Road, Walnut CA 91789

When: Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays from 1 p.m. to 8 p.m., Fridays from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. and Saturdays 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Details: All books and media: Any four items for $1. $1 minimum purchase.

Contact: (909) 595-0757 or email the.walnut.library@mac.com.

Resources for the Classroom Days at Basically BOOKS

When: Second Tuesday of every month.

Where: Basically BOOKS locations: at 23447 Golden Springs Road, Diamond Bar and at the Diamond Bar Library: 21800 Copley Drive, Diamond Bar.

Details: Books and education videos will be offered at special discounts for teachers at all levels. Teachers can sign up at either Basically BOOKS locations or email BasicallyBOOKS@aol.com to join these special teacher appreciation afternoons.

Free Acupuncture for Veterans, Active Military, First Responders

When: Every Tuesday at 5 p.m.

Where: 12598 Central Avenue, Unit 113, Chino, CA 91710.

Cost: Free

Contact: (909) 590-4183 or http://www.healingcirclecommunityacupuncture.com

Jack Newe’s Farmers Market sponsored by SGV Regional Chamber of Commerce

When: Every Saturday from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m.

Where: Mt. San Antonio College Campus, Parking Lot B, 1100 N. Grand Avenue, Walnut CA 91789

Cost: Free Admission/Parking

Features: Seasonal organic produce, breads and cakes, olive oils, cheese and spreads, a variety of nursery plants, hand-crafted items and jewelry, fresh-popped Kettle Corn and grilled food plates.

Contact: (909) 869-0701

 

San Gabriel Valley: Did You Know?

STAFF REPORTS

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San Gabriel Area Tongva Villages (Photo Courtesy: Google Images)

San Gabriel Valley – The Tongva, part of the Uto-Aztecan Native Americans originally occupied and land along the Rio Hondo River, which is a branch of the San Gabriel River. Long before the Spaniards explored the area, they made their homes in a large part of the Los Angeles basin, including Santa Catalina and other local islands. And, the Hahanogna Tribe, a division of the Tongva, occupied the northern part of the valley down toward Pasadena.

 

The Tongva were a beautiful people, who tattooed their bodies, and men and women alike wore long hair. They lived in dome-like buildings with thatched exteriors and used ti’ats, or plank-type canoes, for water travel.

 

With a language referred to as “Gabrielino” by the Spaniards, the Tongva are responsible for many of the city names we currently use today: Pomona was called Piwongna; Pasadena was Pasakeg-na, and Cucamonga was referred to as Cucomog-na. Today, several groups of the Tongva people still live in the area.

 

Chino Hills: Did You Know?

Chino Hills California

The beautiful Chino Hills
(Photo Courtesy: Wikipedia)

STAFF REPORTS 

Chino Hills has a lot going for it. Not only was this beautiful suburb ranked number 34 in Money Magazine’s “Best Places to Live in 2012”, it was also ranked as the 13th safest city in the U.S. by the FBI in 2008.

 

The hills that roll through the city were used quite extensively for cattle grazing back in the late 1700s as large Mexican Republic ranches such as Santa Ana del Chino and Rancho La Sierra Yorba occupied the area. Once Mexico Ceded California to the U.S., the land slowly evolved into a tourist destination because of its beauty (and even a bootlegger’s destination because of its seclusion). Development made its way around the swampy areas known as Prado Dam, and Chino Hills was born, eventually incorporating in 1991 with a population of 42,000.

 

14,102 acres of those beautiful hills are still preserved within Chino Hills State Park, the largest California State Park within an urban setting. With 65 miles of trails for hiking, biking and equestrian use, the Park still encourages tourists to come to Chino Hills.

 

 

Pacheco and Su Win Walnut City Election

BY MICHAEL ARMIJO

Walnut- The results are in and Bob Pacheco and Mary Su beat challenger Betty Tang in one of the worst elections in Walnut History.

“We won, the people of Walnut have decided to bring us back to continue the great things we’ve accomplished here in Walnut.” Said Councilman Bob Pacheco at the victory party.
The line challenger, Betty Tang, raised almost $100,000 to beat the incumbents but fell hundreds of votes short.

“Nine hit pieces against me, NINE,” said winner Mary Su. “This is far too many and in our wonderful city. We are happy to defeat such an ugly campaign.”
Results are posted on the city of Walnut website.

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San Gabriel Valley: Your Presence Is Valued In Our World

BY NANCY STOOPS

I bet you don’t think you matter or make a difference. I’m here to say you’re wrong. Every interaction we have with each other matters. Every time we smile or share a greeting we make a difference. Those very interactions can literally change the way another feels about their day. We still have the power to make the world a better place and to make somebody feel good. I’m always given hope during those brief but powerful interactions with others. An exchange of a smile can literally fill me with warmth and a wonderful glow inside. Just for that brief second there was a very nice exchange of good energy between two humans.

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Take a minute or two out of your day to say hello, smile, hold a door open, help somebody cross a street or perform any act of human kindness. These acts really go a long way and can help you understand that you matter. I value these acts and the people that have the social graces to perform them. Please understand how much power you have each day to help make this world a better place. I hear heartwarming stories about people doing good deeds and I think about how much I value these people and their presence in our world.

Every time somebody thanks me for my work, their kind words seem to wrap around me and hug me and fill me up with such appreciation for my life and my work. I so value the presence of the people in my practice and in my groups. My group members are so supportive of each other and make a huge difference for each other. I walk through my neighborhood and Midnight and I have many very brief but meaningful interactions and I am reminded of how valuable humans can be if they want to.

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients. She is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members. Nancy conducts free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger. For more information about any of these services, feel free to contact her at (909) 229-0727. You may also e-mail Nancy at stoopsshecter@earthlink.net.

San Gabriel Valley: Straight Talk With Danice 03.07.14

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

I am an esthetician. Every year I give my three best girlfriends a facial for their birthday gift. They each book their appointment for the week of their birthday like clockwork. If our schedules permit, I also take them out for lunch or dinner afterward to continue the celebration. For the last three years, one of my friends has ignored my birthday completely. If it was a financial hardship I wouldn’t give it a second thought, but it’s not that for sure. I am not a materialistic person, so it’s not about a physical gift. I would be sincerely happy with a card or a phone call. I am even mad at myself for having these thoughts. This friend means the world to me; I just don’t understand why the birthday wishes don’t go both ways. I have never mentioned this to anyone. I am just wondering what this means, if anything.

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous:

If your friend books an appointment with you for her birthday facial like clockwork, she probably looks very forward to your services. I must say that I am at a loss about why she does not make it a point to remember your birthday. This is a new year, so when your friend calls to book her annual birthday facial, let her know that you’ve decided to discontinue that routine. Wish her a wonderful year and suggest getting together for a visit. I say this, because giving a facial is a lot of work, and in your case, a labor of love. If you are feeling taken for granted in any way, then this is not the appropriate gift to be giving. If your friend is showing you that she is not really into gift ‘giving,’ then she should not really be into gift ‘receiving’. Keeping it simple will help you return to enjoying your friend without this weirdness between you. If she brings it up, you can honestly say that it was obvious to you that she was uncomfortable with gift exchanges.

I wish you a Happy Birthday, in advance.

Danice Akiyoshi, ND

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She has a great passion for alternative healing and has over 20 years of experience in this field. She provides a form of energy psychology called The Emotion Code, where she helps people literally get rid of their emotional baggage. She also offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

Diamond Bar: Face Your Fears

BY MARK HOPPER

As we continue to study the Old Testament book of Ezra at our church on Sunday mornings, I have noticed a theme that runs through the early chapters of the book.  That theme is fear.

The Jewish people had returned from Babylonian exile to rebuild their Temple in Jerusalem, but they encountered legal obstacles and stiff opposition from their enemies.  They were intimidated and fearful.  God sent two prophets to encourage the Jews to complete the project.  Haggai challenged the people to examine their priorities.  Zechariah encouraged them to not be afraid.

Several times in those early chapters, Zechariah told them to face their fears.  Their problems were real. The opposition was relentless.  Their rebuilding efforts had stalled.  They had become paralyzed by fear.

What things are you afraid of?  What things are holding you back in your life?  Maybe you are afraid to pursue a new career.  Maybe you are hesitant to start a remodeling project at home.  Maybe you are reluctant to meet new people or visit new places.  Maybe you are putting off an important medical exam or treatment.

You need the encouragement of friends and a stronger faith in God to overcome your fears.  Friends can help remind you of the personal strengths and abilities that they see in your life.  They can say to you, “You can do it!”

Your faith in God can also help you overcome your fears.  Throughout the Bible you will see phrases like, “Be strong, I am with you,” and “Fear not, for I am with you.”  With His help, you can face your fears.  Let me encourage you to examine your life and see if there are some things you are afraid of that are holding you back.  Ask God to give you the strength to face your fears this week.

Pastor Mark Hopper

Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar 3255 South Diamond Bar Blvd. (909) 594-7604 .Sunday Services:  9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m. Website: http://www.efreedb.org.

Inland Empire: Straight Talk With Danice – February

Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:

My best friend is perfect in every way, but for some reason she is always criticizing herself and her appearance.  Now I’m starting to feel self-conscious every time I’m around her.  She is much prettier than I am, so if she magnifies her own flaws, I wonder what she must think of me.  I’m starting to avoid her unless I’m looking my best.  What should I do?

Farzi

Hi, Farzi:

Your friend might be suffering from insecurity or low self esteem.  Just because she judges herself harshly does not mean that she has the same magnifying glass on you.  Don’t avoid your friend.  Share your feelings instead and help her see her true value.

Danice Akiyoshi, ND

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi, Naturopathic Doctor, Coaching, Counseling

Dr. Danice Akiyoshi

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.