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Straight Talk With Danice

Danice Akiyoshi

Danice Akiyoshi

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

A Letter From Jen

Q:  I was out for a business meeting on Saturday night that was about ten minutes from my parent’s house.  I decided to visit and didn’t call in advance.  As I walked up the driveway, I could hear my mom and dad laughing on the patio.  I let myself in with my key and headed toward the patio.  I was pretty surprised to see my parents in a party mode like I have never seen before.  In order to avoid embarrassment for all of us, I left without making my presence known.  My cheeks are still burning.  My parents never did these things when my sister and I lived at home.  Should I pretend like I never saw this?

 

A:  Yes, you should pretend that you never interrupted the privacy of other adults.  When parents are finally done raising their children they often go back to enjoying themselves in ways that are inappropriate when youngsters are around. Never show up anywhere uninvited or unannounced.  If your family shares house keys, it’s probably for emergency reasons at this point in your lives.  Is it also possible that you might be caught in a private situation if your parents decided to let themselves into your home uninvited and unannounced?  Learn from this one, Jen. Please be respectful and keep their business to yourself.

Liposuction Without The Suction

By Michael Armijo Premier Body Sculpt is located at 250 W. 1st Street Suite 116, Claremont. You can reach them at 1-(855) 8-SCULPT or visit their website at www.premierbodysculpt.com.

Claremont – Body Sculpting is best described as an alternative way to lose body fat in specific areas that are hard to reach, including under the arms, love handles, inner thighs, or even the breast area on a man. The procedure seems to be relatively new, but it’s actually an old technique that is revised.

Upon visiting the Premier Body Sculpt Center in Upland, I was a bit skeptical about their amazing new technology actually working. The combination of Ultrasonic Cavitations and Radio Frequency was said to show amazing results without the inconvenience, pain and down-time of surgery. But the skepticism is over.

This non-invasive, liposuction technology works by using sonic energy and vibration to destroy and collapse fat cells, thereby facilitating the body’s natural process to metabolize and move fat out through the lymphatic system. Unlike liposuction – and for a fraction of the cost – results can be seen immediately with no bruising, swelling, or scars.

The best way to describe it would be: imagine getting a huge bag and placing small water balloons inside. Then imagine tapping the bag until the water balloons break. This same concept is applied to Body Sculpting. It liquefies the fat and then the body processes the fat through the urine. Sounds different, but the body processes fat this way, and the results are immediate, with further results seen throughout the week.

When I experienced Body Sculpting myself, all I had to do was lie down and sit up while the three step process was administered. The ultrasound radio frequency was a bit different, as sound waves emitted through my body.  That’s what ultrasound is, an emission of sound waves. But this is at a higher rate, and this is how fat is broken down. And during the process, I could actually hear sound coming out of my ears. It took a moment to get used to, but eventually it didn’t faze me a bit.

When it comes to my health, I am on it. I need to know all the facts, the downsides, and the repercussions. I am a diabetic, so I always have some type of risk. But what gave me confidence was that the technician was an RN, BSN, and Aesthetic Specialist – who also worked in an emergency room at a local hospital (yes, I checked).

I could not find anything negative about the procedure and I did see results right away (the before and after pictures were amazing). I completed three sessions, and I am pleased with the results so far.  I would go back to do more.

I recommend Premier Body Sculpting, and I also recommend you check out their website, watch the video, and make the best decision for yourself.

Premier Body Sculpt is located at 250 W. 1st Street, in Claremont. You can reach them at (855) 8-SCULPT, or visit their website at http://www.premierbodysculpt.com.

 

Summer Adventures

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Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

By Nancy Stoops 

I always travel every summer.  I travel so much that the only continent I haven’t been to is Antarctica, but I will traveling there in 2017.  This July I’m going to a dude ranch high in the Rocky Mountains in Colorado and then in October I will be going to Jamaica. At the dude ranch I will have the opportunity to ride horses twice every day and also have an overnight ride as well.  I will also have the opportunity to go white water rafting and to go fishing.  This week at the dude ranch is Native American week.  There is a Native American chief that lives on the property for the week in his teepee with some of the other members of his tribe.  I will have the opportunity to have conversations with him, make a medicine bag and collect and learn even more about medicinal uses of plants.  Finally at the end of the week, the ranch is hosting a Native American Pow-Wow.

In Jamaica, I will swim with the dolphins, parasail, snorkel, scuba dive and ride and swim with horses.  I have a private oceanfront suite, which will be very quiet and very good for my practice of daily meditation, along with watching sunrises and sunsets.  I love the beach and the delightful reggae music, which Jamaica is famous for.  I know I will spend lots of time in the water marveling at the underwater world and all the beauties that inhabit this magical world.

Most importantly, as a therapist, I need to recharge and I know these magical places will surely make that happen.  I also will have time to celebrate life and just being alive, which is very important to me.  I hope you will find some time to go somewhere special this summer to refuel your soul!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T.  Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients; she is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members.  Nancy runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger.    For more information about any of these services feel free to contact her at (909229-0727.  You may e-mail Nancy at nancyjstoops@verizon.net.  You may purchase Nancy’s books Live Heal and Grow and Midnight the Therapy Dog at Amazon.com.

Again And Again

By Michael Armijo

As I sit here and admire how beautiful life is, I thank God for allowing me the opportunity to better my life with sheer desire, hope, vision, and good will. But traveling to my childhood home and remembering where I came from, the horrid demons of failure, fear, neglect, and abuse creep into the corner of my soul, reminding me of a life without confidence, communication, understanding, and forgiveness.

It saddens me when I remember the bouts of depression, the bouts of anger and frustration. I remember seeing visions of irresponsibility and disregard for life, which made me feel that being normal was a distant revelation away. The vision of cheating the system, denying help to others, and creating false loyalty by betrayal, were all everyday visions that haunted all of us who were exposed.

In reflection, I believe we have the opportunity to provide a loving arena for our children and a stable life for our loved ones. As someone who has survived a dysfunctional home, as someone who holds the battle scars deep inside the soul with the visions of a painful war far within the mind, I remind parents to live up to their responsibilities.

As children, we depend on you to provide a consistently loving and cherished household, a strong and confident feeling about yourself and your identity. We rely on you to give us the necessary tools to be productive and insightful. We need you to stand before us, and when you cannot, explain why pressure can sometimes overcome a simple human being. We do not expect you to run from your problems or your anxieties by abusing alcohol, prescription or illegal drugs; this is how you teach us to not deal with life’s anxieties and pressures. We do not expect you to lose your temper and mistreat us. But if you do, we expect an explanation and an immediate apology. Otherwise we’ll carry those memories and emotions and they could haunt us for the rest of our lives.

It’s no fun treading through life as though you’re a thousand pounds too heavy and a hundred points too stupid. It’s not fair to give us false identities because you’re too insensitive to seek help for your insecurities and your lack of parental guidance. We expect you to fix your problems before you bring us into the world. And if you do not, fix them while we are here. Fix them in front of us, explain, and be honest. Or we will one day find out the truth about our lives and the truth about who you really are.

You do have the opportunity to give us enlightening answers before we ask those confronting questions. And you have the ability to avoid those questions by being open and honest while giving an effort to be a better person. Your attempts to fix yourself will allow you some vindication and will allow us to feel better about who you really are.

My philosophies reach out like child’s embrace, although I am physically an adult. But I, or WE, as there are many of us who are labeled “adult children” still hold childlike emotions for the lack of guidance we received in our adolescence. And for the lack of communication and vision that we experienced we stay victims. But as each day gets better, we try to correct ourselves into being a better people, continually fighting to reach a realm that I call “normal.” And as we become victorious from each battle we can’t seem to avoid, deep in our hearts we know it’s a war that we may never win.

But today I travel through life and look forward to the bright sunny rays of light that come from our vivid sun. Today I will keep repeating to myself the many wonders of our subtle and kind human compassion to life. And I will constantly remember our commitment to humanity to ensure our mental safety for ourselves and for our children. Because again and again I will try to reiterate the message that each and every one of us do make a difference in this glorious world we call Earth, and in this magnificent time that we call life.

Speedy Italian Meatballs With Smoked Tomato Linguine

By Hello Fresh  

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Photo Courtesy Hello Fresh

There’s a reason why spaghetti and meatballs is typically a Sunday night dinner—it takes hours to make! This version uses Italian sausage as a meatball shortcut, eliminating extra prep while adding delicious flavor. Smoky paprika gives this marinara a unique kick.

Cooking Time: 30 min

Nutrition: Calories: 839 cal, cal | Fat: 36g, Sat. Fat: 12 g, Sugar: 17 g

Ingredients:

  • Italian sausage- 9 oz.
  • Linguine- 6 oz.
  • Onion- 1
  • Carrot- 1
  • Smoked Paprika- 1t
  • Dried Thyme- 1t
  • Parmesan Cheese- ¼ cup
  • Diced Tomatoes- 1 box
  • Sugar- ½ t
  • Oil- 2t

Preparation:

  1. Prep the ingredients: Wash and dry all produce. Bring a large pot of salted water to a boil. Halve, peel, and finely dice the onion. Peel, then finely dice the carrot.
  2. Start the marinara: Heat a drizzle of oil in a large pan over medium heat. Add the carrot and onion and cook, tossing, for about 5 minutes, until softened. Season with salt and pepper.
  3. Form the meatballs and boil the pasta: Meanwhile, remove the sausage from the casings; discarding the casings. Wet your fingers, then form the sausage into Tablespoon-sized meatballs. Add the linguine to the boiling water and cook for 9-11 minutes, until al dente, drain.
  4. Finish the marinara: Add the tomatoes and 1 cup water to the pan with the veggies and bring to a boil. Add ½ teaspoon sugar and half the smoked paprika (or more if you prefer a smokier flavor) to the pan. Season generously with salt and pepper. Reduce to a low simmer.
  5. Cook the meatballs: Heat a drizzle of oil in another large pan over medium-high heat. Add the sausage meatballs to the pan and cook for 6-8 minutes, rotating to brown on all sides. When finished, add them to the marinara.
  6. Toss and serve: Add the linguine, thyme, and half the parmesan cheese to the marinara. Toss for 1-2 minutes, until thoroughly combined and heated through. Serve the speedy Italian meatballs with smoked tomato linguine, garnished with the remaining parmesan cheese and enjoy!

 

Did You Know?

By FamilyDoctor.org  Heat Stroke 6

What causes heat exhaustion and heatstroke?

Heat-related illnesses, such as heat exhaustion and heatstroke, occur when your body can’t keep itself cool. As the air temperature rises, your body stays cool when your sweat evaporates. On hot, humid days, the evaporation of sweat is slowed by the increased moisture in the air. When sweating isn’t enough to cool your body, your body temperature rises, and you may become ill.

What is heat exhaustion?

Heat exhaustion happens when your body gets too hot. It can be caused by physical exercise or hot weather. You may experience:

  • Heavy sweating
  • Feeling weak and/or confused
  • Dizziness
  • Nausea
  • Headache
  • Fast heartbeat
  • Dark-colored urine, which indicates dehydration

What is heatstroke?

Heatstroke is when the internal temperature of the body reaches 104°F. It can happen when your body gets too hot during strenuous exercise or when exposed to very hot temperatures, or it can happen after heat exhaustion isn’t properly treated. Heatstroke is much more serious than heat exhaustion. Heatstroke can cause damage to your organs and brain. In extreme cases, it can kill you.

Symptoms of heatstroke

  • High fever (104°F or higher)
  • Severe headache
  • Dizziness and feeling light-headed
  • A flushed or red appearance to the skin
  • Lack of sweating
  • Muscle weakness or cramps
  • Nausea
  • Vomiting
  • Fast heartbeat
  • Fast breathing
  • Feeling confused, anxious or disoriented
  • Seizures

Do medicines affect heatstroke?

The following are some medicines that can put you in danger of heatstroke because they affect the way your body reacts to heat:

  • Allergy medicines (antihistamines)
  • Some blood pressure and heart medicines (beta-blockers and vasoconstrictors)
  • Diet pills and illegal drugs such as cocaine (amphetamines)
  • Laxatives
  • Some medicines that treat mental health conditions (antidepressants and antipsychotics)
  • Seizure medicines (anticonvulsants)
  • Water pills (diuretics)

Get medical help right away if you have these warning signs:

  • Skin that feels hot and dry, but not sweaty
  • Confusion or loss of consciousness
  • Frequent vomiting
  • Shortness of breath or trouble breathing

What should I do after having heat exhaustion or heatstroke?

Having heat exhaustion or heatstroke makes you more sensitive to hot conditions for about a week afterwards. Be especially careful not to exercise too hard, and avoid hot weather. Your doctor can tell you when it is safe to return to your normal activities.

 

Straight Talk With Danice

A Letter from Chrissy

Danice Akiyoshi

Danice Akiyoshi

By Danice Akiyoshi, N.D.

Q:  What is your opinion about people who are always late?  Why do you think some people have no respect for time management?

A:  In my opinion, I think personal power plays a role here.  People who are habitually late generally don’t have a good sense of their own personal power.  They are often passive-aggressive, imagining that they have power over others by keeping them waiting.  Of course, some people are just poor managers of their time, but I think the personal power thing comes into play more often.  They are misguided in thinking that their time is more valuable than yours.  Let’s not forget the people who are basically clueless and have poor manners.

Thoughts on Your Last Day

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Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

By Nancy Stoops

Imagine for just a couple of minutes this was your last day here on earth.  You’re not in any pain and you are just recalling the events of your life.  Are you feeling content about the way you lived or are you filled with regret?

I’m not trying to be morbid in anyway; I’m just trying to get you to think about how you’re living your life.  Do you seem to spend most of your days worrying about things you have no control over?  Do you find yourself constantly holding grudges when people make you angry?  Do you waste much of your time proving you are right?  Are you living in the past and use it as an excuse for not being able to move forward?

Take a moment and think about what it is that you want your life to represent.  For me, I need to have love, peace and a sense of purpose in my life.  I need to know that I make a difference.  I need not only to love and be loved, but also to be really connected to those I love.  I need to have peace in my mind, heart, and soul and this comes with keeping things cleaned up in my life.  I don’t like when I’m not on good terms from my loved ones and need to clean things up quickly.

I want to be able to look back at my life with no regrets and have a sense of peace, knowing I lived life as the person I was intended to be.  I need to believe that I did everything I could to be my best and to be the best person I could here in this world.  Those are the thoughts I want running through me my last day here and every day until then!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T.  Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients; she is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members.  Nancy runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger.    For more information about any of these services feel free to contact her at (909)229-072.  You may e-mail Nancy at nancyjstoops@verizon.net.  You may purchase Nancy’s books Midnight the Therapy Dog and Live Heal and Grow at Amazon.com.

 

 

History 101

“Frankly, My Dear…”

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On June 27 in 1939, one of the most famous scenes in movie history is filmed–Rhett Butler and Scarlett O’Hara parting in Gone with the Wind. Director Victor Fleming also shot the scene using the alternate line, “Frankly, my dear, I just don’t care,” in case the film censors objected to the word “damn.” The censors approved the movie but fined producer David O. Selznick $5,000 for including the curse.

The filming of the famous film was itself an epic, with two and half years elapsing between Selznick’s purchase of the rights to Margaret Mitchell’s novel and the movie’s debut in Atlanta in December 1939. Selznick had balked at paying an unprecedented $50,000 for the rights to a first novel, but Mitchell stuck to her asking price and Selznick agreed in July 1937. He hired director George Cukor immediately, and casting began in the fall. Selznick launched a nationwide talent search, hoping to find a new actress to play Scarlett. Meanwhile, he set writers to work on the script.

A year later, Selznick still hadn’t found an actress or received a satisfactory script. In May 1938, running low on funds, Selznick struck a deal with MGM. He sold the worldwide distribution rights for the film to the studio for $1.5 million, and MGM agreed to lend Clark Gable to Selznick.

Filming finally began on December 10, 1938, with the burning of Atlanta scene, although Scarlett still hadn’t been cast. British actress Vivien Leigh, newly arrived from London, dropped by the set to visit her agent, Myron Selznick, brother of the producer. David O. Selznick asked her to test for Scarlett. In January, Leigh signed on as Scarlett and Leslie Howard as Ashley Wilkes, and at last, principal filming began. By February, however, there was trouble on the set. Gable clashed with the director, and by February 14, Victor Fleming replaced George Cukor. Principal filming ended on June 27, 1939.

The film debuted in Atlanta on December 15, 1939, and became an instant hit, breaking all box office records. The film was nominated for more than a dozen Oscars, and won nine, including Best Picture, Best Screenplay, Best Actress, and Best Supporting Actress (which went to Hattie McDaniel, the first African American actress to win the award). The movie was digitally restored and the sound re-mastered for its 1998 re-release by New Line Pictures.

A Living Legacy

mark-hopper-color-2x2By Pastor Mark Hopper

Gordon MacDonald started a new church in Tucson, Arizona in the early 1960’s. Although he worked full-time at the Hughes Aircraft Company, he also worked part-time as a pastor.  He and his family launched a new church in the garage of their home on the southwest side of Tucson.

Gordon had a shepherd’s heart and a love for Christ.  He had a warm smile and bubbled with enthusiasm.  He saw that this new community needed a church and he set out to meet that need.

Gordon and his wife and their children passed out invitations in their neighborhoods. They also mailed postcards to several hundred homes.  A handful of people came.  Gradually the group grew and a church blossomed into existence.  They called it Chapel In The Hills.

When they outgrew the garage, they began to meet at the local elementary school.  As the church grew, they purchased a piece of property and constructed a small church building.

Unfortunately, Hughes Aircraft lost a big government contract and a number of employees lost their jobs.  Gordon was able to find a new job with Texas Instruments and moved his family to Dallas.

Chapel in the Hills had several other pastors during the next few years.  Pastor Gail Bender served in a part-time role for several years hoping they would find a younger pastor to come and lead the church.

I graduated from Dallas Theolgical Seminary in 1975 and I was looking for a church to pastor.  About the same time, Chapel in the Hills in Tucson was looking for a new pastor!

Gordan contacted the Seminary placement office and was given the names of several prospective candidates including mine.

On a hot summer day in 1975, Gordan came to our little apartment in Dallas and asked if I would consider coming to Tucson to serve as the first full-time pastor of Chapel in the Hills.

After visiting the church and meeting the people, we agreed to come and serve there.  That began a 13 year journey for our family.  Three of our four children were born in Tucson.  We made many friends and loved serving at Chapel in the Hills.

The church that Gordan started continued to grow.  In the 1980’s we constructed two additional buildings and remodeled the original one.  Attendance increased and a preschool was launched at the church.

When the church celebrated its 40th anniversary, Gordan was invited to come back to see the church he started.  He expressed his thanks to God and to everyone who was attending the church.  He gave all of the credit to God and he was thankful to have been part of this amazing adventure.

Recently, we learned that Gordan had died.  He was in his 90’s.  His faith in Christ and love for people had never faded.  Although his earthly life was over, the church that he started is alive and well.

The Apostle Paul wrote about his own life in II Timothy 4:7, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith”. These words could describe Gordan MacDonald as well.  Gordan’s faith and vision still impact people today through the church he started over 50 years ago.

Have you thought about the legacy that you will leave behind when you die?  What lives have you touched?  Where have you invested your time and energy?  Will generations express their thanks for the things you have done?

I am thankful for a man named Gordan MacDonald and what he started over 50 years ago.  His legacy lives on.

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Blvd.  Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m.  For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit Efreedb.org.

What Is A Superfood?

Courtesy of Michael Clarks-Header-WEBBarnett of Clarks Nutriton  

Superfood is “a nutrient-rich food considered to be especially beneficial for health and well-being, increasing health and vitality,” according to the Oxford Dictionary. With this definition it might be possible that a lot of foods are Superfoods. The reason for the ‘super’ foods label is because of the benefits some foods provided                                                                              to health.

For example, cod liver oil is considered to be a super food. During the mid-1900’s cod liver oil was used to support immunity, joint, and cardiovascular disorders.  Cod liver oil is abundant in vitamins A & D and high in Omega-3, an essential fatty acid.   Cod liver oil is an example of a nutrient rich food that might provide benefits for individuals not consuming these nutrients, ultimately filling a gap in diet.

  • Vitamin A is essential for cell and bone growth, and eye function. According to the World Health Organization (W.H.O.), vitamin A has proven to be beneficial in the prevention of infectious diseases such as Measles in developing countries.
  • Vitamin D also plays a significant role in supporting healthy immune function.
  • Omega-3 fatty acids not only help regulate inflammation and aid in cardiovascular health, they also play a significant role in maintaining proper brain function, as well as several other critical functions in the human body.

One of the more popular Superfoods currently is “greens.” Green powders come in all varieties, but are mainly comprised of fruit and vegetable extracts.  Fruits and vegetables are rich in nutrients including vitamins and minerals.  More importantly, fruits and vegetables have an array of color. Often times color is attributed to phytonutrients, which are pigments that provide health benefits as well.  An example of a phytonutrient can be seen in lycopene.

Lycopene is the pigment that makes tomatoes and watermelon red. Lycopene acts as an antioxidant in the skin and aids in protecting against breast and prostate cancers.  Because of its lycopene dense nature, tomatoes can be considered a Superfood. Most fruits and vegetables have great protective factors for your health.

Having a diet rich in whole foods is the best approach to getting today’s Superfoods. Whole foods include fruits and vegetables (not pealed or skinned), whole unrefined grains, nuts, seeds, beans-legumes, lean grass fed beef, free range hen eggs, chicken, and fish.

Try to avoid processed foods and simple refined sugars and high saturated fat diets. Those individuals with plant based diets rich in Superfoods tend to be less susceptible to disease.  So you may consider making plant based diets the focus.

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Send us your question, your first and last name, and city you live in to: askclarks@clarksnutrition.com

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Did You Know?

Time Is Truly A Complicated Matter

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Remember how as a child you were waiting for your birthday and how it seemed to take forever to arrive? And now as an adult, the time from Monday to Sunday passes all too briefly.

How does time do that? How does time trick us?

Looking from a scientific, psychological and biological perspective, the greatest influence on how we perceive time is made by our internal rhythms, gained experiences, and memories.

Everyone perceives time differently– Five minutes seems to be a definite time limit. However, after five minutes, ask ten people how it passed for them – did it go quick or did it seem long? We can bet that each of them would have a different opinion.

Emotions and time are connected– How do you feel? Happy, depressed, horrified, fascinated, angry, or sad? When you look at the full scale of emotions, you will soon realize that time is perceived differently during each of those sensations. However, one study suggests that pleasant emotions theoretically last longer.

Researchers say that negative emotions can be adopted in different ways; especially then it comes to anxiety or tension. Meanwhile, boredom is usually distinguished by the sense that time slows or stops.

The older we become, the faster time seem to pass– Why does time appear to pass more quickly the older we get?

It is argued that as a younger person gets acquainted with the world, all that new information raises a lot of intrigue and thus, according to Scientific American, a lot of “firsts”. But as we get older, we generally lack new experiences.

Psychologist William James, in his 1890 text Principles of Psychology, wrote that as we age, time seems to speed up because adulthood is accompanied by fewer and fewer memorable events.

One study states that 20-year-olds felt time quite accurately while the persons in their 70s significantly overestimated the time (they said, that the time has passed much faster). The mentioned Scientific American article points out the following:

“How fast did the last 10 years pass for you?” yielded a tendency for the perception of the speed of time (in the last decade, anyway) to increase with age; this pattern peaked at age 50, however, and remained steady until the mid-90s.

Latest technologies changing the concept of time– A few recently done studies state that social networks and smart devices are “stealing” our time more than we think about it. We are always checking the latest news or messages, often wasting time, and we become new technologies’ hostages. In fact, a 2013 Internet Trends report by Kleiner Perkins Caufield & Byers shows that people check their phones up to 150 times a day. According to RawHide, “Every year, teens spend almost 7 full work days taking selfies.”

Stanford University psychologist Dr. Phillip Zimbardo believes that social networking is actually changing the concept of time, and how we take it.

So maybe if you are constantly online but can’t understand where the time passed, log off and enjoy your life without the blue screens.

Joan Rivers said it perfectly: “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is God’s gift, that’s why we call it the present.”

Past, present, future– However, if you don’t want tomorrow to be a mystery, you should realize that every moment is now, because the past and future concepts become one. The essence lies in the fact that every event in the past and the future is and will be affected by what we do now.

As G.I. Gurdjieff explained: “In order to know the future it is necessary first to know the present in all its details, as well as to know the past. Today is what it is because yesterday was what it was. And if today is like yesterday, tomorrow will be like today. If you want tomorrow to be different you must make today different.”

 

Straight Talk With Danice

Our marriage isn’t exciting – A Letter from Brian B.

Danice Akiyoshi

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 By Danice Akiyoshi

Q: My wife has started to make suggestions about making our marriage more exciting.  This confuses me.  I asked her if she was dissatisfied about something in particular and she said no, that she just wanted our marriage to be a little more exciting.  I feel like I’m a good husband and I don’t think we need any changes.  Is she having a mid-life crisis?  We’ve been married for 19 years and our marriage has been good in my opinion.  I’m confused.

A: Your wife should be able to freely make a request like this after 19 years of marriage.  Her desire to have a little more excitement does not mean you are lacking as a husband, nor does it mean she’s suffering from a mid-life crisis.  At this time, I would advise you to take her words seriously and open a conversation with her to discover exactly what she has in mind.  Ignoring her request will be a big mistake and probably cause her to feel that her needs are insignificant to you.  If you’ve been married for 19 years, you already know that this is not a desirable situation.  Give it a try, Bryan.  You might be pleasantly surprised.  If her requests are over your personal limit, that also requires a conversation, but you won’t know until you start the conversation.  Don’t delay.

Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Services. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.

There Are No Magic Pills

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Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

 By Nancy Stoops

There seems to be a pill for everything these days.  The advertising shows us that we can pop a pill and our depression and anxiety will be gone.  Nothing could be further from the truth. All the pills do, is lessen our symptoms.  The problem is the cause for the symptoms is still there.  It looks like all you need to do is take that pill and you will be healed, but it’s not true.  Granted, you may feel somewhat better for the meantime but the pill can only do so much. There will come a time where it is inevitable that you must deal with your stuff, if you are genuinely going to heal.  So I could see how a magic pill could be much less painful, but is really only a temporary solution.

I do understand there are many conditions that do require medication, but I believe low- grade depression and anxiety do not require the use of medication.  I believe there are many holistic approaches that will better serve your needs. My clients will journal, exercise, meditate, and look at the issues that are causing the depression and anxiety in the first place.  I find many times, it is an issue of helping a client correct a false belief system that was acquired in childhood.  So again, it’s about going back to something painful and dealing with it and then finally having the strength to let go of it.

To me, magic pills are like putting a Band-Aid on Cancer.  This just isn’t a very aggressive way to deal with the disease.  So how aggressive are you being with your depression or anxiety?  What are you waiting for?  Decide now is the time to finally get some help and get healed!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T.  Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients; she is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members.  Nancy runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger.    For more information about any of these services feel free to page her at (909) 229-0727.  You may e-mail Nancy at nancyjstoops@verizon.net.  You may purchase Nancy’s books Live, Heal and Grow and Midnight the Therapy Dog at Amazon.com.

History 101

Jaws Released

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On June 20 in 1975, Jaws, a film directed by Steven Spielberg that made countless viewers afraid to go into the water, opens in theaters. The story of a great white shark that terrorizes a New England resort town became an instant blockbuster and the highest-grossing film in movie history until it was bested by 1977’s Star Wars.

Jaws was nominated for an Academy Award in the Best Picture category and took home three Oscars, for Best Film Editing, Best Original Score and Best Sound. The film, a breakthrough for director Spielberg, then 27-years-old, spawned three sequels.

The film starred Roy Scheider as principled police chief Martin Brody, Richard Dreyfuss as a marine biologist named Matt Hooper, and Robert Shaw as a grizzled fisherman called Quint. It was set in the fictional beach town of Amity, and based on a best-selling novel, released in 1973, by Peter Benchley. Subsequent water-themed Benchley bestsellers also made it to the big screen, including The Deep(1977).

With a budget of $12 million, Jaws was produced by the team of Richard Zanuck and David Brown, whose later credits include The Verdict (1982), Cocoon (1985) and Driving Miss Daisy (1989). Filming, which took place on Martha’s Vineyard, Massachusetts, was plagued by delays and technical difficulties, including malfunctioning mechanical sharks.

Jaws put now-famed director Steven Spielberg on the Hollywood map. Spielberg, largely self-taught in filmmaking, made his feature-length directorial debut with The Sugarland Express in 1974. The film was critically well-received but a box-office flop. Following the success of Jaws, Spielberg went on to become one of the most influential, iconic people in the film world, with such epics as Close Encounters of the Third Kind (1977), Raiders of the Lost Ark (1981), ET: the Extra-Terrestrial (1982), Jurassic Park (1993), Schindler’s List (1993) and Saving Private Ryan (1998). E.T.Jaws and Jurassic Park rank among the 10 highest-grossing movies of all time. In 1994, Spielberg formed DreamWorks SKG, with Jeffrey Katzenberg and David Geffen. The company has produced such hits as American Beauty (1999), Gladiator (2001) and Shrek (2001).

 

Need A Plumber?

Pastor Mark Hopper

Pastor Mark Hopper

 By Pastor Mark Hopper

I shared in my last article about discovering a major water leak at our house just before we left town for a week.  I was grumpy to have a water leak but grateful that we discovered it before we left on our trip.

I have built several room additions and helped on construction projects at our church.  I am willing to do repairs on our house, too.  The problem is that sometimes I don’t have the right tools or enough experience to finish the job.

Probably the smart thing to do is call a plumber who has the tools and experience to get the job done quickly and properly.  But, plumbers cost money.  So I thought I would try to fix the water leak myself.

As soon as we returned home from our trip, I changed clothes and got to work.  The leaky pipe was right next to the foundation.  It was the main supply line leading from the street to the pipe that enters our house.

I used my shovel and a hand tool to clear away the dirt and expose the pipe.  Thankfully, the water had dried up during the past week so I wasn’t working in a pile of mud.

I was able to cut the copper pipe below the leak and proceeded to solder a new coupling on to it.  Then I removed the valve leading to the sprinkler system and soldered a new valve on the line.  I also decided to put in a new valve on the main line to the house too.

I must say that it looked pretty good!  Progress was slow, but I was feeling confident that we would have the water on again by the end of the day.

When I got the last pieces in place, it was almost dark.  A neighbor came over to inspect my progress.  When I turned the water on again at the street, I still had a small leak!  After all of those hours digging, disassembling and repairing the water line, I still had a leak.  Bummer!

When we went to bed that night, we still had a leak in the line.  It was much smaller than the original problem, but we still had a leak.  We turned the water on briefly to shower and refill the toilets then turned it off again at the street for the night.

Early in the morning, I went back to the hardware store and got a new rubber gasket that I thought might solve the problem.  No luck – the leak was still there.  Finally, I came to my senses and called a plumber!

The plumber and his helper arrived in a few hours and they were able to fix the leak.  I didn’t feel too bad when I saw that it took him two tries to get it right!  Finally, no more leaks!

I don’t think we really appreciate having running water in our homes.  We turn the faucet and expect water in our sinks and showers.  It is very inconvenient to not have running water.  I am thankful for water that works!

I am also thankful for plumbers who come when we call and have the tools and experience to fix our problems.  Three cheers for plumbers!

I am also thankful that God comes to our aid when we call and that He is able to fix our problems.  A verse in the Bible says, “Let us draw near (in prayer) with confidence to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help (us) in our time of need” (Hebrews 4:16).

If you have a water problem – call a plumber.  If you have a personal problem – call on God.  He is ready and willing to help you in your time of need.

 

Pastor Mark Hopper is from the Evangelical Free Church of Diamond Bar, 3255 South Diamond Bar Blvd.  Sunday services are 9 a.m. and 10:45 a.m.  For more information, call (909) 594-7604 or visit Efreedb.org.

7 Helpful Hacks For Quick Kitchen Cleanup

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Prepare. Eat. Clean up. Repeat. In the kitchen, it’s a never-ending cycle of conquering messes. These seven simple cleaning hacks, tips and products that will cut down time spent restoring order in your space.

  1. Start with the Sink- Before cooking, always empty the sink to make space for washing dirty items, including your hands. Combat lingering odors from garlic or onions by rubbing your hands on your stainless steel sink to remove the smell. Be sure to disinfect the sink first, as research shows that Salmonella and E. coli are found on 45 percent of kitchen sinks!
  2. Find a Fabulous Faucet- Rethink your faucet. Simplify cleanup with a high-arc pull down spout, which provides extra room for large pots and pans, and the ability to reach all corners of the sink. Plus, new spray technologies, such as Moen’s Power Clean, can provide more spray power while containing splash and minimizing mess. Greater force means faster cleanup and less water used on tough-to-rinse foods, like peanut butter.
  3. Make Microwave Miracles- Your sink and faucets are the workhorses of the kitchen, but your microwave is probably next in line. So, what happens if your eggs explode or your sauce splatters? Place a bowl of water with cut lemons in the microwave and run it until the water boils. Let it sit for a few minutes to allow the steam to loosen the splatter and then wipe clean. In the future, always cover your items with a microwave-safe lid, paper towel or even a coffee filter!
  4. Get Creative with Coffee Filters- Coffee filters are perfect for many cleaning (or mess prevention) hacks in the kitchen. They work as a spoon rest, a strainer or a wrap for ice cream cones to catch drips, and can be placed under greasy foods like bacon or french fries to soak up excess oil and cut down on cleanup (and calories).
  5. Go Streak-Free – Tired of the constant fingerprints and streaks on stainless appliances? Ditch harsh cleaners for a simple solution: water and a microfiber cloth, which feature microscopic fibers that pick up more than regular cloths. Better yet, choose faucets and appliances with finishes that repel these unsightly marks, such as Moen’s exclusive Spot Resist faucet finish, which helps resist fingerprints and water spots.
  1. Don’t Trash Food: Dispose It- More than 60 million homeowners rely on garbage disposals to assist with daily kitchen cleanup, according to Moen Consumer & Market Insights. This handy appliance can significantly reduce the amount of trash you create, which means sending less to the landfill and fewer smelly garbage cans! Choose a powerful, dependable garbage disposal, such as Moen’s complete line that quickly and powerfully grinds food scraps, allowing you to spend more time at the dinner table and less time at the sink.
  2. Protect the Pantry- Most pantry doors are shut for a reason — there’s a mess lurking in there! From sugar spills to syrup leaks, many shelves are a sticky situation. Non-adhesive shelf liners are an ideal solution for easy cleanup. The solid surface will help contain spills and, since they’re machine-washable, you can toss the liner in the wash and re-use it.

Life in the kitchen is messy, but with a few tips and updates, cleanup can be a breeze.

 

Did You Know?

How Banks And Other Businesses Can  Avoid Becoming Cyber-Crime Victims

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In February, Bangladesh’s central bank saw $81 million disappear out a virtual window. Now it’s been revealed that, although the computer hackers used custom-made malware, they probably didn’t need to work up a cyber sweat while pulling off their long-distance theft. The bank had no firewalls to defend against intruders and its computers were linked to global-financial networks through second-hand routers that cost $10.

Apparently, the heist couldn’t have been any simpler if it had been drawn up in the lunch line at an elementary school cafeteria.

“It’s stunning that a major institution would leave itself so defenseless in this day and age when everyone should know that cyber criminals are waiting for you to let your guard down,” says Gary S. Miliefsky, CEO of SnoopWall (www.snoopwall.com), a company that specializes in cyber security.

But he says the episode can serve as a cautionary tale for other banks and any businesses that want to protect themselves against today’s cyber versions of Bonnie and Clyde.

“Most companies have some vulnerability and it doesn’t take a sophisticated attack to cause a security breach,” Miliefsky says. “Often on the hackers’ end of things, it just takes patience.”

For example, he says, a cyber criminal can gain access by sending a company an email with an attachment called a Remote Access Trojan, or RAT, that looks like a normal file. All it takes is for an unsuspecting employee to open that file and, voila, security is compromised.

That’s bad for companies, of course, but it’s also bad for consumers, whose bank account, credit card and other private information is at risk.

Miliefsky says it’s important to go on the offensive. Among his recommendations:

  • Employers need to train their staffs.Those employees sitting at their computers each day are a company’s first line of defense. An errant click on the wrong email is like unlocking the front door, so employees should be made aware of the dangers and told what do about suspicious email.
    • Companies should routinely update their defenses.Outdated technology and outdated security software make a company’s computers vulnerable to attack. It’s important that businesses periodically review their IT operations to make sure what worked last year still provides the needed security.
    • Consumers must take their own safety measures. It would be nice to expect banks and retailers to protect consumer information, but the average person can’t count on that. Miliefsky suggests consumers take personal security measures such as frequently changing passwords and deleting any phone apps they don’t use. Many apps contain malware that can spy on you.

“Most people log onto the internet every day without much thought about how susceptible they are to being hacked,” Miliefsky says. “It takes vigilance to protect yourself against cyber criminals who are working hard to figure their way around security measures.”

Straight Talk With Danice

Buying a puppy without my permission – a Letter from Barb

 

Danice Akiyoshi

Danice Akiyoshi

By Danice Akiyoshi

 

Q: I was out of town for a week when my mother was sick.  I came home to find a new puppy in the house.  My husband gave in to the kids when they visited his friend who had a batch of puppies to get rid of.  I am mad at my husband.  I have always said no to the kids when they ask for a dog because I don’t want the extra work.  He knows how I feel.  Every hamster, fish, or bird they bring home falls on me to take care of.  And a dog is ten times more work with walking and grooming needs.    I promised myself that I am not taking care of this dog or any other new animals.  I am already really busy. Eventually, I believe my husband and the kids will lose interest and the poor animal will suffer.  I am hardly talking to my husband.  Please respond right away, I don’t know what to do.

 

A: Feeling disrespected is a terrible thing and will greatly diminish your relationship with your husband if you don’t get things cleared up right away.  You need to have a serious conversation with your husband that determines the items that are non-negotiable in your marriage.  Adopting pets without your agreement should definitely be on the list. Your husband was 100% wrong to bring a pet into your household without you being on board to participate.  Sit down with him and present him with a list of what it takes to tend to a puppy/dog properly.  If he is willing to be 100% responsible for the dog’s daily care then you should find a way to agree and carry on with your life.  If he breaks his agreement about the care and it falls to you more than three times, get him to agree that he has thirty days to find a new and appropriate home for the dog.  If he won’t agree to being responsible for the care at all, then the same thirty days to find the puppy a new home applies.  When the kids start crying, direct them to their dad.  This situation is his creation and he should be the one to solve it.  Putting you in the position of having to be “the bad guy” in the eyes of your children is also quite inconsiderate.  Deal with that issue as well.

 

The Great and Powerful You

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

By Nancy Stoops

I grew up in love with the movie The Wizard of Oz.  My favorite part of the classic was when Glenda the good witch told Dorothy that she always had the power in her.  She also told her that she needed to believe in her power if she was to make her way home.

So let’s assume that Glenda’s theory is correct for all of us.  What if I was to tell you I think Glenda was not only right but really on to something?  What if you had the power to change yourself and your life?  What if you could actually obtain the life you want and deserve?  Now please understand Dorothy was able to just click her heels three times and she got her wish; it will be harder than that for you.  Your magic will begin with a newly found faith in yourself and in your capabilities, just like Dorothy.  I have found dreams come true when people begin to believe in themselves.

Please keep in mind that you are never too old to change and to grow into somebody you will be proud to be.  It may take forgiving yourself, letting go of all the reasons to fail and looking very deep within for that courage to change.  I personally believe a life of regret is much more frightening.  So look deep within and find that inner strength and confidence.  Take a look at all you have already survived and stop doubting your abilities, intelligence and tenacity.  Each and everyday put one foot in front of another and soon you will be exactly where you want to be.  Just for a moment, close your eyes and think about how great that would feel.  I believe in you and know you can do it!

This article was written by Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T.  Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She has a private practice in Diamond Bar and is currently accepting new clients; she is also a motivational speaker who can inspire your employees or group members.  Nancy runs free family support groups, a group on loss for seniors, and groups on how to manage anger.    For more information about any of these services feel free to contact her at (909)229-0727.  You may e-mail Nancy atnancyjstoops@verizon.net. You may purchase Nancy’s latest books Midnight the Therapy Dog Live, Heal and Grow at Amazon.com.